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NewlyFound88

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I'll start off by saying my name is Cory, I've been a christian for roughly 3 years. Before that I did believe and God, but never really followed. A friend of mine talked to me, and I had decided it was time for me to accept Jesus into my life and be saved. But the big problem in my life now, and this will sound very strange and disturbing but it's true. Me and my sister (We are blood sisters) have been in a relationship for about 5 months, it's a really long story but to sum it up. We had a hard childhood together, and our parents are no longer with us. But we always had a thing for each other, and it's strange but as Christians we should all know it is wrong to judge one another. But we are really happy with one another. We both want to know if it is wrong for us, is there anywhere in the bible that says it is wrong?
 
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sera_ss

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Cory, as a Christian, I can tell you there is Nothing wrong with what you are doing. If God wants you and you Sister to be together then so be it. :) I hope you to are very happy. only the Heavenly Father has the right to judge you on that.
 

damombomb

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Are you feeling convicted if you don,t mind my asking
God bless your walk in Jesus
 
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flight316

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No, no way! Stop now! Its against what God teaches. I understand the situation and I know you love each other. But you can only love each as siblings not as a couple. I know how you feel. Some of my cousins and I have strong chemistry between each other, but God forbids us to ever be involved as a couple. Pray for His guidance.
 

onlinebuddy

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Newlyfound,
I appreciate your openness on this forum, and I pray that God may bring you and your sister to a proper understanding of His will for your lives.

You said that you were reached out to by a Christian friend. Why don't you talk to him about your problem? Still better, why don't you talk to a mature Christian in your church?

Incest was not a sin before the Law was given. However, the Book of Leviticus tells us that God forbids sexual relations between siblings. Science has proved it that the offspring of close relatives carry a risk of abnormalities.

No one on this forum has the right to judge you. It is for you to seek the truth and follow it.
 
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Agree with the above
 

Lucy68

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Are you talking about incest?
 

Lucy68

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If you are talking about incest, and I'll assume you are, there is no gentle way to say this....you are sinning against God.

The New Testament does not mention incest because to these people, incest was such a big offense to God (as outlined in the OT) that they didn't need to mention it specifically. However, it can be called sexual immorality which is mentioned several times in the NT.

The OT does mention incest though it doesn't use that term:

[FONT=&quot]Leviticus 18:6 says, "None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover their nakedness: I am the Lord."

In Genesis 19, the Bible records what happens to a family where two daughters have children with their father. The resulting people...Ammonites and Moabites were not allowed into God's temple:

[/FONT][FONT=&quot]"In Genesis 19, the Bible records the sad account of a backslidden man named Lot. In Sodom, he loses his testimony, his credibility, his influence, his sons-in-law, and finally his wife. He and his two daughters are living in a cave.(vs.30) The two daughters agree to a plan to get him drunk so they can sleep with him and preserve seed of their father.(vs.32)
It is interesting to note that the seed was none other than the infamous Moabites and Ammonites! (vs. 37-38) There are too many Scriptures to list to show their rebellious attitude towards the nation of Israel. Deut. 23:3 says
, 'An Ammonite or Moabite shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord: even to their tenth generation shall they not enter into the congregation of the Lord for ever.' "[/FONT]

Leviticus has some strict rules about sexual relations. And though we (Christians) are not under the ceremonial law, we are still under the morality part...which Jesus repeated in the NT:

11 “‘If a man has sexual relations with his father’s wife, he has dishonored his father. Both the man and the woman are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
12 “‘If a man has sexual relations with his daughter-in-law, both of them are to be put to death. What they have done is a perversion; their blood will be on their own heads.
13 “‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
14 “‘If a man marries both a woman and her mother, it is wicked. Both he and they must be burned in the fire, so that no wickedness will be among you.
15 “‘If a man has sexual relations with an animal, he is to be put to death, and you must kill the animal.
16 “‘If a woman approaches an animal to have sexual relations with it, kill both the woman and the animal. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.
17 “‘If a man marries his sister, the daughter of either his father or his mother, and they have sexual relations, it is a disgrace. They are to be publicly removed from their people. He has dishonored his sister and will be held responsible.
18 “‘If a man has sexual relations with a woman during her monthly period, he has exposed the source of her flow, and she has also uncovered it. Both of them are to be cut off from their people.
19 “‘Do not have sexual relations with the sister of either your mother or your father, for that would dishonor a close relative; both of you would be held responsible.
20 “‘If a man has sexual relations with his aunt, he has dishonored his uncle. They will be held responsible; they will die childless.
21 “‘If a man marries his brother’s wife, it is an act of impurity; he has dishonored his brother. They will be childless.
22 “‘Keep all my decrees and laws and follow them, so that the land where I am bringing you to live may not vomit you out. 23 You must not live according to the customs of the nations I am going to drive out before you. Because they did all these things, I abhorred them. 24 But I said to you, “You will possess their land; I will give it to you as an inheritance, a land flowing with milk and honey.” I am the Lord your God, who has set you apart from the nations.



" God has never approved of indiscriminate sexual activity outside of the marriage relationship in any age of human history. As one writer has noted,


'the fundamental problem with incest [and other extra-marital sexual sins] is that it strikes at the soundness of the family. And since the family is central to God’s purposes and work on earth, his judgment on this practice is fierce'".


People will point out that Adam and Eve's children had to have children together ....but there are things that was allowed early on in the history of mankind that God did not allow later.

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Lucy68

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Cory, as a Christian, I can tell you there is Nothing wrong with what you are doing. If God wants you and you Sister to be together then so be it. :) I hope you to are very happy. only the Heavenly Father has the right to judge you on that.

Incredible :(
 
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dmdave17

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"You adulterous people,don’t you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God." (James 4:4)

We just can't have it both ways, people. You either believe every word of Scripture, or you don't believe any of it. (Lucy68, There I go again. ;) )

God bless.
 
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Ugly

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I forget which book of the bible its in, but one of the churches had an incestuous relationship going on among two church members. When Paul found out about this, he wrote to them saying that the church must call them on it, and they must repent of their sin, or be kicked out of the church if they refuse.

Also you have to consider legally you could never be recognized as a couple. Could never marry legally.

Lastly you could never safely have children. The documentation of incest based deformities among in-breeders is solid. Try researching incest deformities in children and see for yourself.
 
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krs27

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You clearly haven't read your Bible!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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sera_ss

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I just don't see what the Issue is, look at the biblical relationship between,

Abraham and Sara, Abraham married his half sister Sara in Ur. The King of Gerara took her from Abraham and God sent him a dream to tell him that he would be destroyed for taking a woman who already had a husband (God approved of the marriage between the brother and sister).

Don't tell me I don't know my Bible I know it very well, who are we to question the Heavenly Fathers plan for any of our brothers or sisters...
 
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Powemm

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I'm proud of your courage to come before everyone and ask this question.. Because you have you might find someone who has been through it and gain Godly insight and guidance through this journey you are now on... Still, you have to make the choice of wich way you will Go.. I pray God touches your heart , we are not here to throw stones at you, that would not be right... I'm sorry about the pain you had in your childhood.. I can sure relate to the loss of parents and family.. I would suggest getting more familiar with the love God has towards you and for you... I have found in my own personal struggles of being taken from my family and placed in foster care that I turned to people and things the I thought were secure and comforting to all that pain.. It wasn't until I familiarized and came to know the love God has for me that light began shining on what was wrong.. The awesome thing is God can change our thinking so we start heading in the right direction.. Hopefully anyone who has struggled in this area will come up along side of you and show support more than judgement .. you are asking a question because something is prompting you .. Seek out all answers.. I would sustain from sexual encounters as you would in any relationship before marriage... This will protect both of you spiritually and prevent many breakdowns if you find the truth to be different than what you are believing now... I'm so glad you came and felt confident enough in this forum to share your heart hear.. Please ask all the questions you want.. Let Gods word Guide your heart... He is made string in our weakness.
Blessings ,
Michelle
 

Elizabeth619

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I just don't see what the Issue is, look at the biblical relationship between,

Abraham and Sara, Abraham married his half sister Sara in Ur. The King of Gerara took her from Abraham and God sent him a dream to tell him that he would be destroyed for taking a woman who already had a husband (God approved of the marriage between the brother and sister).

Don't tell me I don't know my Bible I know it very well, who are we to question the Heavenly Fathers plan for any of our brothers or sisters...
Since you know your bible so well then I guess we should not tell you that since Adam and Eve were the first man and woman and were told to be fruitful and multiply then it would be common knowledge to know that God "allowed" certain relationships to occur to the sake of populating the planet, but in Lev. God makes it strictly forbidden. This was AFTER Abraham and Sarah.
 
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oracle2world

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If you are talking about a romantic relationship, forget it. It is against the law. If you conceive a child together, the child can end up with significant birth defects. That is why you marry outside your blood line. This is one of those "absolute" lines you can never cross. Sorry.
 
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Powemm

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Remember, if you have to hide anything and can't be transparent about it... Examine it carefully.. Sin likes to hide.. Hunt it out like Gods warrior you are !
 
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Powemm

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You might ask yourself this question... Read jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you days the Lord- plans to prosper you never harm you, plans to bring you a future and a hope..

God tells us to change our mind and believe Him and what He tells us..
Questions to ask about the scripture presented about Abraham and Sarah .. Read it carefully.. Discernment is the key! It says
"Abraham married His half sister Sarah". It is stating what "he" Abraham did.. The serious question to ask is.. Did God tell Him too? Is there any evidence in the Bible where God did? this choice is yours to make as is all of us who are making decisions about smoking, cheating, lying, lust, gambling, drinking, anger, our words, food, tithing..and such.. You are not Alone in your battle the rest of us are slaying Giants too..right along side you ! You just happen to be very brave and courageous about yours.. God is "working out
sin" not working sin in and he is doing a Good work in all of us.. I really appreciate your honest heart, you aren't wearing a mask and being transparent about this struggle with people who don't know you.. man all I can say is dont change that part in your heart!
 
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wwjd_kilden

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You asked if the bible mentions it:

Google result:
Even until the time of Moses, marriage between a man and his half-sister or aunt was allowed (Gen. 20:12; Ex. 6:20). Upon giving the civil laws to Moses and the Israelites, God forbade marriage between those who were closely related (Lev. 18; 20). This was to avoid the degeneration of offspring.

Bible says:
6 “‘No one is to approach any close relative to have sexual relations. I am the Lord.
7 “‘Do not dishonor your father by having sexual relations with your mother. She is your mother; do not have relations with her.
8 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s wife; that would dishonor your father.
9 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your sister, either your father’s daughter or your mother’s daughter, whether she was born in the same home or elsewhere.
10 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your son’s daughter or your daughter’s daughter; that would dishonor you.
11 “‘Do not have sexual relations with the daughter of your father’s wife, born to your father; she is your sister.
12 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your father’s sister; she is your father’s close relative.
13 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your mother’s sister, because she is your mother’s close relative.
14 “‘Do not dishonor your father’s brother by approaching his wife to have sexual relations; she is your aunt.
15 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your daughter-in-law. She is your son’s wife; do not have relations with her.
16 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your brother’s wife; that would dishonor your brother.
17 “‘Do not have sexual relations with both a woman and her daughter. Do not have sexual relations with either her son’s daughter or her daughter’s daughter; they are her close relatives. That is wickedness.
18 “‘Do not take your wife’s sister as a rival wife and have sexual relations with her while your wife is living.
19 “‘Do not approach a woman to have sexual relations during the uncleanness of her monthly period.
20 “‘Do not have sexual relations with your neighbor’s wife and defile yourself with her.