First, this man has lost the right to say he is a pastor. I was going to go easy on him, till I read that last misogynist comment. Those are the words of a sexual hedonist.
So, once you think about the fact that he is NOT a pastor, well, you friend is no longer the pastor’s wife. So, please help her and give her any advice you think will help. Plus, the fact that even real pastors and their wives struggle as they are people, right?
As far as remarriage? She needs to go to counseling, and wait a minimum of a year after the divorce before getting involved with anyone. If she doesn’t do these things, she will be “rebounding.” As in, not having learned a single thing from her first marriage.That is a rule of thumb. Look up rebounding, and talk to her about it. Warn her! (I would also remind her that his new marriage probably will not last! Let her think about that!)
As for missionary dating in her fragile and hurt state? Tell her to leave this male friend’s salvation to God, and that she needs to spend the next year getting closer to God. God does not want her stepping off a cliff here, which it sounds like she is ready to do.
I would be gentle, but don’t pretend she is on the right path. Pray with her and for her. Be her friend and love her. But, do not encourage her in any way, or make her think that this unsaved guy is the answer to all her problems. I am sure she feels that way, already. And instead of this guy getting saved, he may well pull her away from God.
So, once you think about the fact that he is NOT a pastor, well, you friend is no longer the pastor’s wife. So, please help her and give her any advice you think will help. Plus, the fact that even real pastors and their wives struggle as they are people, right?
As far as remarriage? She needs to go to counseling, and wait a minimum of a year after the divorce before getting involved with anyone. If she doesn’t do these things, she will be “rebounding.” As in, not having learned a single thing from her first marriage.That is a rule of thumb. Look up rebounding, and talk to her about it. Warn her! (I would also remind her that his new marriage probably will not last! Let her think about that!)
As for missionary dating in her fragile and hurt state? Tell her to leave this male friend’s salvation to God, and that she needs to spend the next year getting closer to God. God does not want her stepping off a cliff here, which it sounds like she is ready to do.
I would be gentle, but don’t pretend she is on the right path. Pray with her and for her. Be her friend and love her. But, do not encourage her in any way, or make her think that this unsaved guy is the answer to all her problems. I am sure she feels that way, already. And instead of this guy getting saved, he may well pull her away from God.