Older single children living with their parents....

[Billyd]

Our granddaughter lived with us until she was 21. She moved in with a boyfriend and lived with him and his family until she was 26. When that ended she moved home, lived under our rules, for a year. She met and married a nice young man, and they thought that they were going to move in to stay. We built them a tiny home and moved them in. He works at a minimum wage job that he loves, and she is happy being a housewife.

They will have a baby daughter in a few weeks. We'll see how things work out then.

 

[ResidentAlien]

What are your thoughts on older single children (30s and older) living at home with their parents? I have been thinking about this more recently, wondering if I am offered a position in my parents' city (I am planning to apply at different places), should I live with my parents or on my own?

I would like to hear from both adult children and older parents, as they may have different perspectives.

Do you believe it is more acceptable (less social stigma) for women to live with their parents then men? Are these beliefs valid? There is more pressure I believe for men to leave home than women.

If the adult children are financially able, and if the parents do not need assistance, do you believe the older single children should live on their own? There are some clear benefits to living with parents (such as reduced costs, division of labor, and companionship). However, there is also the risk that the adult child might be too sheltered and doesn't expand his/her wings. Do you believe the the pros outweigh the cons (or vice versa)?

I think it just has to be discussed with your parents. If it works out well for all of you then who cares what anyone thinks.

But I know from experience there can be pitfalls. It just depends on you and what kind of relationship you have with your parents. Do you think you could all get along? My only advice would be to consider it carefully; and if you do decide to move in with them and things start to go south, get out as quickly as possible, for your sake and theirs.

I just noticed this is a fairly old thread.

 

[Mel85]

Not sure where you are from, but in the U.S. people generally like to maintain their own independence. The elderly prefer to live on their own, find love (if single)/date, than to live with their children/grandchildren (also depends on culture). However if they unable to take care of themselves they may reluctantly move in with the children, not that they hate their children but they prefer independence.

I don't think retirement homes are as scary as they used to be. Singles have no choice but to end up in retirement homes one day anyway, once they are no longer as mobile. Retirement homes or senior living facilities are all about providing convience and activities (such as prepared meals, Bingo nights) for the elderly, however most people delay going into these facilities and prefer to live in their own homes because these type of places also cost money. It's cheaper to live on their own.

I’m Samoan but live in New Zealand.

I’m definitely not saying retirement homes are bad lol it just wouldn’t be something we’d consider between my siblings and I. Culturally, we don’t tend to choose that as an option.

 

[I_am_Canadian]

What are your thoughts on older single children (30s and older) living at home with their parents? I have been thinking about this more recently, wondering if I am offered a position in my parents' city (I am planning to apply at different places), should I live with my parents or on my own?

I would like to hear from both adult children and older parents, as they may have different perspectives.

Do you believe it is more acceptable (less social stigma) for women to live with their parents then men? Are these beliefs valid? There is more pressure I believe for men to leave home than women.

If the adult children are financially able, and if the parents do not need assistance, do you believe the older single children should live on their own? There are some clear benefits to living with parents (such as reduced costs, division of labor, and companionship). However, there is also the risk that the adult child might be too sheltered and doesn't expand his/her wings. Do you believe the the pros outweigh the cons (or vice versa)?

This is a personal thing, only you can decide what's right for you in your situation. I was living on my own but because of circumstances, I had to take in my dad last November and he is still here.

Don't worry about other people's opinions, At this point doing the right thing and looking after yourself is more important than caving to people's oppinions

 

[HealthAndHappiness]

LOTs of questions.
It all depends.
Married or single? Saving for down payment on home? In peril? Yada yada Yoda.
Some cultures, it's common to share the household with all generations. However, I see some unnecessary problems occur when a young married couple lives with their inlaws. Dynamics change and adult men tend to butt heads. Sometimes they are even called something like that. 😄

 

[Lanolin]

couples move in with their parents too so their parents wont be lonely when widowed and they can look after their granchildren

the whole judging a single person cos they wont leave their parents home is ridiculous.