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Hi guys, my wife and I met last year, I was single with a few female friends so was she, we eventually hooked up and I focused all of my attention on her and reeeaaaalllly started liking this her lol she seemed to be into me the same. Prior to meeting her we both prayed for mates, I specifically told God that I would not mess around anymore & would live right. So I stopped and got serious with God.
Eventually after much thought, prayer and counseling my then girlfriend and I decided to marry so we'd do things right and yes we felt madly in love, and as though we'd work well & make each other better. Neither of us had been married before but she does have a child from an old relationship.
I'm starting to feel...well I'm beyond that now I feel like we made a huge mistake now. We used to fight and argue over little things but they have become worse now and the problem evolves around her child.
I love her child to death. The baby calls me dad already and I act like such because the father isn't in the picture right now. I do absolutely any and everything that I possibly can but When it comes to discipline my wife and I still can not agree. Now I feel somewhat hurt because Ive kept my commitment to my wife and to God, and now it seems for nothing because instead of a peaceful home it's complete chaos at times. My wife's moody, then I get moody, the little one is screaming at the top of its lungs when the word 'No' is in forced, then my wife thinks I'm a cruel father etc etc. I believe in respect, I believe in training children and teaching our babies what is right, what is Godly....they won't be perfect (I know) but they also shouldn't be let loose to act, say or do whatever he/she pleases. But not only am I somewhat of an authoritarian I am an extremely loving father. This child loves me, I mean has really become attached to me and I absolutely love it, and just as much do I have to teach what's right & wrong and establish order in wanting the Spirit of God to live there.
Before we married we would talk countless hours about what our beliefs are, what we'd expect from one another, and raising a family as one. We've sat in counseling and discussed it so I was really under the impression that we were BOTH on the same page, needless to say we are NOT!
It just shows me that we have two total different mind sets in raising a family.
It frightens the krap out of me because, I'm looking at the long run; years from now...so I feel like its best we go our seperate ways so that she won't have the issue out of me in the way I see is best for success of my family.
This seems petty I know but this is becoming very painful for me, so please if nothing say a prayer
Eventually after much thought, prayer and counseling my then girlfriend and I decided to marry so we'd do things right and yes we felt madly in love, and as though we'd work well & make each other better. Neither of us had been married before but she does have a child from an old relationship.
I'm starting to feel...well I'm beyond that now I feel like we made a huge mistake now. We used to fight and argue over little things but they have become worse now and the problem evolves around her child.
I love her child to death. The baby calls me dad already and I act like such because the father isn't in the picture right now. I do absolutely any and everything that I possibly can but When it comes to discipline my wife and I still can not agree. Now I feel somewhat hurt because Ive kept my commitment to my wife and to God, and now it seems for nothing because instead of a peaceful home it's complete chaos at times. My wife's moody, then I get moody, the little one is screaming at the top of its lungs when the word 'No' is in forced, then my wife thinks I'm a cruel father etc etc. I believe in respect, I believe in training children and teaching our babies what is right, what is Godly....they won't be perfect (I know) but they also shouldn't be let loose to act, say or do whatever he/she pleases. But not only am I somewhat of an authoritarian I am an extremely loving father. This child loves me, I mean has really become attached to me and I absolutely love it, and just as much do I have to teach what's right & wrong and establish order in wanting the Spirit of God to live there.
Before we married we would talk countless hours about what our beliefs are, what we'd expect from one another, and raising a family as one. We've sat in counseling and discussed it so I was really under the impression that we were BOTH on the same page, needless to say we are NOT!
It just shows me that we have two total different mind sets in raising a family.
It frightens the krap out of me because, I'm looking at the long run; years from now...so I feel like its best we go our seperate ways so that she won't have the issue out of me in the way I see is best for success of my family.
This seems petty I know but this is becoming very painful for me, so please if nothing say a prayer