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Nivek,
My two cents.
If anything, think of the impact this sort of sin has on your soul. If you got away with this, you will would feel so bad inside. You will have let yourself down, and how you feel with God.
Even when God forgives, you cannot completely remove that sin from your mind. You'll always remember when you did it.
God Bless.
My two cents.
If anything, think of the impact this sort of sin has on your soul. If you got away with this, you will would feel so bad inside. You will have let yourself down, and how you feel with God.
Even when God forgives, you cannot completely remove that sin from your mind. You'll always remember when you did it.
God Bless.
B
I am overjoyed to hear that you are taking positive corrective action. Don't forget to consult her doctor about returning some sense of romance back into your marriage too. Removing yourself from temptation is good but temptation is everywhere. Men especially need the physical expression of love to stay strong. Keep seeking, keep praying and keep loving your wife.
In Christ,
Bishop SEH
In Christ,
Bishop SEH
I
If you have no contact with the person who is the temptation, the power of it over you will diminish as well. That's not the whole answer. Cut off phone calls and emails and all contact. As long as you are married, you are in covenant with your wife. She is also a daughter of the Lord, and a sister in the Lord to you. God will sustain you, however long it takes. People have gotten better from Stroke and regained much of their former abilities, or even all of it....don't give up!
A
I think that is the lesson we all learn the hard way. Every time I see something or someone sin and think to myself "I would never be tempted to do that" God does something to show me that its not MY strength that keeps me from temptations but His.
We have no power outside of God and it is not US that keeps us on the right path but God who protects us and guides us. Whenever we are weak, we can pray and God will lift us up and help us overcome. He has given us all the things we need for a godly life and we have our brothers and sisters to pray and help us as well. Praise God for it all.
I'm so glad you are taking steps to take yourself away from temptation by changing jobs.
2 Peter 1
[SUP]2 [/SUP]Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, [SUP]3 [/SUP]as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, [SUP]4 [/SUP]by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.
We have no power outside of God and it is not US that keeps us on the right path but God who protects us and guides us. Whenever we are weak, we can pray and God will lift us up and help us overcome. He has given us all the things we need for a godly life and we have our brothers and sisters to pray and help us as well. Praise God for it all.
I'm so glad you are taking steps to take yourself away from temptation by changing jobs.
2 Peter 1
[SUP]2 [/SUP]Grace and peace be multiplied to you in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord, [SUP]3 [/SUP]as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, [SUP]4 [/SUP]by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.
N
This situation is teaching me a lot about myself, and the power of prayer and wise counsel. I was feeling powerless to this situation, but prayer and the wisdom of Gods people is helping me tremendously. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I have no doubt I will be. Clothes singed, but out all the same. My heart is filled with joy and my eyes with tears because God is showing me He is not going to let me die.
N
Praise God. Today marked the end of what would have been the biggest mistake of my life. I feel strange because there is hurt involved on both sides. I know the hurt I feel is part of my punishment for getting into this mess in the first place. Now I can focas more intently on healing my relationship with my wife and I. I crave a more intament relationship but I need healing on the inside. I will never forget the pain this has caused, but so greatfull it ended before it caused more perminent damage. Please keep praying for me and my marriage. God Bless...Niveksenoj
Good for you and yes Praise the Lord for showing you that you can ignore Satan and his wicked ways. God is the only thing that matters and you have pleased him.
Dear Father,
I ask that you give nivek101 continued strength in the minutes, days, weeks and years to overcome feelings of lust he may have for another besides his wife. Please give him Joy and Peace and happiness and bless him abundantly so that he knows your love and he never gives up on trying to please you.
In Jesus name Amen
Dear Father,
I ask that you give nivek101 continued strength in the minutes, days, weeks and years to overcome feelings of lust he may have for another besides his wife. Please give him Joy and Peace and happiness and bless him abundantly so that he knows your love and he never gives up on trying to please you.
In Jesus name Amen
...having just come from the polygamy thread..., this may be a slim possibility...
...there is only one way that you can do the right thing and keep your wife and be involved with the other; that is --- speak with your wife about the possibility of having 'sister-wives'... and extending your love beyond the square of the norm in society...
...that is the only way that will work IF you 'both' agree to this and desire this...
...also, keep in mind that in situations such as this; when the wife gets to be part of choosing the sister/wife, that is when it works best --- also, keep in mind, it may cause quite a stir within her; BUT --- at least you are being honest and up-front and creating a workable possibility --- assuming you believe in the polygamy marriage model as an option with consenting partners ...
...not all agree with it, but for those that do, it is not unbiblical --- in the old nor in the new testament ... when you look at the original meanings in text...
...a controversial answer to some maybe, but probably the only one that would work --- assuming you have deeper feelings for the 2nd woman that is not just temporal infatuation...Some women prefer to marry into a family; and will not go near a single guy...depends on the person, but always follow the biblical model...
...there is only one way that you can do the right thing and keep your wife and be involved with the other; that is --- speak with your wife about the possibility of having 'sister-wives'... and extending your love beyond the square of the norm in society...
...that is the only way that will work IF you 'both' agree to this and desire this...
...also, keep in mind that in situations such as this; when the wife gets to be part of choosing the sister/wife, that is when it works best --- also, keep in mind, it may cause quite a stir within her; BUT --- at least you are being honest and up-front and creating a workable possibility --- assuming you believe in the polygamy marriage model as an option with consenting partners ...
...not all agree with it, but for those that do, it is not unbiblical --- in the old nor in the new testament ... when you look at the original meanings in text...
...a controversial answer to some maybe, but probably the only one that would work --- assuming you have deeper feelings for the 2nd woman that is not just temporal infatuation...Some women prefer to marry into a family; and will not go near a single guy...depends on the person, but always follow the biblical model...
N
Please dont take this wrong sir. I refuse to accept that as a viable option on any level. God made me the housband of ONE wife. I may have made a mistake by getting into this mess, but God and wise counsel has shown me the way back. Lust tried to take me out. Gods love and grace is guiding me back home.
...sure; we all have the right to believe and pursue our convictions, and if this was as superficial as you indicate, by all means pray for deliverance and learn to practise the disciplines of inner control --- they are paramount; not only in this area to stay faithful, but also in general, as the enemy will use your weakest point to attack you in, and this is one that is difficult for some to control; but it can be done - control meaning 'right choice' ..., however as I have mentioned in previous posts, there is a science to this, and some of the Chinese have come up with some good practical methods in this regard ...
N
O
look at this trial you're facing as a complete lie. you know that this is not who you are in CHRIST, you are in Christ and this type of temptation would obviously not tempt Christ. this is the same to you because the holy spirit now dwells in you, a holy temple.
Everything that the Devil says is a lie, so if he whispers in to you, "you want to have an affair" you really DONT want to have an affair because the devil is on the outside of the spirit, and the devil is surely not on the inside of the spirit. (remember the spirit lives in you)
therefore, any temptation is to be faced with pure joy, because you know that when the devil tries to trick you, the opposite to what the devil says is truth!
praise god that there can be truth from the devil (as long as you flip is word around opposite)
Everything that the Devil says is a lie, so if he whispers in to you, "you want to have an affair" you really DONT want to have an affair because the devil is on the outside of the spirit, and the devil is surely not on the inside of the spirit. (remember the spirit lives in you)
therefore, any temptation is to be faced with pure joy, because you know that when the devil tries to trick you, the opposite to what the devil says is truth!
praise god that there can be truth from the devil (as long as you flip is word around opposite)
C
Get in the Word, read that Bible, pray and cut off any lines of communication- even if that means quitting your job!
The fact is, you will regret this. Most likely, it only seems exciting because TV, porn and our evil hearts have made us think it's going to be fulfilling, but really it will destroy you. And as you are destroyed your family will be the collateral damage of your sin and their suffering will be great.
Most of all, remember that God hates divorce and hates adultery.
"a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away." - Proverbs 6:33
If that's the price you are willing to pay for a short, disappointing sexual affair, then that is your free will choice to make. But remember, God warned you through His word and when the suffering starts, remember that it was your own choice to spit in God's face and disregard His wise instructions on what choices to make.
I think you made a very wise choice by opening up about this here in a Christian environment... Good choice.. now make another one and sever contact with whoever you are tempted by.
The fact is, you will regret this. Most likely, it only seems exciting because TV, porn and our evil hearts have made us think it's going to be fulfilling, but really it will destroy you. And as you are destroyed your family will be the collateral damage of your sin and their suffering will be great.
Most of all, remember that God hates divorce and hates adultery.
"a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away." - Proverbs 6:33
If that's the price you are willing to pay for a short, disappointing sexual affair, then that is your free will choice to make. But remember, God warned you through His word and when the suffering starts, remember that it was your own choice to spit in God's face and disregard His wise instructions on what choices to make.
I think you made a very wise choice by opening up about this here in a Christian environment... Good choice.. now make another one and sever contact with whoever you are tempted by.
P
Proverbs ch. 7 is something u need to study and meditate on. Sin will take u where u dont want to go, keep u there longer then u want to stay, and cost u more than u want to pay. Id recommend u watch the movie Fireproof and then do The Love Dare. U need to talk to ur Pastor and then talk to ur wife. U need their help and their prayers. If they r true Christians they will help and God will restore and reconcile this marriage into something uve never seen before. Just trust in the LORD!
Im not sure have anyone said this simple advice i heard from my father. "When you find yourself in temptation for affair outside marriage, tell your husband / wife about it as soon as possible." That way the possible affair is no longer secret and it's much harder to make happen. Also if your husband or wife tells about things like that don't be fooled to think that you are losing ground to someone else, instead that you are just chosen before the other one and your partner is trying to keep your relationship in one piece and needs your help.
N
Tonight for the first time sense I have sought counsel on this situation. I am going to tell my wife about the situation. I have a lot of anxiety about it but I feel it is a must. For the most part I have done well by avoiding contact at work with this other woman and seeking employment elsewhere. I wish I could just walk away from the job now, but financialy it would be a desaster for us. I realy need your prayers.