Right or Wrong : Telling someone that you don't just want to be friends ?
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I say it's good. Just let it out.
If I'm interested in someone, I'll let them know, even if it looks like the feeling isn't mutual. There is very little to lose and you might be surprised at what you gain. The key is you can only get away with pulling that stunt once - you bring it up, you leave the ball in the other person's court, and then you just get on with your life. Maybe (and this is a big maybe) 6 months to a year later you bring it up again, but you probably don't because hey, why not just move on to greener pastures.
If I'm interested in someone, I'll let them know, even if it looks like the feeling isn't mutual. There is very little to lose and you might be surprised at what you gain. The key is you can only get away with pulling that stunt once - you bring it up, you leave the ball in the other person's court, and then you just get on with your life. Maybe (and this is a big maybe) 6 months to a year later you bring it up again, but you probably don't because hey, why not just move on to greener pastures.
you played the guitar? you just know when you wanted to impress any who paid attention to your perfomance so, on the other hand, they also know you don´t want to play music for them. They are smart to guess you´re playing just for you or for another. If you tell them that "honestly" they would feel hurt and no doubt unpredictable responses you would hear (instead of your nicely guitar played).
Flip the script......tell girls you just want to be friends......being friends first....has proven to be
the best marriages.....cause if you can be friends...... your eventual love life is more enduring....
When I was young.....I was in a rush to be a mother and wife.....it was my dream.....in my
rush I missed picking a man who I could laugh with....someone who I could trust.......
I didn't even know him because what I didn't know about him I made up what I thought he was
in my own head.....when I did get to know the man after marriage ....he didn't live up to my
expectations......and the trouble began.....so I don't know who thought the friend zone was a bad place....but I think they.were truly misguided..........peace....jo
the best marriages.....cause if you can be friends...... your eventual love life is more enduring....
When I was young.....I was in a rush to be a mother and wife.....it was my dream.....in my
rush I missed picking a man who I could laugh with....someone who I could trust.......
I didn't even know him because what I didn't know about him I made up what I thought he was
in my own head.....when I did get to know the man after marriage ....he didn't live up to my
expectations......and the trouble began.....so I don't know who thought the friend zone was a bad place....but I think they.were truly misguided..........peace....jo
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To be fair though, I think friend zone connotes that the person doing the friend zoning is free to see other people. So for a lot of people in the friend zone, they see the person they are interested in dating other people.
It's a no go. Best to just let that one slip away after saying your peace and find someone else.
Otherwise I agree wholeheartedly. There is absolutely no rush, and it really does behoove people to have open and honest discussions while dating. It's a good idea to have known someone for a long time before deciding to irrevocably join your lives together. A bit of patience up front can save a life time of pain later.
It's a no go. Best to just let that one slip away after saying your peace and find someone else.
Otherwise I agree wholeheartedly. There is absolutely no rush, and it really does behoove people to have open and honest discussions while dating. It's a good idea to have known someone for a long time before deciding to irrevocably join your lives together. A bit of patience up front can save a life time of pain later.
I see your point......however if she does want to date other guys....then she wasnot interested in you that way ,anyway.....any boy that a girl likes (and she is good for him)and she is intrested won't want to date anyone else.....if she does want to date other guys...then you know you dodged a bullet...and find another friend who wants the same thing as you..