Hi, I was in a similar position where I was very active in my church,
was part of the worship team and attended a few small groups.
Then life got in the way I had to drop out of most things to take care
of my elderly aunt. I did try to keep going for a while but working full
time while looking after my aunt's needs 24/7 and trying to
satisfy all my good intentioned friends who were inviting me to various
church meetings, just drove me to the brink of despair.
So after a while I decided I would go to church only when I had
the mental and physically energy to do so and not just to keep other
people happy. After all what's the point of going to church so tired that
you can't even remember the service later or concentrate on what is
being said.
Fast forward a couple of years, I still look after my aunt, I now work part
time. Life is still very busy and my days off are usually full of
phone calls, arranging things and dealing with medical visitors for my aunt.
So I still go only when I feel I can manage. Maybe a couple of time a month on
Sundays and maybe one small group meeting once a month.
Do I miss going 2-3 times a week - yes
Do I feel guilty about not going as much - not any more
Do I still have a relationship with God - yes
Do I still keep in contact with friends - yes
Has God zapped me for not going as much - no He understands