sexual harassment and what to do?

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Huckleberry

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I'm generally a "rugged-individualist", "tough-love" kind of
person, however I give women way more latitude than men.
Women are always the ones who get stuck in these situations.
The deadbeat father can live under the radar
and evade his responsibilities, but the mother
is directly involved with her children day to
day and can't just take them with her to a job.
In this particular situation she obviously
can't leave them with their grandmother,
which brings up an important point which is
that this lady was raised in an abusive situation.
She can't even count on her own mother.
That's messed up.
Well praise God she was saved a couple of years ago!
No doubt we've all been in dire situations,
and hasn't God delivered us every time?
Tasha, if you're still with us, just do what you're
supposed to do, and let God take care of the details.
 
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Actually, in a big way, I agree with you. This really isn't the place to come for advice on anything. Especially on this particular forum. (I tend to think Natural Health is equally as useless, but that's another story.) Come here, and you will get all kinds of advice clear across the spectrum. If you're here to get validation, you'll get that as much as you want, whether you should be validated or not. Want a divorce? We can talk you into that no matter what. And along with that you can get arguments.

It really is a bad place to come for advice, however, new folks have no idea about that. But if that's your gripe, how about warning them about that, instead of telling them how stupid they were, especially when what they did that you define as stupid is something they did before becoming believers?

And, yeah, you did the research on what's coming next. I usually do my own research before asking things on this site. I researched for hours ways John could get better use of his hands. Most everything I learned had to do with people maintaining hand strength. You're the guy who taught me the touch-fingers-tip-by-tip 100s of 1000s of times. It's 14 months later. John can now do the "live long and prosper" sign. But he's still touch-fingering. You are capable of giving good advice. I'm asking you to remember your audience. If you don't know them yet, don't be harsh! If you know them, and harsh is required, go for it.

One thing for sure. Most new people who come to this forum are here either because they can't think of any better idea or they just want validation. Coming to you or me for validation is a dumb thing, but coming up with new ideas isn't.
OK, I'll try.
 
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let's seek the peace of God, and then, only goodness and new good things
will happen...new 'doors', new ways of 'growing up, reaching for our Saviours'
answers to what we are seeking...
 

JaaKK

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I am so sorry to hear of this awful ordeal happened to you as a kid and now that you are back into the same situation. I am a victim of rape and sexual assault myself. I understand what you are saying and where you are coming form. It is with deepest empathy and sincerest integrity towards you for what I am about to say; Moving back in with your mom and stepdad was the absolute worst thing you could have done. I am going to pray for you, if you don't mind; " Almighty, Abba Father, I am crying out to you for this beautiful lady Tasha. She is one of your beautiful creations you have made. I know you love her so much Jesus! I am praying in the Blood of the Lamb, protect Tasha! I plead for her, cover her in the blood of the Lamb and put your crown of thorns around her for protection. Build her up with your Armour of God! The Helmet of Salvation, the Belt of Truth, the Sword of the Spirit, the Breastplate of Righteousness, Fitted Feet ready to flee from all attacks. And above of, let her pray in ALL circumstances continuously. That she may stand strong and wise against all evil. Give her strength and courage to endure. Give her your grace and understanding to know the difference between her choices that will come her way, that she may make the right and best choice possible. You love her Jesus, take care of her!
In Jesus Precious Name, Amen
 
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You could offer him the gospel with prayer, it is the kind of fast that does drive out lying spirits. Seeing no person has received their new incorruptible bodies . The marriage supper will not be here .Our full intimacy will be when we do receive the promise, or you could offer it to your mother, is she a Christian? Or like another poster kick him and tell him he is being slain in the spirit hoping he does no fall back. .

Joh 20:17 Jesus saith unto her, Touch me not; for I am not yet ascended to my Father: but go to my brethren, and say unto them, I ascend unto my Father, and your Father; and to my God, and your God.
 
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Isgaverno

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Unfortunately, I read stories like this way too often :(
 

Dwaqinawa

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I feel you on this one. It's frustrating to see how women often bear the brunt of sexual harassment and end up in tough situations. It's like the deadbeat father who can just evade his responsibilities and fly under the radar, while the mother is left to deal with the day-to-day challenges of raising children and trying to make a living.
 

Lanolin

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Its a same age old story time and again even with the #metoo

But what are we gonna do about it. It used to be all girls knew the story of Red Riding Hood and were savvy about wolves, even in the Bible we are warned about them, but the predators keep preying on the vulnerable

If you stick with God, He'll protect you. It may be hard but Hes really often the only refuge you can absolutely count on. Please dont rely on a mere man to be your protector, and family often let us down.
 

presidente

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Since ai was 11 years old my moms boyfriend has been overly interested in me. Slapping my butt and saying inappropriate things. I told my mom then and nothing ever came of it. I moved out as soon as I could but now I am living with them again due to hardships and he is making me incredibly uncomfortable. Slapping my bitt and asking me to shop him my breast and such. I told my mom and she just shrugged it off. I ask him to stop he my dad and I'm his daughter and he doesn't. Just says were not blood related. I just need advice on what you think can stop this. I don't have anywhere to go right now and being a single mother of 3 I find it almost impossible to find anything affordable.

I felt extremely uncomfortable posting this but it's to that point I just don't know hat else to do.
A women's shelter might take you in. Avoid him. You should keep your daughter away from him also.
 

HealthAndHappiness

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Almost Heaven West Virginia
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The only thing that I can add to what has already been said by others is to talk to your pastor about this immediately. Perhaps he, you and anyone else that might be on staff can talk to a widow or someone in your church who would like to have her burden eased, while helping you and your children. Widows often have an extra bedroom or two available. In exchange, you could pay rent, clean house and help with other possible needs.
I would see if you could get a meeting ASAP. You don't want to end up at a shelter where the situation might be just as bad or worse. Your young children are at much greater risk than an adult assertive woman.