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I dont think I was, but my mom thinks everything I do is disrespectful. I'm 27 yrs old and my mom is so dependent on me it's really ridiculous. Every time I set a boundary with her I get back, "you're do hateful.". "if you loved me, you wouldn't need to do this.". "you know I'm not the best mom but I deserve respect to.". These are boundaries like 1) she's cannot comment on my modesty. I have learned to look for this in other women because my mom would tell me I was immodest in a habit. 2). I told her I was taking a two week break from my phone and couldn't call or text. 3). I tell her to call her pastors wife when she asks me for advice. Etc... I have tried to
separate myself from her, but she will not let go.
Anyway, I spent a few days with her and came back today. I
held my tongue as well as I could though I'm sure it wasn't perfect. Over three days we had a long conversation about tact which began after she called me fat and lumpy. I don't know what she was thinking, but she honestly thought it was ok. My mother weighs over 300lbs. at 5'9" and I'm 139 lbs at 5'4". I really don't get it. Then she told my ain't er house smelled like pancake syrup and urine. Now I addresses the first issue because it directly involved me. I addressed the second because she asked. The next day she said I looked like a Hollywood hooker. It took me soooo long to explain why it was inappropriate.
Then I told her I was speaking at a bible study on saturday about beauty. She started offering opinions and advice and I kindly (but probably abruptly) said, "but I don't need any of your opinions". I didn't say it with attitude. I just said it. I understand why she was hurt, but I'm 27. Don't I have the right to tell met mom I don't want her advice?
separate myself from her, but she will not let go.
Anyway, I spent a few days with her and came back today. I
held my tongue as well as I could though I'm sure it wasn't perfect. Over three days we had a long conversation about tact which began after she called me fat and lumpy. I don't know what she was thinking, but she honestly thought it was ok. My mother weighs over 300lbs. at 5'9" and I'm 139 lbs at 5'4". I really don't get it. Then she told my ain't er house smelled like pancake syrup and urine. Now I addresses the first issue because it directly involved me. I addressed the second because she asked. The next day she said I looked like a Hollywood hooker. It took me soooo long to explain why it was inappropriate.
Then I told her I was speaking at a bible study on saturday about beauty. She started offering opinions and advice and I kindly (but probably abruptly) said, "but I don't need any of your opinions". I didn't say it with attitude. I just said it. I understand why she was hurt, but I'm 27. Don't I have the right to tell met mom I don't want her advice?