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My brother recently found the love of his life and I am so glad that he is happy. she however comes with a lot of baggage, 3 teenagers. All four of them (kids and the mom) are very selfish, disrespectful and manipulative. I have not found anyone in the family or among my brothers friends who like any of them. We all keep our mouths shut though out of love for my brother. They were just married this past weekend and through the past couple of days it has come to my attention just how much the sister-in-law has manipulated and used our mother to make "her" wedding happen. she has asked to her pay for quite more than anyone should and had her do almost all the decorating and preperation the morning of the wedding by herself, she is nearly 70 years old. On top of that I learned from many attendees that they had offered to help with the wedding and were told that they weren't needed because mom had everything covered. My mother is just about kindest person you would ever meet. She would be horrified if she could not do something for someone who was in need. The sister-in-law figured this out very quickly and consequently gets her to do anything and everything. I just stood by and watched because mom is a big girl and can make her own decisions, we have even talked about the situation and have put it all in God's hands, BUT when mom came running to me at the wedding in tears and physically shaking I am now questioning whether I need to do or say something. I just don't know how to step in without hurting my brother and my mom. Mom just won't stand up for herself and I don't believe God wants her go be a doormat, I don't think that glorifies his name. Any guidance is greatly appreciated.