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I found the setting to block certain peoples' news feed (unsubscribing) without unfriending them and risking hurting any feelings. They never know, and I don't have to repeatedly scroll past their political rants or their attempts at "making people think" with opinionated meme posters or cynical humor supporting their biased agendas. Ugh.
A person can only take so much.
A person can only take so much.
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I take friendships/relationships very seriously. To be my friend there are certain traits one must have (which are written in my Bible and taught by Dr. Charles Stanley), and of course I don't ask anything more of another that I myself wouldn't bring into a friendship/relationship. I always like to give people a chance, even though I have been burnt so many times and I have trust issues big time, one needs time in order to truly get to know someone. But if just one of those traits are missing then I cannot consider them a friend. It is not being mean, but only using safe guidelines to protect myself and to have healthy relationships with others. If you let every Tom, Dick and Harry be your friend no matter how they act, their character, etc. you run the risk of getting seriously hurt or influenced down the wrong path. No one needs toxic relationships in their lives and God doesn't want us to either.
When it comes to social networks I have always had a lot of problems, especially with Facebook. Too many people on there don't really want to "be friends" it is just a popularity contest to see how many friends one can collect. Friendship is a two way street not all one way or one person always doing the reaching out and communicating. If it is not equally two way open communication then it is by no means a friendship. I have had people want to be my friend and I accept in order to get to know them better, write them and thank them for their friendship request and then never to hear from them ever again...those are the first ones I let go after giving a lengthy time for them to make an effort to be friends. When they show no signs of being a friend, they are the first to go and I give no warnings.
I have let some go that I have given fair warning to due to their language and poor choice of words. As a Christian, one should expect other Christians to talk with a clean mouth and not have a potty mouth (using curse words). I always let them know in a loving way that when they use such words they ruin their testimony for Christ and that I really don't want to open my profile page and see those kinds of things on the news feeds. If it continues, I let them go. I still love them, but I don't need to put up with that and God doesn't want us to either. I feel by allowing people like that on as my friend, what does that say about me and my testimony of Christ. Other Christians could check out my profile page and start clicking on my friends to see what type of people I allow in my life, (I do that when someone sends me a friends request, I check them out), and if they see posts of friends using bad language or posting pictures of half naked people, that is not good. It speaks volumes about my character and my testimony.
So no, there is nothing wrong with un-friending someone and not telling them. 9 out of 10 times guaranteed since they never treated you much as a friend in the first place, they probably didn't even notice that you un-friended them. I also do not think it is right for anyone to post pictures of another when they know how that person feels about their picture being taken, especially if it is an unflattering pic. If they want to post it because of something else going on in the pic that they want to share, then they could have easily cropped you out of it when they knew you didn't want it posted.
Friendships/relationships are a valuable precious thing and need to be treated as such. When someone truly cares and loves someone, their actions will show it. The old saying is true...."Actions speak louder than words"!
When it comes to friends, who needs 100 or more anyway, they are not real or true friends. All one needs is one or two or three really good, close, true friends, and you are the richest person in the world.
God bless and take care.
When it comes to social networks I have always had a lot of problems, especially with Facebook. Too many people on there don't really want to "be friends" it is just a popularity contest to see how many friends one can collect. Friendship is a two way street not all one way or one person always doing the reaching out and communicating. If it is not equally two way open communication then it is by no means a friendship. I have had people want to be my friend and I accept in order to get to know them better, write them and thank them for their friendship request and then never to hear from them ever again...those are the first ones I let go after giving a lengthy time for them to make an effort to be friends. When they show no signs of being a friend, they are the first to go and I give no warnings.
I have let some go that I have given fair warning to due to their language and poor choice of words. As a Christian, one should expect other Christians to talk with a clean mouth and not have a potty mouth (using curse words). I always let them know in a loving way that when they use such words they ruin their testimony for Christ and that I really don't want to open my profile page and see those kinds of things on the news feeds. If it continues, I let them go. I still love them, but I don't need to put up with that and God doesn't want us to either. I feel by allowing people like that on as my friend, what does that say about me and my testimony of Christ. Other Christians could check out my profile page and start clicking on my friends to see what type of people I allow in my life, (I do that when someone sends me a friends request, I check them out), and if they see posts of friends using bad language or posting pictures of half naked people, that is not good. It speaks volumes about my character and my testimony.
So no, there is nothing wrong with un-friending someone and not telling them. 9 out of 10 times guaranteed since they never treated you much as a friend in the first place, they probably didn't even notice that you un-friended them. I also do not think it is right for anyone to post pictures of another when they know how that person feels about their picture being taken, especially if it is an unflattering pic. If they want to post it because of something else going on in the pic that they want to share, then they could have easily cropped you out of it when they knew you didn't want it posted.
Friendships/relationships are a valuable precious thing and need to be treated as such. When someone truly cares and loves someone, their actions will show it. The old saying is true...."Actions speak louder than words"!
When it comes to friends, who needs 100 or more anyway, they are not real or true friends. All one needs is one or two or three really good, close, true friends, and you are the richest person in the world.
God bless and take care.
What is a Facebook Friend?
It's whatever you want it to be.
Some people use FB only as a way to keep in touch with very close friends.
Some people are very gregarious and use it to chat with everyone they've ever met.
Some people use it for business networking (social marketing).
And I'm sure there are plenty of other reasons.
The point is, FB is only a tool, like a can opener; do what you want with it.
So "friend" on FB doesn't necessarily denote anything at all.
It's just the name of a particular code function on the site.
It could just as easily be called something else like,
"associations", "contacts", or "people I know".
So why does it even use the word "friend" for your contacts?
Because they've done marketing research, and found that the
word "friend" has deep psychological attachments for people.
Remember, FB is a data mining tool... your network is data mined,
and that info is sold off for bazillions of dollars. That's why FB is worth
billions, but you get it for free. So, the word "friend" is used for your
contacts... because they NEED your contact list for data mining,
and the word "friend" FREAKS EVERYBODY OUT. They know you'll
have some horrible moral dilemma every time you unfriend somebody!!!
So, what's my point?
Don't go on FB and intentionally hurt people's people's feelings.
But beyond that, it just doesn't matter.
God didn't create Facebook, and I don't think He cares if you use it or not.
: )
It's whatever you want it to be.
Some people use FB only as a way to keep in touch with very close friends.
Some people are very gregarious and use it to chat with everyone they've ever met.
Some people use it for business networking (social marketing).
And I'm sure there are plenty of other reasons.
The point is, FB is only a tool, like a can opener; do what you want with it.
So "friend" on FB doesn't necessarily denote anything at all.
It's just the name of a particular code function on the site.
It could just as easily be called something else like,
"associations", "contacts", or "people I know".
So why does it even use the word "friend" for your contacts?
Because they've done marketing research, and found that the
word "friend" has deep psychological attachments for people.
Remember, FB is a data mining tool... your network is data mined,
and that info is sold off for bazillions of dollars. That's why FB is worth
billions, but you get it for free. So, the word "friend" is used for your
contacts... because they NEED your contact list for data mining,
and the word "friend" FREAKS EVERYBODY OUT. They know you'll
have some horrible moral dilemma every time you unfriend somebody!!!
So, what's my point?
Don't go on FB and intentionally hurt people's people's feelings.
But beyond that, it just doesn't matter.
God didn't create Facebook, and I don't think He cares if you use it or not.
: )
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Unfriending is just a part of life. Sometimes it's required as a boundary for safety. I have tons of friends on my FB but I do very little on the account compared to most. I have friends from highschool, family, and friends and acquaintances from current life. The reason I have so many friends is there are several FB pages which are for the support of people with a medical condition I have. Thus I probably have around 500 friends most I whom I've never met but we provide support for each other.
There are times when I've had to block people. Usually it had to do with things outside of the net. There was a God ordained severing of the relationship. Other times it was because they were continuously posting inappropriate pictures and comments.
I've also been blocked. A friend from highschool blocked me because she don't like my stance on something. That was fine except there was no warning. She had every right to do what she did. If it were me I would have at least warned me first. Another person blocked me in a very unkind way. Basically her motive was to block me was so I could see whatse was saying about me when I confronted me about a way she had hurt me.
There are times when I've had to block people. Usually it had to do with things outside of the net. There was a God ordained severing of the relationship. Other times it was because they were continuously posting inappropriate pictures and comments.
I've also been blocked. A friend from highschool blocked me because she don't like my stance on something. That was fine except there was no warning. She had every right to do what she did. If it were me I would have at least warned me first. Another person blocked me in a very unkind way. Basically her motive was to block me was so I could see whatse was saying about me when I confronted me about a way she had hurt me.
Oh yeah, election time and Facebook was brutal. I learned not to post much political stuff on my personal page. I am part of a few political groups that are closed to the public that I sometimes discuss politics on.
What's funny is I met my boyfriend on election night via Facebook. He had a political page I was a member of that was for local people in my area. He messaged me one night, and informed me that he is close friends with a relative of mine. Come to find out he is close to my family, and his mother goes to the same church I attend, and owns rental houses on my street. yet I've never met him. I asked a few friends about him to see if he was worth meeting up with, and they said he is a good guy so I gave it a shot. We hung out shortly after that, and hit it off immediately. We kept it secret for about a month, and I brought him to my family Christmas party. He walked in with me and aunts, uncles, and cousins mouths fell open. They were all shocked, but happy. At least the fam approves of this guy. I will say that I don't advocate anyone using social networking sites to find love(did that in the past, big mistake). Mine happened on accident, and if it wasn't for him knowing my family personally, and living only a couple miles from me I never would have met him in the first place.
What's funny is I met my boyfriend on election night via Facebook. He had a political page I was a member of that was for local people in my area. He messaged me one night, and informed me that he is close friends with a relative of mine. Come to find out he is close to my family, and his mother goes to the same church I attend, and owns rental houses on my street. yet I've never met him. I asked a few friends about him to see if he was worth meeting up with, and they said he is a good guy so I gave it a shot. We hung out shortly after that, and hit it off immediately. We kept it secret for about a month, and I brought him to my family Christmas party. He walked in with me and aunts, uncles, and cousins mouths fell open. They were all shocked, but happy. At least the fam approves of this guy. I will say that I don't advocate anyone using social networking sites to find love(did that in the past, big mistake). Mine happened on accident, and if it wasn't for him knowing my family personally, and living only a couple miles from me I never would have met him in the first place.
That's awesome! You never know where or when you'll meet a good person. When I first started dating my husband he had to go back to college a couple hours away. This was the dark ages of 1996 when cell phones weren't around as much and long distance was really pricey. If it weren't for this web page he made with a chat room we would have hardly spoken. I have the Penn State university at two seperate locations to thank for keeping us together.
I know many people who've met on the internet. A friend of mine just got engaged to someone she met on match.com. It can be a safe way to interact at a distance, until your ready to meet.
I was recently cussed out by a guy on FB messenger bc I unfriended him. His posts were always about hating liberals and coffee. I counted his posts one morning. In one hour he made 25 status updates. He took up my whole news feed so I deleted him.
Next thing I know I'm being called an angry satan loving liberal(I'm actually far right wing) by him bc I deleted him. I think he is a bit sensitive.
Next thing I know I'm being called an angry satan loving liberal(I'm actually far right wing) by him bc I deleted him. I think he is a bit sensitive.
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ASide from that "unfriending" your wife on facebook as a way to resolve a conflict being ridiculous... dude you have a serious marital problem! What she did was a form of betrayal..and I hope you can hash it out in a way that brings renewed harmony and respect to your relationship as opposed to using facebook... I mean jeeze... would you stand in the front yard and argue about your sexual preferences and how satifying or unsatisfying your sex life was???