Can someone help me, please! I am living with these lies that I have heard my whole life. I am trying to get out from under them, and seem to find myself unable to do so. It started when I was really young. I would say 'I want' and I would be told 'I don't care what you want'. I would offer my opinion on something and I would get told 'your opinion doesn't matter.' When I was 4, my mom picked my sister and I up from the babysitters, when we got home, my sister told mom that the babysitters husband molested us. Mom told us to stay away from him, and that was all my sister and I could do about it. The next day he did it again. Mom did nothing about it.
I could never do anything right, or pleasing. I always felt unloved and like I was in the way. Unwanted. Mom would go out and drink on the weekends. And send me downstairs to watch tv during the week. She didn't spend time with me. My parents divorced when I was two. I have always felt unloved, unwanted. Unless it was to clean the house, then I was wanted. I didn't get to go anywhere or do anything until the house was cleaned on Saturdays. And it had to be CLEAN. If I didn't do what I was told when I was told, I got spanked, with a 1/4 inch paddle. If I didn't clean something right, I got spanked. If I was sent to bed and my sister and I layed there and talked, we got spanked. You get the point...
So here is my issue.... I am 33 years old, I live with my mom, and I am still going thru the same things. She doesn't spank me anymore, but she does that in other ways. I don't know how to get out from under the strongholds that my mother has placed in my head. I still don't matter, I am still unwanted, and I still feel unloved.
If anyone has any advice please share it. Thank you and God bless you.
I could never do anything right, or pleasing. I always felt unloved and like I was in the way. Unwanted. Mom would go out and drink on the weekends. And send me downstairs to watch tv during the week. She didn't spend time with me. My parents divorced when I was two. I have always felt unloved, unwanted. Unless it was to clean the house, then I was wanted. I didn't get to go anywhere or do anything until the house was cleaned on Saturdays. And it had to be CLEAN. If I didn't do what I was told when I was told, I got spanked, with a 1/4 inch paddle. If I didn't clean something right, I got spanked. If I was sent to bed and my sister and I layed there and talked, we got spanked. You get the point...
So here is my issue.... I am 33 years old, I live with my mom, and I am still going thru the same things. She doesn't spank me anymore, but she does that in other ways. I don't know how to get out from under the strongholds that my mother has placed in my head. I still don't matter, I am still unwanted, and I still feel unloved.
If anyone has any advice please share it. Thank you and God bless you.