What do you do when your child cries or has tantrums?

[GuessWho]

you take him to a mental health therapist as soon as possible he needs professional help it is beyond you now....

My friend deals with this and she took her boy (he will soon be 2 years old) to the doctor (Neuropsychiatrist for children). His tantrums are demon posessed style, very scary, and very dangerous for the child. She gave her boy a sort of sedative (at the doctor's advice) but not anymore.

 

[JosephsDreams]

Sometimes I pray for patience and wisdom. Other times I ignore them. Other times I make it costly to them. Sometimes I will raise my voice. Sometimes I will record them and play back to them what they sound and/or look like.

 

[G00WZ]

When i had my toddler cousins over for a year the one would always throw tantrums over nothing, so what i would do was copy him and pretty much do what he does but louder and way more theatrical. 95% of the time he would stop to look and eventually laugh because of how dumb it looked and he stopped having them. Sometimes i would just ignore the smaller tantrums because i knew he would eventually cry himself out or get distracted by something else because he doesn't have an audience.

 

[stillness]

Thank you all for your responses.

I am reading the book Tears and tantrums by Aletha Solter, and she says that we shouldn't try to stop a child from crying, because he is expressing his feelings of anger, frustrations, sadness, physical or emotional pain etc. and crying is beneficial, just like laughter is; she means the crying that is not related to hunger, thirst, necessity of changing the diaper etc.

On tantrums, she said that we should accept them (which is not the equivalent of giving in) and hold them in our arms (for the same reasons mentioned by Fenner and shrimp - to protect them from harming themselves, us or those around) and let them yell out their frustration and anger.

My girl is only 7 months and a half, so, I can't quite say that I am dealing with tantrums, but her pediatrician said she was a bit hysterical (because she cries and yells when somebody, other than me, holds her), so I got worried and it made me want to get prepared for what is to come.

I can understand your child yelling when someone else holds her, your a godly mother, and you and her have bonded, and anyone else is tyranny presently. You need not be concerned, and I agree that you should be ok with the yelling, and if your ok with it, it's also easier for others to accept. God bless you.

 

[bigjohn]

well,,, having had many reasons to cry in my life,,,it depends on whats going on. a deep disappointment for example can be reason to cry, and a learning experiance. after the fit is over,,, sit down and talk about what happened. talk bout how sometimes we can be very upset if we don't get our way, but there are sometimes reasons why things don't go the way we want them.
this is only one example. but as parents we have to be flexible , find out what the problem is , and try to help them learn to deal with things in the right way.