(#1) List of dating mistakes that should be avoided by the Christian woman

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Tinkerbell725

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Tintin said:
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OneFaith said:
Thats what I thought dating was for. So what do you say dating is for then?
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Don't date to find a mate but to learn, grow, experience and serve other people. Dating is not for marriage. It's for finding who you are and what you want and for finding who others are. It is for growth. If you keep viewing dating to find a mate you will always be frustrated.
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
Don't date to find a mate but to learn, grow, experience and serve other people. Dating is not for marriage. It's for finding who you are and what you want and for finding who others are. It is for growth. If you keep viewing dating to find a mate you will always be frustrated.
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Uh. I thought dating was all about learning, growing, experiencing, and serving with marriage as a distinct possibility. Otherwise, you're just fugging around with people's hearts and that's bollocks. How the heck does one get married then?
 
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Tintin said:
Uh. I thought dating was all about learning, growing, experiencing, and serving with marriage as a distinct possibility. Otherwise, you're just fugging around with people's hearts and that's bollocks. How the heck does one get married then?
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You are right. But distinct possibility is different from purpose. How can you be fugging with people's hearts when you are just still getting to know them? You have your own preferences and they have their own. And how will you find out about this preferences if you don't date people? Dating is different from being in a serious relationship. You date people to find out who will you have a serious relationship with and then consider marriage.
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
You are right. But distinct possibility is different from purpose. How can you be fugging with people's hearts when you are just still getting to know them? You have your own preferences and they have their own. And how will you find out about this preferences if you don't date people? Dating is different from being in a serious relationship. You date people to find out who will you have a serious relationship with and then consider marriage.
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Okay, I see what you're saying. I haven't thought about it like that (I don't exactly have lots of prospects) but it makes sense. Thanks.
 
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Tintin said:
Okay, I see what you're saying. I haven't thought about it like that (I don't exactly have lots of prospects) but it makes sense. Thanks.
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Can you picture out the frustration/heart break of going out on a date with someone with the purpose of marrying that person and you don't even get a chance on a second date? And you don't enjoy the date because of your very high expectations. This is common in women but also happens to men.
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
Don't date to find a mate but to learn, grow, experience and serve other people. Dating is not for marriage. It's for finding who you are and what you want and for finding who others are. It is for growth. If you keep viewing dating to find a mate you will always be frustrated.
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I don't date to find a mate either. I do it so I can dine at restaurants that I would never go to alone... :rolleyes:

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Tinkerbell725 said:
Is that a hawaiin dinner with a splendid view of the ocean?
Eating alone in a place like that will give you stomach upset due to greed and not sharing it with others.
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The top one is somewhere in Tolouse, France.
The bottom one is at Grotta Palazzese Hotel, Puglia, Italy. :rolleyes:
 
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zeroturbulence said:
The top one is somewhere in Tolouse, France.
The bottom one is at Grotta Palazzese Hotel, Puglia, Italy. :rolleyes:
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What a waste to be going to those places alone. What so special about Europe? Is it just the food, the place or both? Santorini and Rome and many others are the places I like in Europe.
 
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It can be really nice to do those things alone
 
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You left out shape shifters. Soooo many people fall prey to shape shifters. Just the other day I saw a girl i knew from high school and you wouldn't believe how she's shape shifted.
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Time will do that.

"You may have an hourglass figure
But it's later than you think"
 
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Deciding that you want to date someone when you have not begun to really know that person or finding out whether or not it is in God's plan for the 2 of you to date in the first place.

Being someone's surrogate girl friend or boy friend hoping that person will ask you out.

Urban Dictionary: surrogate girl/boyfriend
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
What a waste to be going to those places alone. What so special about Europe? Is it just the food, the place or both? Santorini and Rome and many others are the places I like in Europe.
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I've never been there, but my guess is because it has a lot of old world charm. Like stepping into a time machine and going back to the 1800's.
 
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Well I tried to put myself out there. Even went to the beach last summer with some friends. But ever since those pictures of me at the beach in my swimsuit hit facebook all the good Christian guys are convinced that I don't dress modestly enough to be a true Christian so I must be a demonic shapeshifter. I tried changing their minds by wearing calf length skirts, but they say my ankles are still way too exposed and won't give me the time of day. It's tough going through life with the reputation of being a shapeshifter, especially when it begs the question " If I were a shapeshifter, do you really think I'd choose this shape?"
 
melita916

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is it bad that i look fwd to opening these kinds of threads? lol
 
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Avoid Dating Mailmen and woman. They get to all your important papers :D
 
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Demi777 said:
Avoid Dating Mailmen and woman. They get to all your important papers :D
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Also it's impossible to surprise them with a Christmas gift if you buy it online.
 
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pete13 said:
(#1) BEING TOO RECLUSIVE WITH HOPE IN WAITING TO BE FOUND

True Christians like you are few; therefore you need to be more vigorous in your search if you want to get a true Christian. You have a higher chance of getting a false Christian man by being too reclusive.

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but how can a false christian man "find" me if i'm reclusive?

*hides*

lol
 
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