Woman's Role

[Kuroko]

I grew up in a very broken family, so I have about as much first hand experience with decent functioning families as any other person who has watched a few episodes of the brady bunch.

But I think the role of the woman is to be loved by her husband and to pass that love to her children, above all else to love the children and to teach them compassion as a way of love and life. Circumstances may vary between the people but so long as that principle is upheld then the most important things will be preserved.

It can be very difficult being a stay at home mum, but those are the most important years for a child to learn sincere and honest love and that's why I don't think I will have children unless I could fully afford (without any problems) for my wife to stay home and look after them for the most important years of their life.

 

[doodles91]

MAKE ME A SANDWHICH! LOL just kidding...

 

[miles]

Good morning, everybody!!! I am a widow and blessed with a 9 yr-old kid, go to work at 8am and home by 5pm. Base on my personal experience, one of the woman's role is that of being a juggler : )...

 

[minnie123]

i have been a single stay at home mom for almost 9 years now. (i went to college for 4 of those years btw), and when it is YOU and YOU alone that has to raise the children, shopping, cleaning, cooking, there really is no life for you. Your children are your life, if i had a husband who said go ahead and be a stay at home mom, and i will work for our finances, well, ....this just doesn't happen, when men are successful in work, they for some reason beleive that women should be too. A that a functioning, and relatively happy family comes from three basics love, respect, and living not in the poor house. I guess i am old fashioned, but when you have children then you ae on call 24-7, in the last 9 years i have spent about 5 nights away from my children, becuase i don't have a family who will watch them, or a mother who can babysit, (shes al little crazy), so i think everyone should be happy to even have a man to help them with even the smallest thing as reading a bedtime story so you can sit for even 5 minutes alone. "Thank the Lord for everything he has given you in this life."

 

[shanaynay-deleted]

Keep your chin up..your only 28..never know what or who is around the corner.

i have been a single stay at home mom for almost 9 years now. (i went to college for 4 of those years btw), and when it is YOU and YOU alone that has to raise the children, shopping, cleaning, cooking, there really is no life for you. Your children are your life, if i had a husband who said go ahead and be a stay at home mom, and i will work for our finances, well, ....this just doesn't happen, when men are successful in work, they for some reason beleive that women should be too. A that a functioning, and relatively happy family comes from three basics love, respect, and living not in the poor house. I guess i am old fashioned, but when you have children then you ae on call 24-7, in the last 9 years i have spent about 5 nights away from my children, becuase i don't have a family who will watch them, or a mother who can babysit, (shes al little crazy), so i think everyone should be happy to even have a man to help them with even the smallest thing as reading a bedtime story so you can sit for even 5 minutes alone. "Thank the Lord for everything he has given you in this life."

 

[NoTearsShed]

Deary snail, you do seem to have something against the British. I dare say there people like that but you will find them in your own country aswell.

Just one question snail, have you actually looked after a house fulltime with kids?

*hugs*
Please dont mind him i seen a couple of his posts & most of them that i can remember of have had some rudeness or sarcasm.

God might still be working with his attitude...

As for my country anyone can insult it =)
Just because i was born in it doesnt mean i love it or feel that they must respect it.


As for my opinion about the british i dont really have any besides they have a accent but then again americans may have a accent to other countries as well...
All that matters as that we all woship God =D

ps. Babysitting is a hard job!
Unless ofcourse the baby is asleep most of the time...

 

[artistic_dreams]

wanna bet? For mothers, often looking after the kid is the best excuse for watching TV with the kid , or leaving em with granma or the babysitter to go shoe shopping. As a single male I cook, clean, do the dishes , shop, everything, and I still have enough time in the day to work 50 hours a week + have free time. Makes me wonder just what it is stay at home women actually do in a 12 hour day?

when i was a stay at home mom ....i will tell u what i did...i worked my butt off buddy...i did not run around w/my friends. i took care of my 3 children and my home. i did not have time or the money to ship them off to the baby sitter to go shopping w/so called girlfriends...sadly the man i was with was a poor excuse for a husband because he never spent quality time w/his family.hence the reason he is gone...not all mothers are this way. when i became single i went to school full time and i worked part time raising them on my own w/no help from a man...

so before you go dishing dirt on women and how they are poor excuses for mothers...you need to back off and realize that most of us are not like that and that we truely love or children....and we do respect our marriages to not run around as you claim....and we love being home to care for our families....sadly it takes 2 incomes to care for a family....but bless those wonderful mothers that get the luxury of staying at home because they can....and for the mothers that want to work then bless them too for they love their children just as much....

bless you and may the lord pull the negativity from your heart and open your eyes and maybe next time you will think before speaking such harsh and hateful words...

 

[artistic_dreams]

we hang out snail, you got us! just please shhhhh cause I got my husband fooled what with putting the washing machine on the spin cycle just as he walks in the door & leaving the vacuume out i have him fooled into thinking i'm actually doing something.

rofl @imoss....that is too cute....ya i read his post how he does all that stuff for 1 person and works 50 hr weeks...yet mothers never stop working round he clock.....all 3 of my kids were severe asthmatics and in the winter omg they always got the croup..all at once....now try running 3 nebulizers every 3 hours 24 hours a day ,plus all the medications and keeping the humidifiers going and all the housework on top of it..and trips to the docs and ER when we had to call 911 because my oldest stopped breathing.....ya its a never ending job.....but they are healthy and 2 are grown and 1 a teen....so when shes not home i spend my time w/my husband now....im so blessed...

 

[imoss]

praise the Lord, I cant imagine having to deal with sever asthma in addition to all the regular stuff that comes with having kids. I waited to have my boys so where my friends are like you and on the tail end of raising their children my youngest is in kindergarten so I have it all in front of me. I'm tired just thinking about it lol!

 

[imoss]

just read your profile artistic, we pretty much have the same living situation... I live in a cabin in the woods overlooking a lake & I garden & can & all that too. I love harvest time... I think lots about my grandmother when I harvest and I love to sing to the Lord in my terrible voice while gardening. (thankfully only the trees can hear me) I joy life out here although there are disadvantages with being 1/2 hr to the nearest store!

 

[artistic_dreams]

just read your profile artistic, we pretty much have the same living situation... I live in a cabin in the woods overlooking a lake & I garden & can & all that too. I love harvest time... I think lots about my grandmother when I harvest and I love to sing to the Lord in my terrible voice while gardening. (thankfully only the trees can hear me) I joy life out here although there are disadvantages with being 1/2 hr to the nearest store!

well i can say i have earned this home in the woods and all...its going to be my first real garden...my 15 yr old is the only one left at home for me to raise and shes an angel....they all 3 were pretty respectful...boys didnt hit that rebelliousness til they turned 18....then i told em get a job and out the door but they are turning out to be wonderful men now.....so when shes at school yes i have peaceful time here at home to work on my artwork,writings and such...cant wait for the rain to stop so i can start the garden...lol

 

[Pheonix]

I have heard so many opinions of what the role of a woman should be. What is in your heart? What is the place of the woman when married, when single, and when she has children?

I can't really vote on this because how do you classify work?

My mother was a stay at home mom, but she never had a day off in her life. Her job description would have covered about 30 different professions.

 

[MahogonySnail]

Women often pretend to have little time in the day raising children but I bet they're addicted to Dr Phil, Days of our Lives, Ellen, the View or some other American soap or sitcom or something like that. The fact is that contrary to their claims, from 9 to 3 pm, 5 days a week, there are no children around the kids should be at school and if not school then working. If being a full time mother was as much hard work as a full time job, then why are babysitters and childcare centres in such high demand?

 

[imoss]

sorta pity the woman you marry snail. No offense but you have judged something you have no real experience with. Either you are playing the troll in this thread or you truly do feel this to be true. If the latter is true I do feel for the woman who is required to be so much in your eyes & will never do enough because you have a misunderstanding to the work required in raising children & to run a household. You make me thankful for my husband who is thankful for me and who appreciates all I do to try to be a blessing to him & our boys & all who we know. You have a way of lumping everyone together, I 'm sure there are some housewives who act as you have stated... I've just never met one of them. The women I know are busy busy busy... we have gardens, we put up food, some have livestock & all that goes with that, we have special things we have to do with the kids to assist in their learning. I have 45 min daily of vision therapy for my one son & work hard to give my younger son enough one on one time (after Dr. Phil of course) laundry for 4 is different than laundry for 1... you know what i could go on & on but I figure you arent going to get it anyway. I just hope u have a change of mindset before you wed & have children. Yes I shop for 1hr every week, food. I dont get sitters cause I have trust issues but do have a trusted neighbour who takes our kids overnite twice/year so my hubby & I can have a nite out. I take my breaks in Christian Chat to see what I can learn or if there is someone to encourage as this gives me satisfaction that my job once did that I'm doing something outside of my home to benefit myself & others in the Lord. I'm usually only in the forums because chat requires undivided attention which I dont have. I hope God bless's you with super woman! A true wife of nobel charactor.

 

[artistic_dreams]

sorta pity the woman you marry snail. No offense but you have judged something you have no real experience with. Either you are playing the troll in this thread or you truly do feel this to be true. If the latter is true I do feel for the woman who is required to be so much in your eyes & will never do enough because you have a misunderstanding to the work required in raising children & to run a household. You make me thankful for my husband who is thankful for me and who appreciates all I do to try to be a blessing to him & our boys & all who we know. You have a way of lumping everyone together, I 'm sure there are some housewives who act as you have stated... I've just never met one of them. The women I know are busy busy busy... we have gardens, we put up food, some have livestock & all that goes with that, we have special things we have to do with the kids to assist in their learning. I have 45 min daily of vision therapy for my one son & work hard to give my younger son enough one on one time (after Dr. Phil of course) laundry for 4 is different than laundry for 1... you know what i could go on & on but I figure you arent going to get it anyway. I just hope u have a change of mindset before you wed & have children. Yes I shop for 1hr every week, food. I dont get sitters cause I have trust issues but do have a trusted neighbour who takes our kids overnite twice/year so my hubby & I can have a nite out. I take my breaks in Christian Chat to see what I can learn or if there is someone to encourage as this gives me satisfaction that my job once did that I'm doing something outside of my home to benefit myself & others in the Lord. I'm usually only in the forums because chat requires undivided attention which I dont have. I hope God bless's you with super woman! A true wife of nobel charactor.

i have to agree...hes putting down mothers and categorizing them all the same....im sure there are women out there that pawn their children off on others...

you asked why the high demands for babysitters and childcare??? its called people like single moms and dads...and 2 parent households and grandparents all needing them so they can go to work....do you comprehend that one????if u dont work u cant possibly afford them....seeing as you have not experience this then im guessing you have no idea of the high cost of them....here in the states they run in the hundreds a month per child......i get the impression from you that you must have had some bad experience or you just love to stir trouble...after this i refuse to acknowledge your lack of intelligence of things like this again....

you should expend your energy on more positive things instead of being so negative and trying to make other people feel bad about themselves.....being a christian we should be loving and supportive of one another and not cutting others down.....how about you leaving the ladies alone for a change huh? nine times out of ten when someone attacks others like the way you have been attacking the mothers...they have something secretly goin on in their own head that they need prayer for...and i pray that the lord jesus will heal you of that and bring love and peace back into your soul...so that all that negativity will go away...blessings to you

 

[MahogonySnail]

God really created Eve to work in the garden with Adam, not to raise children as a full time job. I think you're both exaggerating your case a little bit. We both know that there are plenty of women in the situation I described. The typical situation is the woman gives up her career to have a child and then decides not to go back to it. So raising the child becomes a full time job, not because it has to be, but because she has no other career option, and she makes it to be.

 

[MahogonySnail]

oh ya, and mothers having issues with what I say normally have secret things goin on in their heads so dont worry i hope God helps you with that too.

 

[carpetmanswife]

I can't really vote on this because how do you classify work?

My mother was a stay at home mom, but she never had a day off in her life. Her job description would have covered about 30 different professions.

That statement says it all!!
never A DAY OFF AND WORKS 24/7 ..THATS A MOM

 

[artistic_dreams]

That statement says it all!!
never A DAY OFF AND WORKS 24/7 ..THATS A MOM

captainswife i agree w/u....but snail will never give up and give in...its obvious hes one of those men thats always going to believe hes right and never wrong...and i just love the way i was called a liar by saying i was exaggerating...never would i exaggerate and make up those kinds of stories about my children tyvm...so let him spout off...hes never been a parent and i feel for the woman that he marrys for he will probably think she does the same thing that all the other women do to..really sad it is...why people have to be so darn hateful....if ur going to be hateful like that then just go away....

 

[MahogonySnail]

and i just love the way i was called a liar by saying i was exaggerating

I think that itself is an exaggeration. You're obviously an accusatory /judgemental type of person who can't tolerate other people's opinions, so let's leave it there, I'm just expressing my opinion like everyone else. Maybe what I said has hit a raw nerve because it's true? hmmm.