Can't You See, There Is Something Wrong With Me.

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Seeking-Christ

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#21
Based on the things you have repeated in your posts I would suggest you start with "How to Win Friends and Influence People." It will help you identify the "something that is wrong with you" and why things have not turned out the way you wanted them to. It is simple to understand and simple to start practicing and guaranteed to bring different results than what you have had in the past. Don't judge it by the title, it has nothing to do with "influencing people" in any kind of selfish desire to be popular or manipulate people. It teaches basic principles that are easy to start using in real life, and it is very inspirational and motivating. Very realistic. Not hype.

It could have been called "How to Win Friends and Help People, or How to Win Friends and Bless People, or How to Win Friends and Make the World a much better place" but "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a good title after you read it and understand what the author means by that.
Ok but there are not a lot of people in my life to practice with...
 

Live4Him3

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I feel like I'm failure in life and a failure for God and a failure for other people. I think it would take a good paragraph to try and explain where these feelings come from. But they are so deep inside of myself, I can't seem to dig them out.
In and of ourselves, we're all miserable failures. However, in Christ, everything changes dramatically.

The truth of the matter is that God loves you with the same love wherewith he loves Jesus (John 17:23, 26). Christ is the head, and you're a part of his body. THIS is how God sees you. Furthermore, God sees you as having been raised up together with Christ and seated with him in heavenly places (Ephesians 2:5-6).

Listen to me...

I know EXACTLY what you're going through.

Truth be told, I was just like you for many years AS A CHRISTIAN. Always feeling like God saw me as a failure, and it greatly affected my prayer life, and just my life in general. Well, it finally dawned on me some years ago that those thoughts weren't coming from God. In fact, they were demonic in origin, and they were the very types of things that I needed to cast down as I brought every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.

II Corinthians chapter 10

[3] For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh:
[4] (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds)
[5] Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
[6] And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.

You've got to stop talking so negatively about yourself and start/continue renewing your mind until it comes in line with what God actually thinks about you IN CHRIST. All the rejection that you've faced from others is NOT a reflection of God himself rejecting you. Scripture says that you're accepted in the beloved (Ephesians 1:6) or accepted in Christ. In fact, you have access to the very throne of grace in heaven through Jesus Christ.

Stop listening to the enemy's lies, and stop repeating them in relation to yourself.

Look, if there's anything in this world that I'm NOT known for, then it's flattery. Especially when it comes to professing Christians because, quite frankly, I doubt that about 90% of the professing Christians I've ever met are even saved.

That said, I do think that your heart is in the right place. Do you need some adjustments? Sure, but I don't detect any guile or deceit in you. You really just need to start seeing yourself as God sees you IN CHRIST.

Do you believe that God the Father loves Jesus?

Well, if you're in Jesus or IN CHRIST, then can't you see how God loves you as well?

Anyhow, you're in my prayers.
 

Gideon300

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That is amazing. But I never got into drinking. But I've struggled with suicidal thoughts for almost as long as I can remember!
There is an old song that says "It is no secret what God can do. What He's done for others, He will do for you". Ask Him to change you. He will. Sometimes it's uncomfortable. Truth hurts before it sets you free. For example, suicide is the ultimate form of selfishness. When I was about to take my own life, the Lord spoke to me. He did not say I understand your pain, or tell me that He felt sorry for me. He said, "How can you do this to your kids?" At the time, I did not know where my children were or if I'd ever see them again. But that word snapped me out of self pity.
 
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Seeking-Christ

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#27
After looking over the responses I have gotten on this very short poem. It makes me wonder if I should maybe try writing my life story again. I always end up talking about my learning disability, that nobody online seems to believe I have due to my writing capabilities. Maybe that's a sign that I'm supposed to be a writer?

Lately, I don't think, that my writing has been very good. I feel rushed.

Writing does not come as easy for me as you might think. When I want to write something good, it involves a lot of thought, and then I haft to write it, and then read it, and then fix it. And maybe re read it several more times, and fix it several more times. I don't like to go through all of that, when I'm just writing a quick comment online.
 

Ruby123

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After looking over the responses I have gotten on this very short poem. It makes me wonder if I should maybe try writing my life story again. I always end up talking about my learning disability, that nobody online seems to believe I have due to my writing capabilities. Maybe that's a sign that I'm supposed to be a writer?

Lately, I don't think, that my writing has been very good. I feel rushed.

Writing does not come as easy for me as you might think. When I want to write something good, it involves a lot of thought, and then I haft to write it, and then read it, and then fix it. And maybe re read it several more times, and fix it several more times. I don't like to go through all of that, when I'm just writing a quick comment online.
I think you are very good at writing. Whether it comes easy to you or not it is still very good.
 

seoulsearch

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After looking over the responses I have gotten on this very short poem. It makes me wonder if I should maybe try writing my life story again. I always end up talking about my learning disability, that nobody online seems to believe I have due to my writing capabilities. Maybe that's a sign that I'm supposed to be a writer?

Lately, I don't think, that my writing has been very good. I feel rushed.

Writing does not come as easy for me as you might think. When I want to write something good, it involves a lot of thought, and then I haft to write it, and then read it, and then fix it. And maybe re read it several more times, and fix it several more times. I don't like to go through all of that, when I'm just writing a quick comment online.
Hi Seeking Christ,

If it's any consolation, I don't think writing comes easy to very many people. You're definitely not alone.

I can only speak for myself, but I usually only write threads when I know I'll have a bit of time, because it often takes me hours to do (and even then, I still miss several typos in my edits.)

I don't know if this will help you, but I've found that most of the people reading these threads are more concerned with what a person is trying to say rather than if how they say it is presented perfectly -- so don't worry too much about trying to get everything "just right."

I don't know if I have learning or other disabilities but other people tell me they suspect that I do. Writing can actually very difficult for me as well. I'm sure many people who are reading your posts understand what it's like, and they may be struggling with the same things, so they get where you're coming from. There are many times when it almost feels like I'm getting a physical headache from trying to "sort the words out" and I have to stop, sometimes for several days or weeks.

So I just wanted to try to encourage you to do what you can or what you would like to do when it comes to writing, and hopefully not feel pressured or obligated in any way. :)
 

Seeker47

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Son, Do You Know

Do you know all the times I call out for you,
Hoping this time, you might hear?
And how I feel when you’re walking away,
On that road of false dreams and deceit.

Do you know how I watch and I weep,
When you slip and fall in the wallow?
And how my heart aches and bleeds,
Each time you wake broken and alone?

Do you know how I struggle with plenty to give,
While you have nothing to eat?
Or how loudly I celebrate and encourage with cheer,
When you struggle, unsteady; back to your feet.

Do you know of my pain and heartache,
When I know you are lost and confused?
And how patiently I wait and how deeply I yearn,
To welcome you back to my rest?

Do you know what I feel when I see you,
Crawling back with your soil and your stink.
Or the joy that I have when I wrap you at last,
In my robe and hug you close.

Do you know how I long to tell you the truth,
For I know and feel what you feel.
You are worth all I have, I count no cost,
Just to hold you near for a while.

Do you know when you leave yet again for your dream,
I will wait and watch all the same.
And will shake all creation with abandon and glee,
When you finally come home forever in me.
 
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Seeking-Christ

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#32
You’re obviously here, so your not in isolation. And if you were, was the done by your own choice? I really hope your not doing this “Woe is me” bit as a way to gander attention.
I can't stand people who think tough love is the way to go online. Doesn't look like you and I can be friends. I don't care what you think. Because I know the truth. In real life I am isolated. Real life is where it counts. Online does not count!
 
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Seeking-Christ

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#33
Son, Do You Know

Do you know all the times I call out for you,
Hoping this time, you might hear?
And how I feel when you’re walking away,
On that road of false dreams and deceit.

Do you know how I watch and I weep,
When you slip and fall in the wallow?
And how my heart aches and bleeds,
Each time you wake broken and alone?

Do you know how I struggle with plenty to give,
While you have nothing to eat?
Or how loudly I celebrate and encourage with cheer,
When you struggle, unsteady; back to your feet.

Do you know of my pain and heartache,
When I know you are lost and confused?
And how patiently I wait and how deeply I yearn,
To welcome you back to my rest?

Do you know what I feel when I see you,
Crawling back with your soil and your stink.
Or the joy that I have when I wrap you at last,
In my robe and hug you close.

Do you know how I long to tell you the truth,
For I know and feel what you feel.
You are worth all I have, I count no cost,
Just to hold you near for a while.

Do you know when you leave yet again for your dream,
I will wait and watch all the same.
And will shake all creation with abandon and glee,
When you finally come home forever in me.
That sounds like a good poem! :)
 
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Seeking-Christ

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#34
There is an old song that says "It is no secret what God can do. What He's done for others, He will do for you". Ask Him to change you. He will. Sometimes it's uncomfortable. Truth hurts before it sets you free. For example, suicide is the ultimate form of selfishness. When I was about to take my own life, the Lord spoke to me. He did not say I understand your pain, or tell me that He felt sorry for me. He said, "How can you do this to your kids?" At the time, I did not know where my children were or if I'd ever see them again. But that word snapped me out of self pity.
I don't have any kids. I don't think that everyone that commits suicide is selfish. I think most people who commit suicide just want the pain to go away.
 
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Seeking-Christ

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#35
This past Sunday, I watched this Sermon. He goes into how a Christian should restore another Christian. I found myself agreeing with him and thinking that almost everyone in the Church today has got it wrong.

 

Aerials1978

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#36
I can't stand people who think tough love is the way to go online. Doesn't look like you and I can be friends. I don't care what you think. Because I know the truth. In real life I am isolated. Real life is where it counts. Online does not count!
I can't stand people who think tough love is the way to go online. Doesn't look like you and I can be friends. I don't care what you think. Because I know the truth. In real life I am isolated. Real life is where it counts. Online does not count!
You obviously have a lot of maturing to do.
 

Aerials1978

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#39
I think the same of you. :p
I will give you a little Biblical truth that you won’t hear most church services. The Lord will bless you, but only after He breaks you and it’s painful. You must come to the end of yourself and give Him everything. Then and only then will you see Him working in your life.
 
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Seeking-Christ

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#40
I will give you a little Biblical truth that you won’t hear most church services. The Lord will bless you, but only after He breaks you and it’s painful. You must come to the end of yourself and give Him everything. Then and only then will you see Him working in your life.
Don't tell us what the bible says unless you are willing to look it up and show us.