(#3)PLAYING HARD TO GET IN ORDER TO TEST A MAN’S HUMILITY
Playing hard to get may be the norm in the non Christian world but please don’t copy what you see on TV. Some “Christian” relationship books even advise women not to reply suitors on their initial times of asking, instead they should make the man prove his humility and desire for them through persistence…a.k.a “playing hard to get” Some women play hard to get because they wrongly believe that the man will see them as cheap if they say yes to him on his initial time of asking and they believe that the man that keeps on chasing after them despite their several rejections of him is the true man for them since he has shown humility. How can they be so wrong? They really believe that the man that will be faithful is the one that chases them the most. A man that keeps on chasing you despite your several rejections probably has nothing to offer you and he will probably be unfaithful to you.
Here is what happens when a woman plays hard to get:
A “bad” man will be filled with a grin if a woman plays hard to get for him because her “playing hard to get” attitude erases his guilty conscience. He has a guilty conscience because he knows he will be unfaithful when he marries you, so when you play hard to get and relish to watch a man crawl to get you it cancels out his own evil which is the fact that he will be unfaithful to you. Therefore he gets happy and he is full of smiles when you play hard to get as his guilty conscience has been erased and he will then pretend to humble himself by begging the woman for a date persistently. She then sees this as a sign of humility and she will be like “wow, this guy keeps coming back to me despite my several rejections of him, he is really humble and he has to be the true man for me” but he is not the true man, no man that has high value to offer will tolerate that.
A “good” man is excited and full of a good heart when he approaches you because he is eager to give you care, love and faithfulness. If you play hard to get for him, he will see it as an act of betrayal; he may assume that you are a false Christian woman and he may not seek you again. I know you rate yourself high because you believe you have a high value and any man will be lucky to have you and I know you want to give yourself to a man that appreciates your value. But please, playing hard to get; unnecessarily delaying to reply or stalling is not the way to test a man’s humility, instead it will make the true man for you to believe that you are not humble yourself. Try other ways to test his humility and his appreciation of you. The same way you check to see if a man regards you cheaply, the man also checks to see if you have any trace of bad attitude, ungratefulness or sassiness in you. Don’t chase away good men just because you want to test their humility.
…………………….To be continued
