Sex questions (preferrably ladies only)

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nanabean

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#21
I have debated weather to post on this thread or not....but decided to post something brief.

This may sound a bit silly to phrase it this way....but...

For those of you that are worried about that you won't know what to do etc....I think that making love to your spouse is like speaking a foreign language that you never knew you could speak! Having that wonderful thing between a husband and wife is God designed...and a true gift to share with each other.

I think that it is very healthy for a husband and wife to want to enjoy each other in this way. Being open and honest with each other and communicating needs, wants, fears etc is also important.

If you think back to your first kiss (if you have kissed someone before), then you probably had similiar *fears* then too.


Very, very well said, Grace. I too, hesitated to post on this thread, because I felt the "When you're with the right person, everything is good" speech seemed a bit..... clique'?? But I love how youu worded this....it's so true!!! All that your post says about the beauty of this "togetherness" also makes for a very good reason to wait until marriage too!! (Thanks for making MY post easier to write!!! :D )
 
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Harley_Angel

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#22
To be honest with you, in highschool and college I was rather promiscuous. I had fallen away from God, and did a lot of things I regret. I can honestly tell you, when my husband and I are together, it's a million times better than it ever was with guys I had no feelings for. In terms of the relationship, I would say it's pretty important, not the sex itself, but rather the emotions and feelings shared while making love. It's one of those things I think just makes your relationship even more special. It's so much easier to open up and talk to one another when you are able to share each other's body. Sex definately isn't the most important part of the relationship, but it definately gives it something wonderful. Think of it like frosting on the cake. You don't have to have frosting to have a great cake, but frosting is one heck of a good compliment to it!

Just take it from someone who's fallen down the path of promiscuity...while sex is fun and it feels great, when you throw your body away on just anyone, you end up feeling horrible. You feel guilty, and disgusting, and worthless, and soon all you feel you have worth anything is your sexuality. But when you meet the right person, and you share that love together, it's completely different. I wish I would have saved myself, because honestly, sex isn't worth it unless it's with your spouse.
 
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MusicalMe

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#23
If you think back to your first kiss (if you have kissed someone before), then you probably had similiar *fears* then too.
That's a good point, Grace, I hadn't thought about that before...
 
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i think nearly everyone is nervous before the first time - male or female, christian or non-christian.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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If you think back to your first kiss (if you have kissed someone before), then you probably had similiar *fears* then too.
I hadn't thought about it that way. I was nervous before my first kiss too.
 
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SamIam

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i think nearly everyone is nervous before the first time - male or female, christian or non-christian.

why would anyone be nervous about having sex?? I never was.
 
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MusicalMe

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hahahahhaha uhhhhhh not necessarily
Ok then, sometimes it's different for some guys depending on some situations in some places with some girls. That's a little more vague.
 
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SamIam

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#30
hahahahahah!!! even if i wasnt a guy... i wouldnt be nervous about sex....... In the right context it just falls into place.. no need to be worried... at least thats my theory
 

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but you ARE a guy Sam, so you'll never know what its like for a girl
 
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SamIam

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#32
your exactly right luke! i AM a guy! and no i will never never know what its like for a girl....... its a shame......... i'd make a terrible girl anyways
 
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Lauren

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#33
why would anyone be nervous about having sex?? I never was.
There's a couple of different reasons Sam. Sometimes the first time can be a bit painful for a girl. Also, a girl might be a bit self conscious about herself -- do I look different from other girls, etc. Guys, I think, have more opportunities (from gym lockerrooms) to know what the average guy looks like....girls don't have that.
 
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Harley_Angel

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#34
All my friends are guys, so I can tell you right now, guys might jsut have it worse than girls in the nervous factor. The performance is based around them, most of them feel. They just get lucky because most of the time in the heat of the moment, they lose all senses and can't comprehend full thoughts anyway...but they do get nervous. That always made me feel better, too, knowing that he's got nerves and confidence issues going on, too.
 
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cornerstone

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#35
Great Questions...

First of all God designed marriage and sex so it must be good if it is done in the confines of marriage. Your husband will view sex differently than you.
He is visually stimulated and feels an emotional connection with you through sex. You might feel like you want more a loving, comfort relationship, equating sex with love, and ofcourse your husband does that as well within your marriage, but he is stimulated by you, you respond to his love and attention.
Yes, it is very important, as it unites you as one, your love is a picture to the world as to how Christ loved his church, enjoy him and he will enjoy you.
Talk, communicate, and remember his emotional component of connecting with you is through sex. Enjoy it.
 
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Broern

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#36
Sorry for intruding on your space. I had previous researched and now conducting marriage intimacy seminar in Christian churches. Newly married women had nothing to worry about their first night even if their husband is a divorcee or vice-versa. Consider it as new experience in relationship and be excited to learn more.

In relation to sex for married couples, women will experience in due time, especially when problems on children, family finance, husband's not acceptable attitude comes up, etc., will have less interest on sex although the demand for close relationship with husband prevails. But the satisfaction of the husband's sexual desire is of great importance while in good health or as long as he breathe. Unknowingly, most of the cause of divorce start from not satisfied sexual needs of the husband, although it was blamed on some other factors or problems.Husband who may read this will argue because of his natural tendency but deep inside he became stressed or depressed at times caused by not satisfied sexual needs.

I hope this will help some wife or wife to be in the future, in order to make true to their commitment "to live together till death do us part" and not be counted on the divorce list. Again, please forgive me for intruding in your space .
 
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christine-j

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#37
well i never got the chance to wait till i was married because i was raped when i was 14 i wish i could have i think waiting for that one you want to spend your life with and giving that gift to you husband/wife there is nothing greater (other than children ) but we live in the real world so i can tell you that it helps to talk with that person husband/wife get to know your boundries and your likes and dislikes that all i can tell you dont be afraid to talk about sex with your husband/wife there is no greater bond
 
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JDawg

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#38
Hey people! I can say that I too am a virgin still and proud of it! And I am waiting for my wife so I can say that its only her that gets to have me! There is alot of good things being said on here and I hurt for those who have had problems before. Sorry and Jesus knows ur pain. As for being scared when the time comes for having sex with my wife, Im not going to lie I am scared! Am I all about sex? No not really because its not just about sex! Wow a guy said it?! Yes I said its not always about sex! Sex is a gift from God and I know that an yes it says in the word not to hold it from your wife or wife not to hold it from ur husband! All I really want is to have somebody who knows what love is and shares that love with me! Dont get me wrong I am a guy and I have my moments of cant wait to get some if I can say that but I rather wait for the right one inorder to get some. Learning what true love is from Him! Its awesome and I thank God for keeping me safe and speaking to me when there was times where I could have lost my virginity. For those women who are still waiting and are virgins, just know yall got it going on! Keep it up! For all the fellas there is nothing wrong with being a 20 year old, 30 year old, or even a 40 year old virgin! God does have that special one for u all! I cant wait to meet my bride to be! Grace and Peace to all my brothers and sister in Christ! Love u all! Even though I might not know u! I still love u!
 
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dane_g87

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#39
what is love?
 
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this is a family section. No SEX on this place cause sex is very bad and a SIN! how can you live with yourself knowing a kid might read your post and then want to find out what "Sex" is? May god have mercy on your soul!