When I'm married

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live-love-life

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When I am married I want to have a loving family that can stay together through any trial. We will work together to serve and honor the Lord and we will have fun as a family. We will work like that triangle diagram the closer we get to God then the closer we will get to each other as we work our way up. We won't have to worry about money because that will be an aid. We will be happy with what we have and the love that we share. We will forgive and we will pray. I know I am just going on about all this but I see family as a very important piece of God's puzzle and I honestly want this kind of a family when I get married. Anyone else?
 
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live-love-life said:
When I am married I want to have a loving family that can stay together through any trial. We will work together to serve and honor the Lord and we will have fun as a family. We will work like that triangle diagram the closer we get to God then the closer we will get to each other as we work our way up. We won't have to worry about money because that will be an aid. We will be happy with what we have and the love that we share. We will forgive and we will pray. I know I am just going on about all this but I see family as a very important piece of God's puzzle and I honestly want this kind of a family when I get married. Anyone else?
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Everyone wants that. Even unbelievers in a similar fashion desire this close knit family you described minus God. This is fully attainable with God but He is not just going to hand anyone, no matter how devout, a marriage and family that works this way. As any married person can tell you, marriage alone is hard work, add kids and its like trying to do origami while walking a tight rope in high wind. It can be done but it takes a lot of hard work and dedication.

So what you need is a plan to make this happen. Scripture has all the keys for this. The first step is often the most important and the first step in anything that gives glory to God to to communicate with God. Here is a question for you. When you get married do you plan to only talk to your spouse on Sunday and maybe Wednesday? That is as much as most believers talk with God. Let's say your more devout than that. Do you only plan to talk to your spouse on Sunday, Wednesday and the mornings? A good many believers have morning devotions but rarely talk to God during the rest fo the day. The more you talk with God, and talking with involves both speaking and listening, the stronger your relationship with God is.

Before even thinking about what a good marriage between a man and woman looks like, I would strongly advise you and any other unmarried person to first get a serious relationship with God. Jesus will be our eternal husband so it stands to reason that if you want a solid marriage in the flesh that having a strong relationship with the Lord.

In Christ,

Bishop SEH
 
Fenner

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It took a while for my husband and I to straighten ourselves out (before we had kids) but we are what you're describing , I think. I'm trying hard in a materialistic world to teach my kids the difference between need and want and how God has provided well for us. How we need to share our gifts with the world and the golden rule, we treat others as we'd like to be treated

God bless you
 
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Graybeard

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Everyone wants that but reality is that for marriage to work is a daily work-in-progression. Don't look for Mr/Miss right...be Mr/Miss right.
 
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Everyone wants a family like this. But when the kid needs braces and dog needs a vet, trust me, MONEY DOES MATTER. Like George Bailey said to Clarence the Angel, when Clarence said, "we don't use money up there." And George replied, "Comes in pretty handy down here, Bub!" It's an unfortunate reality of life, I'm afraid.
 
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Graybeard said:
Everyone wants that but reality is that for marriage to work is a daily work-in-progression. Don't look for Mr/Miss right...be Mr/Miss right.
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This is good advice; I really like this answer.

Also, for a marriage to work... earplugs probably don't hurt.

: )
 
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sunnygurl

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That is a truely beautiful desire to have live-love-life and the word says delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart Psalm 37:4

Marriage I believe is like a garden it needs to be tended to, weeded and planted on a daily basis. You both need to be planting flowers of trust, respect, 1 Corinthians 13 love, understanding, compassion, humility, putting the needs of the other before your own, forgiveness, communication, committment, courage, hardwork, etc............

To achieve your desire you need to wait upon the Lord and pray for your future husband that he will have the same mindset and committment that you have in God and marriage. :D
 
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Fenner said:
It took a while for my husband and I to straighten ourselves out (before we had kids) but we are what you're describing , I think. I'm trying hard in a materialistic world to teach my kids the difference between need and want and how God has provided well for us. How we need to share our gifts with the world and the golden rule, we treat others as we'd like to be treated

God bless you
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I like to think that riches and poverty are both blessings. It's easy to see how riches are. But poverty helps shift our focus to God's Kingdom because of the riches we'll have there.
 
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BLINDSIDE_CHIK

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Graybeard said:
Everyone wants that but reality is that for marriage to work is a daily work-in-progression. Don't look for Mr/Miss right...be Mr/Miss right.
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I like that! Dont look for Mr/Miss right...be Mr/Miss right.
 
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live-love-life said:
When I am married I want to have a loving family that can stay together through any trial. We will work together to serve and honor the Lord and we will have fun as a family. We will work like that triangle diagram the closer we get to God then the closer we will get to each other as we work our way up. We won't have to worry about money because that will be an aid. We will be happy with what we have and the love that we share. We will forgive and we will pray. I know I am just going on about all this but I see family as a very important piece of God's puzzle and I honestly want this kind of a family when I get married. Anyone else?
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It's a funny thing live-love-life, but the more you pressure that and expect that and want to control that, the less likely it is that you'll have it happen for real. The only way is 'don't ask for the change, be the change'.
 
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live-love-life said:
When I am married I want to have a loving family that can stay together through any trial. We will work together to serve and honor the Lord and we will have fun as a family. We will work like that triangle diagram the closer we get to God then the closer we will get to each other as we work our way up. We won't have to worry about money because that will be an aid. We will be happy with what we have and the love that we share. We will forgive and we will pray. I know I am just going on about all this but I see family as a very important piece of God's puzzle and I honestly want this kind of a family when I get married. Anyone else?
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this sounds good to me.
and i'm willing to do the hard work.
as long as the wife isn't addicted to drama.
and as long as we agree first about how to bring up the kids.
that's the most important thing for me, that part.
 
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Lucy68

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You've hit the nail on the head with what a good marriage is centered around....God. Good for you!
 
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jinx

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maxwel said:
This is good advice; I really like this answer.

Also, for a marriage to work... earplugs probably don't hurt.

: )
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my husband has mastered the art of pretending he is holding a conversation with me when really he isn't. Just this last week I was talking with him and I realized he wasn't paying attention so I told him that I was going to get a tattoo on each butt cheek and he looked at me and shook his head in agreement.....:eek:

That's when I proved to him that he isn't in the conversation..... LOL
 
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live-love-life

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jinx said:
my husband has mastered the art of pretending he is holding a conversation with me when really he isn't. Just this last week I was talking with him and I realized he wasn't paying attention so I told him that I was going to get a tattoo on each butt cheek and he looked at me and shook his head in agreement.....:eek:

That's when I proved to him that he isn't in the conversation..... LOL
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Lol Nicceeee!!!!!
 
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happygolucky586

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I definitely pray for that often. Sometimes I become a little impatient waiting for that day, but I continue to hope for the best.
 
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dashadow

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Nice post. Just remember to seek ye first His kingdom. I pray you will have the marriage you described. :)
 
David_1

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I'll tell you a tale. My Father's parents (Grandparents) had 3 children. However my Grandfather had an ongoing affair with another woman and even fathered a child with her. My Grandmother chose to stay married to him and chose to forgive him. And they were married right up until the end.

When I first heard this, I thought my Grandmother was foolish.

But now I realise she was probably the strongest person I've ever known.
 
Wonderland

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Live-Life-Love
If you get this marriage my prayers be that you keep it. Share your marriage with others. My saving grace has been the wonderful marriage mentors in my church--real people who struggle like I do and depend on Christ for mercy and grace as I need to.
Be blessed.
 
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