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Okay, first I would like to start by saying hello to everyone. So, moving to my problem, this particular problem was this past Sunday. We are both in school (online) and had to take our midterms which we each had a two hour time limit. We had many things to get done that day and returned home near 2:00 pm.
My husband, comes to me almost immediately after returning home and says he has to run up to his work to turn on the machines. I said okay, I will wait to start my test until he comes back (we have three kids). Well, I wait for probably a half hour and he still is not home, and I start to worry. (His work is three minutes away)
I finally decide to call and no answer. I wait for approx 5 min and call again. I did this for over a hour. Can you believe not one call. He went to where he typically plays basketball to play and hang out. When he finishes he calls and I was so upset when he said he went up to the court that I hung up. We had many things to do and he partially lied to me (which is not unusual). I had to bring this up to be worked out which is typical, and like always he acted like oops and claimed he felt bad, but I know that is not true. He does things like this all the time. If he wants something, he acts without any regard to me or our kids. He knows I will always be his loyal, loving, trusting (or apparently foolish) wife.
I am at my wits end with this type of behavior. I have tried everything I can think of. We have gone to Christian counseling. I am beginning to question everything. I feel like I am punished every time he does something like this, not him. I do not treat him like this AT ALL. I feel a deep urge to do things to make him feel like I do. I have never done anything to make him hurt, because I love him with all my heart.
I know this example is not that big of a deal, but it hurts me, and time after time these type of actions hurt tremendously. I feel like I do not mean anything to him. How would you deal with this type of behavior from your spouse?
(Behavior: deceitful, inconsiderate, lack of being one, calloused, un remorseful, and no accountability)
My husband, comes to me almost immediately after returning home and says he has to run up to his work to turn on the machines. I said okay, I will wait to start my test until he comes back (we have three kids). Well, I wait for probably a half hour and he still is not home, and I start to worry. (His work is three minutes away)
I finally decide to call and no answer. I wait for approx 5 min and call again. I did this for over a hour. Can you believe not one call. He went to where he typically plays basketball to play and hang out. When he finishes he calls and I was so upset when he said he went up to the court that I hung up. We had many things to do and he partially lied to me (which is not unusual). I had to bring this up to be worked out which is typical, and like always he acted like oops and claimed he felt bad, but I know that is not true. He does things like this all the time. If he wants something, he acts without any regard to me or our kids. He knows I will always be his loyal, loving, trusting (or apparently foolish) wife.
I am at my wits end with this type of behavior. I have tried everything I can think of. We have gone to Christian counseling. I am beginning to question everything. I feel like I am punished every time he does something like this, not him. I do not treat him like this AT ALL. I feel a deep urge to do things to make him feel like I do. I have never done anything to make him hurt, because I love him with all my heart.
I know this example is not that big of a deal, but it hurts me, and time after time these type of actions hurt tremendously. I feel like I do not mean anything to him. How would you deal with this type of behavior from your spouse?
(Behavior: deceitful, inconsiderate, lack of being one, calloused, un remorseful, and no accountability)