What Do YOU Have to Offer a Potential Date/Spouse?

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I Have the Following Things to Offer Someone (check all that apply):

  • I bet I can make you smile and laugh!

    Votes: 1 100.0%

  • I'm a good cook.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm responsible and dependable.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I remember the change the cat litter before it's too late.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'd offer to take out the dog and clean up the yard.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'd clean the fish tank/gerbil cage/iguana pen.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm great at cleaning and housework.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • My family would consider you to be part of our family as you are.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I don't know what a vaccuum is, but I can fix cars.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I hate doing laundry, but I'd gladly do the yardwork.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I can hold a steady job, and if need be, juggle multiple jobs--I'm a hard worker.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm a good studen and can apply what I learn--I grow and adapt to new situations well.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm killer on the grill!!

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I can fix cars, computers, electronics, etc.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm responsible with money.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm organized and scheduled.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • What's a schedule? But, I can bring spontaneity into the relationship.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm a great listener.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm good with kids.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I give someone my full attention.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I am very dedicated to family and friends.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I can pray/fast with you and for you.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I may not have all the answers, but I have others I can ask.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I am a natural leader.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I like being a good support person.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I know how to create comforting atmospheres/environments.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I am faithful in my Bible studies and church work.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I give to others, and I would make you my highest priority under God.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I will do my best to be there when you need me.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm not afraid to stand up to you respectfully if I don't agree with you.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I keep myself in shape and would love to keep each other motivated.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm good at decorating things.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I put my laundry away (and if it's dirty, I put it in the basket/hamper.)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I'm on time.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I have hobbies I would love to share with you.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I can respect your alone time (and need some alone time myself.)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I am willing to make myself vulnerable to you and trust you.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I will rely on God to teach me things about you I can understand on my own.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I will love you for who you are, both good and bad.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Other--please share with us in your post!

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Total voters
    1
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

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Hey Singles!!!

I always find it interesting to read what other people are looking for in a potential significant other and hopefully future spouse... It's even more interesting to read some of the online dating profiles, especially on the Christian sites (seeing as those are the only ones I've looked at in the past two years.)

Many people seem to know exactly what they want and exactly how they expect someone to fit into their life... but, much rarer is the person who talks about what they have to GIVE to another person.

I find it interesting, from a woman's point of view, that two of the best-known women in the Bible who snagged Godly husbands were Ruth (Boaz) and Rebekah (Isaac, the son of Abraham). Rebekah especially impresses me because one day God called her to GO, and she just WENT.

She couldn't Friend Isaac on Facebook... or send him a text... or hear his voice... or even really know what he looked like... but God put it on her heart to just get up and go. I would only hope I could be that brave.

When reading these Biblical accounts, what jumps out to me most is that these women were noticed by God through their SERVING--Rebekah served Eliezer by watering his camels, and Ruth became known to Boaz because of her loyal devotion and service towards Naomi.

To me, this is a clear reminder that while it's great to have an idea of what we're looking for... we also need to know what we have to offer, and in what ways we can SERVE and GIVE to the other person.

Some of the answers here are a bit on the silly side :)--I didn't want things to be TOO serious.

But, don't you agree that it's important to know what we have to offer another person?

And, if all we can say is, "I don't know what I have to offer..." or, "I don't have anything to offer..." It might be a huge hint as to one of the major reasons as to why we're still single.
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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You are the queen of the Mega-Poll, Kim!! :eek: Hmmm, I will have to get back to you on this...
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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Thanks, Zero, but I think Jullianna takes that title. :)
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I was just trying to include at least a few things that hopefully everyone could read and find themselves identifying with...
 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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DOGGONE IT!! I TOTALLY MESSED UP.

I am going to have to try again everyone... I forgot to allow it to let you vote for multiple things... GRR.
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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seoulsearch said:
DOGGONE IT!! I TOTALLY MESSED UP.

I am going to have to try again everyone... I forgot to allow it to let you vote for multiple things... GRR.
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"Kim, we're gonna have to go ahead and strip you of your title."

 
seoulsearch

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
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LOL!! That's HARSH!!!

It's ok, Jullianna is actually much better at polls than I am, anyway. ;) But, I can still keep trying! :D
 
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NukePooch

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zeroturbulence said:
"Kim, we're gonna have to go ahead and strip you of your title."

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Whoah...you brought out Lumbergh? LUMBERGH? He represents all that is SOULLESS and WRONG!
 
Berean

Berean

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Kim,

I absolutely LOVE that you've pointed this out! There seems to be a surge within the church, to a point, that believes that preparation for marriage is spending time preparing YOURSELF instead of spending that time making the list of what you are looking for. It's a very self-centered, selfish out look on marriage. I'm not saying we should not know what we are to look for in a spouse. Personally, I enjoy how Tommy Nelson puts it. "The 'right' person is not nearly as important as marrying the right 'type' of person." (Paraphrased) My friend is embarking on a quest to write a book delving into the preparation for men when it comes to marriage. He said to me one night, "James, there are many books that deal with woman and preparing for marriage, but there are a slim number of ones that deal with how the man is to prepare." If you look around in our culture, it is very apparent that people aren't preparing for marriage.

I have recognized the importance of what marriage is. God has designed marriage to be the back-bone of culture. The institution in Genesis chapter 2 has been the will of God since the time of the garden, the beginning. When man goes contrary to God's will, we commit sin and mess up the working order of things.

Genesis 2:22-24 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
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Genesis 3:17 Then to Adam He said, "Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, 'You shall not eat from it'; Cursed is the ground because of you; In toil you will eat of it All the days of your life.
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This was the first marriage. We see that it is now the man's responsibility to toil. The ground is cursed and the burden to take care of the family is upon the man.

1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
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This is a huge charge that Paul brings against men! This responsibility is HUGE and shouldn't be taken lightly by men. Nonetheless, we should pursue this responsibility.

Ephesians 5:23-29For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church,
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We see here several different things the husband is to be,
#1: The husband is the head of the wife life Christ is the head of the church. This does not mean to dominate her. It means to lead her in love. He is greater than her in rank of authority, not greater in person hood. God is greater than the son in ranks, but not in person hood.
#2: Love, love and love! That is the essence of a man. Love is so essential to more then just marriage. It's essential to the faith. Read 1 Corinthians 13 about love. He states that if we do everything, but don't have love, we are nothing. The very essence of Christianity is based on love! God loved...Jesus loved...Love love love!
#3: Having cleansed her with the word, so that means he is continually helping in the process of his wifes' Holiness. The husband does not forgive her of her sins, but continually leads her in a lifestyle of Godliness.

1 Peter 3:7 You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
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We are also to be understanding and soft towards our wives. Honor her with what you do. Also, I believe that by honoring God, we are loving her and honoring her in a way.

2 Cor 6:14 Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
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It is unacceptable to be married to non-believers. Not only because of this verse, but how can the husband wash the wife in the water of the word, if he doesn't read it? I must be born again and make wise judgement in who to marry.

And the last verse I will share is
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
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As I am preparing for marriage I am to be keeping the marriage bed undefiled. Keeping pure for God, first and foremost, and also for my future wife.

Am I a perfect man? No, I am far from it. Am I an expert at marriage? No, I have never been married before. I do know that God clearly states what marriage is and we should, as young men and woman study to understand what God has stated about the institution he has created. This life is partly about leaving legacies. What are we contributing to the world? What are we giving to this world? I pray God will use me to love one woman, become one flesh with one woman, and live out his will for my life with one woman. That's how God created it, intended it, and I mean to accomplish what he has set forth in his decrees.

God Speed,

Berean.
 
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