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Only one more thing. It is one thing to confess on a site such as this what you are struggling with, but another to find a person(s) in your church (who you trust and is mature in Christ) and look them in the eye and talk about this desire you have. You need to put voice to what you are feeling in the presence of another Christian.
They can pray for you to be set free from this soul tie you have with this ex - and also that your marriage will be strengthened. If they are praying with the Spirit's guidance, they will probably be led to give you some helpful words, and express Christ's love to you in such a way that your need to be unfaithful will be lessened. Let them be His presence to you. That is what the body of Christ is for.
What you are feeling is not uncommon. Let this just be a wake up call to spend more time with the Lord and really feel His love for you. His Word even tells us to be filled with the Spirit and you will not give in to the desires of the flesh.
They can pray for you to be set free from this soul tie you have with this ex - and also that your marriage will be strengthened. If they are praying with the Spirit's guidance, they will probably be led to give you some helpful words, and express Christ's love to you in such a way that your need to be unfaithful will be lessened. Let them be His presence to you. That is what the body of Christ is for.
What you are feeling is not uncommon. Let this just be a wake up call to spend more time with the Lord and really feel His love for you. His Word even tells us to be filled with the Spirit and you will not give in to the desires of the flesh.
If you are afraid of confronting those emotion in front of another person (which is logical and normal too) have a private prayer with God, in the name of the Lord Jesus and start erasing those names of exs you might have... Six month ago I prayed to be forgiven of those girls I had sexual encounters and, emotionally, it brought great joy in my heart (but I did it in the company of my ex-gf and with a person she introduced me to).
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Ok....I read some of the responses but not all......Maxwel is so right.........tell your husband how you are feeling.....it may hurt him to know you're thinking of being unfaithful.......but better to tell him, and tell him why you feel this way, than for you to act upon your temptations. Great that you blocked his numbers. When he comes to town, be somewhere that he cant possibly know....or be in the WORD......you're a child of God.....temptations come.....resisting them is the best feeling ever!!
It isn't being selfish or childish , immature, ungreatful or slef degrading......to want your SPOUSE to be intimate with you!!!!!
God knew what he wasdoing when He placed those desires in ADAM and EVE........so, Love and affections to your spouse, is beautiful......and is not wrong to long to be with your spouse.......when two christian, God fearing people are married......and share themselves with one another.....it is a beautiful, and deeply enriching part of married Life!
Don't mess things up, by cheating. Nothing will ever be the same if you do.
Praying for Christ to envelope you in His arms and love so deeply ......and that you share this with your husband and work things out.........
God Bless~~
It isn't being selfish or childish , immature, ungreatful or slef degrading......to want your SPOUSE to be intimate with you!!!!!
God knew what he wasdoing when He placed those desires in ADAM and EVE........so, Love and affections to your spouse, is beautiful......and is not wrong to long to be with your spouse.......when two christian, God fearing people are married......and share themselves with one another.....it is a beautiful, and deeply enriching part of married Life!
Don't mess things up, by cheating. Nothing will ever be the same if you do.
Praying for Christ to envelope you in His arms and love so deeply ......and that you share this with your husband and work things out.........
God Bless~~
You have received a whole bunch of responses and even if I didn't go through them all, I think you already know what the right direction ought to be.
However, I will just say this: Next time, please don't get caught off-guard.
You now know a lot about yourself. You know that you're not a "robot"... but that you do have feelings, feelings that may turn into weaknesses if they're not met by the man you're married to... and hence the time ticking bomb; which only needs the re-appearance of an ex to set unpredictable things in motion (things you don't want, but which are now out of your control).
So I say again, please don't ever again get caught off guard. Speak to your husband about what doesn't seem to work, help him, teach him... and in the end he will literally "fulfill" you, so much that you'll never, ever again even think of another man in your life.
However, if the worst were to happen and your husband fails, then think of something else. It may be you entering a journey of transformation that will shape you into some kind of "robot" (i.e. no feelings), or it may very well be a break up with him, God forbid.
Whatever happens, I just want to insist that you must never again get caught off-guard. And one more thing I'd like you to keep in mind: God loves you, yesterday, today and for ever... whatever you do, He will stand by you. And I repeat, no matter what.
All the best.
However, I will just say this: Next time, please don't get caught off-guard.
You now know a lot about yourself. You know that you're not a "robot"... but that you do have feelings, feelings that may turn into weaknesses if they're not met by the man you're married to... and hence the time ticking bomb; which only needs the re-appearance of an ex to set unpredictable things in motion (things you don't want, but which are now out of your control).
So I say again, please don't ever again get caught off guard. Speak to your husband about what doesn't seem to work, help him, teach him... and in the end he will literally "fulfill" you, so much that you'll never, ever again even think of another man in your life.
However, if the worst were to happen and your husband fails, then think of something else. It may be you entering a journey of transformation that will shape you into some kind of "robot" (i.e. no feelings), or it may very well be a break up with him, God forbid.
Whatever happens, I just want to insist that you must never again get caught off-guard. And one more thing I'd like you to keep in mind: God loves you, yesterday, today and for ever... whatever you do, He will stand by you. And I repeat, no matter what.
All the best.
