The need to always be 'right'
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I heard that left handedness is a result of improper potty training. 
Scary thought -- the one in the middle is ambidextrous. He's right half the time. lol (I think he would have been left handed too, except he was the last class of kids who got ruler-to-hand from nuns for writing with "the wrong hand.")
My son had to go to the hospital. When you get a baby you have to go to a woman every month or so who checks them. He didn't use his right hand and it was my fault, I had to stimulate both sides and we had to go to the hospital, he needed to be checked. This was not normal said the woman. Came there. They examined him. He's left handed mrs.
I'm sure for many of us that we learn early in life that some people just have a continual need
to be always right in themselves in whatever the situation may be, especially those who are in charge of us....
I really didn't care or notice this for many years, but when I did begin to observe this, it made me feel a lessness,
because I was just the kind of person who would give my opinion, but if it wasn't accepted, then
I just thought that i must be wrong in my thinking...and that they must be right..
odd?
not really, considering my background and upbringing...
no present parents or any sign of any kind of validation or LOVE...but don't worry my friends,
many years later when my Saviour stepped in and called me to become a member of His Holy Tribe
and abide inside of His precious heart in His real world, then eventually, through many growing pains
and heartaches all of my pain-pity-and lonliness became a long, lost, part of my past that has never again
had any kind of power over me in my new God-Given-Spiritual journey...
well, after 'conversion' when our Heavenly Father begins His early lessons of teaching us what is His exact
rightness is as opposed to the world's exact wrongness and how He demands-expects-requires,
His allegiance in total obedience, well, this is where my Holy Reality truly began to be born, and also when
I also truly started to grow into becoming the real woman of God that He expected me to be.
I was shown that He totally cherished me and so I began to trust and obey what He required
of me to do and to become - my heart belongs to Him, lock, stock, and barrel, and there is absolutely
nothing that I would not do for Him, for He knows that all He has to do is put it in my heart, for I am
one, like many of you, who loves Him more than life itself...
of course I'm leaving out lots and lots of un-spoken words and events, but I just pray that someone will
hear me and feel me as I have been led to share...
GB all of my friends who Love and serve our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ...
to be always right in themselves in whatever the situation may be, especially those who are in charge of us....
I really didn't care or notice this for many years, but when I did begin to observe this, it made me feel a lessness,
because I was just the kind of person who would give my opinion, but if it wasn't accepted, then
I just thought that i must be wrong in my thinking...and that they must be right..
odd?
not really, considering my background and upbringing...
no present parents or any sign of any kind of validation or LOVE...but don't worry my friends,
many years later when my Saviour stepped in and called me to become a member of His Holy Tribe
and abide inside of His precious heart in His real world, then eventually, through many growing pains
and heartaches all of my pain-pity-and lonliness became a long, lost, part of my past that has never again
had any kind of power over me in my new God-Given-Spiritual journey...
well, after 'conversion' when our Heavenly Father begins His early lessons of teaching us what is His exact
rightness is as opposed to the world's exact wrongness and how He demands-expects-requires,
His allegiance in total obedience, well, this is where my Holy Reality truly began to be born, and also when
I also truly started to grow into becoming the real woman of God that He expected me to be.
I was shown that He totally cherished me and so I began to trust and obey what He required
of me to do and to become - my heart belongs to Him, lock, stock, and barrel, and there is absolutely
nothing that I would not do for Him, for He knows that all He has to do is put it in my heart, for I am
one, like many of you, who loves Him more than life itself...
of course I'm leaving out lots and lots of un-spoken words and events, but I just pray that someone will
hear me and feel me as I have been led to share...
GB all of my friends who Love and serve our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ...
M
It's a humbling experience to realise one might not always be right.
The chains are unshackled when one realises it is ok to get it wrong and the sky doesn't fall in.
Its faith building to discover that in Christ there is no condemnation for those who walk His
path.
Its empowering to let God fight our battles.
Its heart softening to discover God's love for us even when we get it wrong big time.
Its a sign of maturity to get to a point where you don't give a stuff what the world thinks as
long as you are right before God. (Can I say give a stuff. By the way I'm still learning
all this).
The chains are unshackled when one realises it is ok to get it wrong and the sky doesn't fall in.
Its faith building to discover that in Christ there is no condemnation for those who walk His
path.
Its empowering to let God fight our battles.
Its heart softening to discover God's love for us even when we get it wrong big time.
Its a sign of maturity to get to a point where you don't give a stuff what the world thinks as
long as you are right before God. (Can I say give a stuff.
By the way I'm still learning all this).
N
This has been a great post chain. Thank you to the OP.
I agree, for me it was very freeing to realize a few things:
1 It's okay to not know everything....it keeps life interesting to be able to keep learning.
2 Disagreement is okay. Just because we disagree doesn't make one "right" and one "wrong". It simply makes us different. Different people, different places in our walk, with different experiences, knowledge and understanding...our ways....and it says in Jeremiah that God gives to each based upon his ways. My experiences, knowledge and understanding are different from others, so of course we won't agree on everything.
3 I am a child of God's. I claim this in His holy name, and no matter what anyone else says or thinks of me....God calls me His.
Peace!!
I agree, for me it was very freeing to realize a few things:
1 It's okay to not know everything....it keeps life interesting to be able to keep learning.
2 Disagreement is okay. Just because we disagree doesn't make one "right" and one "wrong". It simply makes us different. Different people, different places in our walk, with different experiences, knowledge and understanding...our ways....and it says in Jeremiah that God gives to each based upon his ways. My experiences, knowledge and understanding are different from others, so of course we won't agree on everything.
3 I am a child of God's. I claim this in His holy name, and no matter what anyone else says or thinks of me....God calls me His.
Peace!!
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My dreams include not only always being right, but everyone suddenly realizing it, so there is no pressure.
It reminds me of Steve Martin's joke.
I can teach you how to make a million dollars tax free. First, make a million dollars.
I really would like to know what it is like to be right all the time and then everyone believes me. First, be right all the time.
It reminds me of Steve Martin's joke.
I can teach you how to make a million dollars tax free. First, make a million dollars.
I really would like to know what it is like to be right all the time and then everyone believes me. First, be right all the time.
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Tomorrow it's supposed to rain about the time John comes home. Ten days ago, it was supposed to be a lovely sunny day. I have decided it won't rain when he is outside in the weather. I'd like to be right about that. I have no idea if I will be. Not sure if that's self-justifying.
I just like to know what's right and what's wrong. Easier landscape to wade through.
I just like to know what's right and what's wrong. Easier landscape to wade through.
Lynn,
I'm a little suprized at you!, but not at your caring if your baby gets wet; for me, I would
look at it like God was sending a heavenly-washing-away of all that both of your precious hearts
have had to endure and sharing with you His blessed, 'cleansing rain',,,,
but, if the sun does come out and shines upon you, you both are being washed by The Light,-
either way, you are Both-Blessed beyond belief... (((HUGS)))
I'm a little suprized at you!, but not at your caring if your baby gets wet; for me, I would
look at it like God was sending a heavenly-washing-away of all that both of your precious hearts
have had to endure and sharing with you His blessed, 'cleansing rain',,,,
but, if the sun does come out and shines upon you, you both are being washed by The Light,-
either way, you are Both-Blessed beyond belief...
(((HUGS)))ahem... let me introduce you to my mom (whom i love so much).
she knows everything, and has never been wrong.
i assume if it is raining, you won't deny it? or say you knew all along it would rain?
mom's need to be right would have her doing the second, i imagine.
she just can't deal with being 'wrong', like it would be a tragic error... unforgivable.
that's the kind of need to be right that i think often is rooted in self-justification.
when we know we've been justified by God, we can let go of the rest of that junk.
otherwise, we're going about seeking to establish our own righteousness (as if!).
and you're not doing that.
ps-- it's Thursday! happy Thursday to you and John!
she knows everything, and has never been wrong.
i assume if it is raining, you won't deny it? or say you knew all along it would rain?
mom's need to be right would have her doing the second, i imagine.
she just can't deal with being 'wrong', like it would be a tragic error... unforgivable.
that's the kind of need to be right that i think often is rooted in self-justification.
when we know we've been justified by God, we can let go of the rest of that junk.
otherwise, we're going about seeking to establish our own righteousness (as if!).
and you're not doing that.
ps-- it's Thursday! happy Thursday to you and John!
D
Lynn,
I'm a little suprized at you!, but not at your caring if your baby gets wet; for me, I would
look at it like God was sending a heavenly-washing-away of all that both of your precious hearts
have had to endure and sharing with you His blessed, 'cleansing rain',,,,
but, if the sun does come out and shines upon you, you both are being washed by The Light,-
either way, you are Both-Blessed beyond belief... (((HUGS)))
I'm a little suprized at you!, but not at your caring if your baby gets wet; for me, I would
look at it like God was sending a heavenly-washing-away of all that both of your precious hearts
have had to endure and sharing with you His blessed, 'cleansing rain',,,,
but, if the sun does come out and shines upon you, you both are being washed by The Light,-
either way, you are Both-Blessed beyond belief...
(((HUGS)))
Just don't want him or his walker to get wet in it.
Also could use prayers for a parking spot in front of the house, so he doesn't have to walk too far. (Parking around here, particularly on a rainy day, is often done two blocks away. He can't do two blocks yet, and if I stop to let him out, it causes a traffic jam.)
M
My bosses boss always wants to be right and thinks he is right. He is the type of
person who will spend half an hour arguing the rain came from the left instead of
the right - who cares!
Some of the trivial stuff you can just ignore and brush off, but the more important work
related stuff causes much vexation to my direct boss and us stuff. Even when he is blantently
wrong he will make out that there is some lesson to be learnt in it somewhere - a lesson
for us that is, not him. He should have gone into politics.
It use to irritate the living day lights out of me to the degree that in the past I've even had
arguments with him in the office. Then I realised I was being as bad as he was trying to
prove I was right (even though I was right. Lol). So now I just ignore him as much as
it is possible to do. It's a pity we don't have ignore buttons in real life!
My boss still has arguments with him and on occasions and his standard response is
"I'm your boss".
Praise God I don't feel the need to get involved any more in his insane drivel.
Sometimes I think he was sent to test me and remind me about patience.
person who will spend half an hour arguing the rain came from the left instead of
the right - who cares!
Some of the trivial stuff you can just ignore and brush off, but the more important work
related stuff causes much vexation to my direct boss and us stuff. Even when he is blantently
wrong he will make out that there is some lesson to be learnt in it somewhere - a lesson
for us that is, not him. He should have gone into politics.
It use to irritate the living day lights out of me to the degree that in the past I've even had
arguments with him in the office. Then I realised I was being as bad as he was trying to
prove I was right (even though I was right. Lol). So now I just ignore him as much as
it is possible to do. It's a pity we don't have ignore buttons in real life!
My boss still has arguments with him and on occasions and his standard response is
"I'm your boss".
Praise God I don't feel the need to get involved any more in his insane drivel.
Sometimes I think he was sent to test me and remind me about patience.