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EternalSoul

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Hi! Im perverted i cant stop looking at porn cus i got like 4 hours of the day where i can do nothing but stare into the ceiling, this has impacted my relationship with people around where they can even pick up that im perverted even tho i dont show it its like spiritual information , BUT i kinda dont care at the same time cus i rarely meet people n theres no people to meet;( help me pray thanks
what can i do? I already train alot n it doesnt decrease libido
 

EternalSoul

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Is there anything i can take to reduce libido to silch?
 

Genipher

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Toss the porn portal (if your eye offends you cut it out, right? Get rid of the computer or whatever is giving you access) and pick up your Bible for those 4 hours instead.

Find someone to be accountable to.
 

Tararose

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Is there anything i can take to reduce libido to silch?
We will always struggle with temptation in this world, but God commands us to flee completely, not hang around and try to fight when it comes to sex related temptations. You cant play with fire and not get burned.

The longer you abstain from watching it, the easier it gets, it's a fact, it is neuroscience. You have to practice self restraint, and mostly you do have to retrain your brain, which takes effort, as it is now on autopilot, with the learned behaviour that porn is an acceptable and preferable solution to boredom.

Break the chain, go and help someone with something!

If you have so much free time regularly, volunteer for the Samaritans and help people who have no hope. DO SOMETHING PRODUCTIVE - NOT PERVERTED.

There is bound to be something you can get involved with that can give you an emotional boost and stimulate your brain in a way that rewards you enough to want to make it replace a dirty ungodly habit.

Make yourself accountable to someone mature and Godly, who wont just say ah well we all sin...tut tut... try not to do it again. Someone you care about letting down.

Bare in mind many porn stars are forced into it and suffer all kinds of abuse. The people you think are having a good time could be wanting to kill themselves because of what they are being made to endure to survive. The industry has opened up a gateway to children being abused for other peoples pleasure too. lastly you will ultimately become affected when it comes to a real life sex witin a marriage situation and can ruin a relationship and make your partner feel like trash if they find out you are engaging in this.

These truthful thoughts can help reprogram your mind, along with the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

I hope some of this helps.
 

SomeDisciple

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Is your spiritual status still unsure? Because that's probably the issue right there.
Believe...
-In his grace and mercy
-That he died to wash away your sin
-That he rewards those who diligently seek him (which you have 4 HOURS A DAY to do)
-That his Holy Spirit will sanctify you and change the desires of your heart.

Call on the name of the Lord and be saved, man.
 

EternalSoul

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Is your spiritual status still unsure? Because that's probably the issue right there.
Believe...
-In his grace and mercy
-That he died to wash away your sin
-That he rewards those who diligently seek him (which you have 4 HOURS A DAY to do)
-That his Holy Spirit will sanctify you and change the desires of your heart.

Call on the name of the Lord and be saved, man.
No my status was never that, i misclicked it on the info

Please god forgive me for being perverse im probably of the last perverse generation and will go to hell for this..
even tho i repent im such a bad example of being a christian are we all so?
 

PennEd

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No my status was never that, i misclicked it on the info

Please god forgive me for being perverse im probably of the last perverse generation and will go to hell for this..
even tho i repent im such a bad example of being a christian are we all so?
If you are serious about wanting to stop, this video is very helpful:

 

Lanolin

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you mum is going to be disappointed in you

when you say you 'cant stop looking at porn' is someone there forcing you to watch it? Dont believe a lie!

YOU CAN STOP.

also, if you are reading this you can read words in a book (not just pictures). A book is something that has pages you can turn, they are found in libraries and bookshops.

One that christians read is called the Holy Bible. But you can read any book that interests you so Im a going to suggest a title like 1001 things to make and do.

Library books are free to borrow you just need a library card (ask the librarian) the way they work is you go to the library and pick some out, take them home to read and then return them back to library once you finished reading them. Then you can borrow more.

Tip choose thicker books as they will take more than 4 hours to read.
 

SomeDisciple

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No my status was never that, i misclicked it on the info

Please god forgive me for being perverse im probably of the last perverse generation and will go to hell for this..
even tho i repent im such a bad example of being a christian are we all so?
The "last perverse generation"...? No. It's going to be sodom and gommorah on this planet until the heavens pass away with a loud noise and the earth turns into a puddle of lava.

You don't need that "I'm probably going to hell" nonsense. Jesus said if you believe on him, you're not going there- so when you say you're probably going there- that doesn't sound like believing, it sounds like the opposite of believing. In fact sounds very "unsure" to me.

What I'm saying isn't meant to sound condescending in any way- I know that it's cold logic, but it's true- if you are believing then there is no way you are going to be left stuck in this condition.
 

SomeDisciple

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... I'm definitely not saying that you're wrong for being conscious about sin. But it becomes problematic when you start doubting your salvation- because when your peace is gone, you'll naturally try to find solace in sin if you dont think God will save you from it- and from there it's a downward spiral because turning to sin will make you even more unsure! You aren't going to get anywhere without God's assurance. No amount of keeping yourself busy or being accountable to someone can substitute for that. If you really want to sin you'll make the time to sin, and you'll find a way around accountability because only God can account for what is in your mind.
 
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Hi! Im perverted i cant stop looking at porn cus i got like 4 hours of the day where i can do nothing but stare into the ceiling, this has impacted my relationship with people around where they can even pick up that im perverted even tho i dont show it its like spiritual information , BUT i kinda dont care at the same time cus i rarely meet people n theres no people to meet;( help me pray thanks
what can i do? I already train alot n it doesnt decrease libido
See a doctor hun. You can pray all day, but if your not praying to change, what's the point? I just pray you dont have kids with this type of behavior. God bless you hun
 

Mii

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Have you tried removing your easy access to it?

A flip phone for example or cancelling the internet and using the local library? If you are in the U.S I know some cheap services that can utilize flip phones and they do actually have advantages. You can get them off Ebay or just buy a gophone from Kroger/Walmart etc. and pay someone to unlock for $10 and then get service for as low as $15/month for unlimited calls/text. Pretty decent.


Huge steps and it does create a lot of inconvenient situations but you can also have a smartphone that doesn't have phone service and just use it for wifi at places like McDonalds/CFA/Libraries/Starbucks/Dunkin etc etc. If you happen to be in a bind and need to get a hotel room or something and use the flip phone for calls/texts.


I could probably provide step-by-step directions for the inconveniences you might suffer from not having a smartphone or internet.


You say you already train...can you add more training? Like an extra run or cold showers?

Or perhaps put yourself in a situation that you find unarousing like a communal living situation with other men perhaps.


Your "drive" does lessen eventually but it takes a LONG time so you gotta just try to guard and cut off access how you can at each individual time.


I've had/have my issues in purity so I realize how challenging this is and how hopeless or impossible it can seem. Just don't let your failures get you down too much. It's a process.




Even if you had a job where you had to use an app (like uber, doordash, instacart, etc.) There are solutions to consider.

@EternalSoul
 
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Is there anything i can take to reduce libido to silch?
You sound like me when I was young. I hated my libido and also wondered if such a medicine exists. You are not perverse because everyone is born with this Libido and everyone needs a release. It is tough when your body is ready for copulation but you are too young to get married and support a family. I suggest that you pray to God for help and not being obsessed with your libido knowing that it is a matter of time.
 

Tararose

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You sound like me when I was young. I hated my libido and also wondered if such a medicine exists. You are not perverse because everyone is born with this Libido and everyone needs a release. It is tough when your body is ready for copulation but you are too young to get married and support a family. I suggest that you pray to God for help and not being obsessed with your libido knowing that it is a matter of time.
The perverseness is in what the op is choosing to do to relieve their sexual frustrations, not the fact they have them
 
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The perverseness is in what the op is choosing to do to relieve their sexual frustrations, not the fact they have them
So please tell me how he should relieve his male sexual frustration from someone who is not even male. Do you even understand that a female is very different than a male in that regard.
 

Wonderland

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EternalSoul--
Have you engaged in spiritual warfare? Obviously the devil has a foothold in your life, so cover those footholds with the blood of Jesus, and rebuke the devourer who is trying to destroy you.

What was the root of this evil? I'm guessing there are other people in your family who have or still do engage in sexual impurity. Break those generational curses with the blood of Jesus, and claim his blood as your own, destroying all impurity and evil that may have been passed down the generations to you.

Many people misunderstand the idea of binding and loosing. (Matthew 16:19 "I will give you the keys of the kingdom of heaven; whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven.") They think they should bind the demons to stop them from working, and loose angels, which is fine. What many people don't realize is that evil gets embedded into our soul, and we have to "loose" the evil from our soul. You might say, "I choose, as an act of my will, to be pure and holy with my thoughts, words and actions. I loose any evil, perverse, sexually unclean spirits from my soul, and break all soul ties with those I have committed adultery with. I bind the light, life and love of God to my soul, that I would be made clean and righteous in Jesus name." (Isaiah 58:6 gives us wisdom on how this kind of loosing can release the oppressed).

These are just a few ways to engage in spiritual warfare. I recommend getting a mentor who knows how to deal with the devil, and hold you accountable, to help you through this tough battle.

Be blessed,
 

3angelsmsg

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@EternalSoul I have also struggled with this temptation. It may not appear as sinful in your eyes. Is not very easy to overcome. As you have come to Christ in your helplessness. You should keep that connection with GOD and open your spirit to take the power which is available from God. We are made of matter and spirit. Now you should pray to God for love and power to fill your heart and to share it with other. God has made us in this way that we should govern ourselves. Because God gave us an spirit, the spirit needs to take all the power which is available from God to satisfy the soul. Human love cannot satisfy your happiness. You are looking to the wrong source to fulfill your spiritual needs. Love is a spiritual need. And our spiritual needs can only be satisfy by God. We deceive ourselves because we look to other human beings to fill the viod in our hearts. And the key is that we want to receive. To be happy don't give to receive. By watching pornography you want to receive and not give which is very selfish. The dark veil should be lifted from our eyes. This is a heart issue go to the cross and take the life of Jesus and open yourself to the power of God through prayer. Ask for love to be poured into your heart and believe it. And enter the rest of God. Many times we cannot have victory because of unbelief. We go on our feelings. Stay strong.