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Hi, If you do not mind me being completely honest sweetheart.
My advice to you is to do nothing at all to get their attention. Continue in your walk with God, pay attention in church and get to know Jesus. Focus on keeping the Lord's attention and the guy that is right and worthy of your time will come. As a young sanctified lady who is currently engaged. I am telling you this because I used to want guys attention but then I realized that I already had GOD'S and before I new it I got to know myself and when I started to get attention from men I didn't even recognize it cause I was so focused on GOD. But the right one will work the hardest to get yours and he'll be your husband and take care of you the way Jesus does. #BePatient
My advice to you is to do nothing at all to get their attention. Continue in your walk with God, pay attention in church and get to know Jesus. Focus on keeping the Lord's attention and the guy that is right and worthy of your time will come. As a young sanctified lady who is currently engaged. I am telling you this because I used to want guys attention but then I realized that I already had GOD'S and before I new it I got to know myself and when I started to get attention from men I didn't even recognize it cause I was so focused on GOD. But the right one will work the hardest to get yours and he'll be your husband and take care of you the way Jesus does. #BePatient
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Oh wow lots of negative judgmental replies. I thought this was a Christian forum.....I do have crushes on them but friendship for now is the ultimate goal. It might grow into something it might not. Either way I'm not going to play with their hearts. If friendship is all I get from this that's fine. Like I said I'll be more than satisfied. I will be the best friend I can be to them. It's not like I'm going to go up to them and be like TAKE ME right after they left a relationship. Our relationship will slowly grow. Whatever God wants...but I'm not just going to sit around and not act....I know God is in control but I can do something even if it's small.
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Thank you! This was truly helpful. Thank you for not judging me and actually taking the time to help me out. I'm young and I was never taught these things growing up. I really don't want to hurt anyone. I'm just getting out of a crippling shy stage in my life that God helped me mostly get past. So everything that has to do with friendships, dating and social interactions is all foreign to me. I have no idea how to flirt or anything like that lol I've also never had a boyfriend and God let me recently meet my best friend! I'm also super involved at my church and life is pretty cool with God in the center. I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with meeting new guy friends. If the friendship grows with one of them fine...if it doesn't it's also fine lol it's not like I'm dying for a man I have a happy life right now lol I'm just open to a possible relationship. Anyway I was just seeking some fun friendly advice. My intentions are not malicious against these guys. I love them as brothers in Christ. 
Sweet Potato,
Most guys like a girl who is good at piloting her own starship. If she can man the con, while I grab the incoming cargo from the scoop. She's worth her weight in palladium!
Also, it helps to be super obvious with a guy. So, do you have a girlfriend? what do you like to do? Oh I like to do that too (most women obviously lie when it comes to this part.) etc.
I hope you land the man of your dreams! (And spend a lot of time behind the stick and perfect and stick those Zero-G landings...
May Love forever be in your airlock.
Most guys like a girl who is good at piloting her own starship. If she can man the con, while I grab the incoming cargo from the scoop. She's worth her weight in palladium!
Also, it helps to be super obvious with a guy. So, do you have a girlfriend? what do you like to do? Oh I like to do that too (most women obviously lie when it comes to this part.) etc.
I hope you land the man of your dreams! (And spend a lot of time behind the stick and perfect and stick those Zero-G landings...
May Love forever be in your airlock.
Hi CC! I'm new to the forums so please me patient and bare with me!
I need some help finding out what a attracts or deters a man from a girl. After a disasterous first date with a guy that I liked for over 2 years landed me in the friendzone I want to make sure I know what attracts y'all to us girls. My first date story is a long one so I really won't go into it. I wish I could because it's super hilarious and sad all at the same time but the point is I ended up friendzoned by a really cool guy I liked a whole lot. Guys how do I avoid this from happening again? Currently I'm crushing on 2 guys who are very different. One of Themis funny outgoing and just a fun guy to be around. (I like this guy the most) The other is very shy reserved and likes to keep to himself most of the time. He's still very kind and caring and is very thoughtful towards others. Both guys recently got out of serious relationships. It's funny how things change in life. Last year I thought these guys were totally off limits and preparing for marriage I was also so focused on my old crush that I didn't even notice them. But now here they are single and available lol
How do I get the attention of these guys? I have met them both once. We all go to the same church. I work with the shy guy at the church and I attend Sunday school class with the outgoing guy. What do I do to strike up conversation with them without it being weird? How do I get them to chase me? Not the other way around.
I need some help finding out what a attracts or deters a man from a girl. After a disasterous first date with a guy that I liked for over 2 years landed me in the friendzone I want to make sure I know what attracts y'all to us girls. My first date story is a long one so I really won't go into it. I wish I could because it's super hilarious and sad all at the same time but the point is I ended up friendzoned by a really cool guy I liked a whole lot. Guys how do I avoid this from happening again? Currently I'm crushing on 2 guys who are very different. One of Themis funny outgoing and just a fun guy to be around. (I like this guy the most) The other is very shy reserved and likes to keep to himself most of the time. He's still very kind and caring and is very thoughtful towards others. Both guys recently got out of serious relationships. It's funny how things change in life. Last year I thought these guys were totally off limits and preparing for marriage I was also so focused on my old crush that I didn't even notice them. But now here they are single and available lol
How do I get the attention of these guys? I have met them both once. We all go to the same church. I work with the shy guy at the church and I attend Sunday school class with the outgoing guy. What do I do to strike up conversation with them without it being weird? How do I get them to chase me? Not the other way around.
1.)So, you joined a year and a half ago, but just haven't really posted until now? That's interesting...
2.)Why do you want the attention of these guys? What is it you're after/looking for?
*skip a few*) I know you said you didn't want to go into it due to length, but what makes you 'friend-zoned' with the first guy? Do you want to be? What do you think is or isn't attractive to guys about yourself that you're hoping to change?
...oh...and one of my personal favorites to think about... If you change yourself to appear a certain way so that people will accept you, most of all in a dating situation, what benefit will it be to you or the other person? Will you or they be happy ultimately? Do you think the more natural 'you' that you most often choose to be won't come out? ...and, if you're choosing to try and change 'you' ...then why do it for the simple reason of attracting guys? Wouldn't that just hurt your own self-worth and identity more than help anything?
So, basically, if you can honestly answer these questions, then I'll be happy to try and answer yours. Thanks for posting! ^_~
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1.My chat nickname took a while to get approved so I eventually forgot about the account until now.
2.They are nice fun guys! They aren't the only people I want to get to know. There are many interesting people I want to know at church. I just have crushes on them. When you like someone you want to get to know them. I think that's how that works.
3. He said he just wanted to be friends. It's ok! We are better friends than we ever were before. It was just heartbreaking when it happened because I liked him for so long. He's not a bad guy though! We are just headed different directions in life I think. He's more motivated by his job and getting ahead. I'm more motivated by the things of God and making an impact on others lives for him. My guess is I might of been too innocent for him. He never told me why he wanted to just be friends. He obviously wasn't the right one for me but that doesn't mean it didn't hurt any less...
4. I'm honestly changing everyday. There are things that I work on daily to get better at. Like my shyness my negative spirit. My flirting skills lol I work on myself daily. It's not just for dating but for everything.
2.They are nice fun guys! They aren't the only people I want to get to know. There are many interesting people I want to know at church. I just have crushes on them. When you like someone you want to get to know them. I think that's how that works.
3. He said he just wanted to be friends. It's ok! We are better friends than we ever were before. It was just heartbreaking when it happened because I liked him for so long. He's not a bad guy though! We are just headed different directions in life I think. He's more motivated by his job and getting ahead. I'm more motivated by the things of God and making an impact on others lives for him. My guess is I might of been too innocent for him. He never told me why he wanted to just be friends. He obviously wasn't the right one for me but that doesn't mean it didn't hurt any less...
4. I'm honestly changing everyday. There are things that I work on daily to get better at. Like my shyness my negative spirit. My flirting skills lol I work on myself daily. It's not just for dating but for everything.