Old fashioned discipline

[GHW1776]

You really gotta clarify what you mean. Because old fashioned can mean a lot. I know plenty of people whos parents made them pick their own tool to get whipped with while others got a firm talking to and some got grounded which I never hear about anymore surprisingly.

I got two kids. I spanked them until about 3 or so. Never enough to leave a mark or anything. Simply to get their attention and talk with them after.

Now they are 7 and 9. I put them in timeout because it's embarrassing to them and makes them uncomfortable. I no longer spank as to me it wouldn't do much.

I think spanking is good and necessary but some disagree and that's fine. I definitely think discipline has changed with the times and it can be easier to give punishment.

 

[Angela53510]

I think discipline is very important for kids. As important as love, because justice is from our holy God.

I was beaten as a child, into my teens. That is not right - it is abuse.

So, I only spanked my kids with a wooden spoon on their bottoms. A lot of my spoons broke, which made my kids laugh a lot! (They were hockey players, buns of steel.) One day I went to spank one, maybe 12! He started laughing and said I should be careful because I didn't have many spoons left, and all of my kids became hysterical. I ended up laughing, too! That was the last time I used physical punishment. Because it didn't hurt, it became a farce. And they weee getting too old.

I once heard a pastor's wife talking about how to discipline a child. When they are young, be very, very strict. Set down rules, and follow through if they break them. As they get older, they have internalized the discipline, and you have to discipline them less. By the time they are teens, they are self directed and have developed their own sense of right and wrong, which the parent has instilled in them.

The worldly way to discipline children, is let them do whatever they want when they are young, because they'll learn it when they get older. In other words be totally open ended and don't follow through with discipline. As they get older, and get stricter and stricter. They can talk back, and realize you are just pushing them around. They will fight back, be unruly but, you can just get meaner when they are 16-17! Haha! Like that ever would happen!

My husband based our child raising on the Bible. He did not let them get away with anything. By the time they got to be teens, they needed no discipline, because the rules, right and wrong, were internalized. They grew up to be happy, well adjusted kids, with good careers and own their own homes.