So Lonely-Purpose of life??

[godsbaby]

Hello i have been married for 2 years.I feel like my husband is much career oriented and most of time I am alone.. and I feel so lonely..I can't leave him.I am really bored of this life. I tried to get other hobbies and make me busy.In week days he spend only maximum 2 - 3 hours with me!! weekend he wish that we should meet other friends and family. He never take initiative in physical relation ship. if i show him i am moody then he will do it. but i can feel that he is doing it for sake!!! He really care for all other family memebers and friends. What all they need and what they like. Ready o get anything to make them happy...
I tried all the way to convince me and think from his side .He is earning for me too.. He is human being so he has his on likes and dislikes everything!! but I really wonder then what's the role of me in his life???

In short i am really bored of this life. I know god has send to earth for some purpose. I really wish if god can complete it soon and call me back.

 

[weakness]

draw close to god and he will draww close to you.maybe part of your purpose from go is to pray for some of these people that your talking about. this is a very important calling from god. I will be praying for you trust the lord Jesus with all your heat God bless you and I pray you would increase in the peace and knowledge of God amen

 

[godsbaby]

Hi,

Thank you so much for your reply.God bless you.
I really wonder as i am really find no purpose in this life if suicide will be a better solution for it.Then i will be back to my lord and my husband will be free from me. I do not have anyone to weep for me. So nothing to loose!!

 

[spirit]

Hello, May I ask how old you are.? When I was growing up , My dad had to work 7 days to feed 4 kids and my mother who was overprotective and fearful and mostly unhappy had to bring us up. What was worse , she could not speak english. Because she never trusted anyone and even us, this made our childhoodvery lonely and it wasn't till we were older that we understood that it is up to us to change and not expect others to fill our void. After 20 years and 2 kids later I am still trying to forgive her, but God forgives us , so we cannot resent the past. Do you have your own family support? Do you like his family, if not you will be more miserable. Maybe you can do some outside activities at helping out at church or a charity you support and meet more people etc. Believe me , if you don't think of yourself , you can't help your husband and you won't be able to find anything outside interesting to talk about. make sure that you also enjoy your work, if you don't work or in an unhappy job, then your day won't be enjoyable regardless whether you are married or not. Ask God for guidance everyday , and very soon you will find a purpose. Trust me. God Bless you and your family.x

 

[godsbaby]

Hi Thank you for your reply.God bless you.

I am 25 years old .I love his family.I have my family support.But due to his job purpose we came to different place and only we 2 is here .I resigned my job to be with him and he never care for my feelings!! i will be really happy and satisfied if those 2 hours he is spending with me is from his heart!! he do it for sake!! That really hurts me.

 

[spirit]

May God give you hope and not to give up. Hope you make many friends in this new place. x

 

[psychomom]

Dear child, I understand the pain and frustration you are feeling.
It's very real, and we ladies want our husbands to want us, and to treasure and cherish us.
This is the very model God set up for us when he called those who have been redeemed (bought back) by Jesus the Bride of Christ. He is our husband, and the way He loves His own is the way one would expect a husband to love his wife.
I have a feeling there is more going on in your marriage than meets the eye, or that you have been able to tell us about here.

I wonder if the Lord might be using this time to draw you to Himself. Without Jesus as Lord of our lives, and the Siprit of God living in us we will always feel that loneliness inside. Ending your life is not the answer, my love; beginning a new life is! You indicate in your profile that you are not (sure abou being?) a Christian. It's such a simple thing to agree with God, once He draws you to do so.
If there is a church nearyou (and I say this with massive amounts of prayer that it be a church where the Word of God is understood) I encourage you to visit it, and to speak to someone there (the pastor?) about why we need a Savior (our sin separates us from God) and what God did to fix this problem (He sent His Son Jesus to willingly lay down His life on the cross, taking the punishment due to us for our sins). They can explain to you that all you have to do is agree with God on those points, and take the free gift of life in Jesus. (they should show you in the Bible that this is so)

I will be in prayer for you, little one. If you need help, there are many here who would be so, so happy to help you. I hope you will count me among their number.♥
~ellie

 

[GOD_IS_LOVE]

Talk to your husband about how you feel. Also it would be good for you to make some friends. Think more about yourself, what do you really want, what solution you see to this situation. Giving up is not a solution. God loves you and He will see you through. Blessings!

 

[RedTent]

God created you to be YOU, different from every other person. Even your fingerprint is different. There is no other person who has just your place in the world, or your work to do, or your problems to use for your growth. All you have to do is find the best way to grow, the best use for your time.

There are things to learn, and people to give your time to. Just one thing is the need for babies in hospitals to be held with love for them. Blind people to be read to. Books to read to help you learn and grow. Classes to take.

You have control of what you let your mind think about. It is seems to go off on destructive ways, then get out your bible and put God’s word in your mind instead. Monitor bad thoughts, listen to them, and when you recognize that they are not good ones tell them you are in control and put in good thoughts instead. Your mind chatters to you all the time, see to that it is good chatter based on God’s ways.

Sometimes this chatter comes from a physical inbalance in our bodies, and doctors can find that out and correct it if that is the cause of constant bad thoughts.

 

[CoreyMBailey]

Godsbaby,

Your purpose in life is to be a helper to your husband and to spread the good news of the Kingdom. Never think of committing suicide...there will be many people who will miss you and God would be deeply saddened. Instead of thinking about the time that your husband doesn't spend with you think about the time he does. Tell him how you enjoy that time. If he's going to help friends or relatives ask if he needs a hand. Be there for him and surely he'll see he needs you alongside him. Do what you can to make his life more fruitful and happy and through that you will find a new peace and happiness. Don't use your moodiness to get what you want, that will only cause more separation and dislike for the activity. Get what you want by making it enjoyable for him. Do it with a loving and positive attitude. Be cheerful, full of life. Praise his good deeds, thoughts or actions even if it be small. Make sure he knows you love him. He would surely like to spend more time with his loving wife who respects him rather than one can just complains to get her way.

Hope all works out well, just give it time and love,
Corey

 

[beloved3]

Hello God's baby! First off let me tell you that i am not married so i cannot imagine how you must feel...also i will not and cannot give you any marital advice. But you are God's baby dear one. You have the greatest lover in the whole universe and He wants to spend all the time with you, to want to know you to be near you and to romance you. Just look at his beautiful creation and you will see in the sky, the beautiful sunset how he whispers his love to you. Look at Jesus and you will see that that love knows no boundaries! He will give you the answers you seek AND THE COMFORT YOU NEED. I agree with the post of Ms Ellie above... There must be more to your concern than meets the eye...talk to someone. There are a lot of women here who offers a friendship you can count on. Please count me in. God bless your dear heart.

 

[Lucy68]

Yes, this is a great time for you to grow spiritually. Do you attend a church or know of a group of Christians that you can have bible study with?

I know how it feels to feel neglected by your husband .

However, my husband works hard to provide for his family and I know he loves me very much. So I've learned how to occupy myself and use my time in a productive way (at least, usually ).

Have you thought about going back to work? It's good to feel needed and a job can do that....not to mention the benefit of added income.

Try to think of some interesting outings that you and your husband can do together...and maybe include other family members in some of these.

I really enjoyed having other couples over for dinner when we were newly married. I don't know why we don't do this much anymore...I think my husband just wants peace and quiet on the weekends after a busy work-week .

Marriage dynamics are different for all couples. It's also a good idea to talk to him about your relationship ....sometimes men just don't see things the same way we do. He may have no idea that you're feeling neglected and lonely.

Also, having a group of women friends can really be nice.

Praying for strength and guidance for you and for a closer relationship with your husband .

 

[Risen]

Pour your heart to God for He cares for you. It will help if you spend time studying God's word and uphold our husband in your prayers.

 

[Tee11]

Hi sister I know it's tough because I'm going through just about the same. Go to Jesus he will give you strength but you must have a open heart to receive it. Loving yourself is important, please never talk about giving up on life God put you here for a purpose and as life unfolds you'll see what it is. You have to travel tough roads sometimes but believe me it will strengthen you. Sometimes we focus so much on our spouses we forget about ourselves, search within and find what makes you happy. We know our spouses have to work but to be honest I think sometimes I get jealous of his work. He works in New York City with the bright lights and action and he loves it. Right now I have a broken leg but I decided when I'm healed I going to do the things I love going out to dinner with a girlfriend, going to a movie, take care for those in need. Things that make me happy don't sit at home find things that make you happy and do them, because if you sit there your mine starts to wonder all over the place. I'm going to be praying for you!

You can message me at anytime! Be Blessed! Stay Strong!

Dear Lord, I pray her husband becomes more understanding to her feels, I pray for her strength, Dear Lord I pray you open up the eyes of her heart to see she is never alone because you are with her. I pray you open her door of happiness. I ask this in Jesus Mighty Name. Amen!