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If I were you, I'd send her a message and let her know that you're interested. As far as what to say, tell her the same thing that you put on here. Tell her you saw her profile, noticed that the both of you are very much alike, and see if she's interested. As Kreation said, There's nothing to lose. Give it a shot. Will be praying for you that all works out. God Bless.
Romans 10:13 "For Whosoever calleth upon the name of the Lord, shall be saved."
Romans 10:13 "For Whosoever calleth upon the name of the Lord, shall be saved."
K
And you're asking us? Really, you seem like you're ok and you're painfully honest but that's pretty good too. Just listen to Rachelsedge because she came up with the signature line I use and obviously knows QUITE A LITTLE BIT ABOUT MEN. It's SCARY. So you just feel free to go board that Nope Train to Dream Woman Land and take a shot. Come on back if you dead end, somebody here will make you feel better. CC's a little like a win-win isn't it?
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I agree with what servantstruck said:
Another important thing, brother, is to show that girl complete respect, and, that can be learned from God's good book that is His Word
Blessings will come if you trust in Him for this situation, guys need to treat girls like children of the King and guys need to FEAR God with how they treat girls, Scripture speaks this truth for married men and, MOST CERTAINLY, this is Truth for guys and girls unmarried situations too. let the Lord lead. Be bold in letting Him show you perfect timing for asking her out.
I would make out a list of the pros and cons of going out with a girl now. Again, that let's the Lord lead you through words and speaking to your heart. Lastly, don't worry about her saying 'no,' if she does, just see it as the Lord leading you a different way. "...you follow Me." John 21:22
Another important thing, brother, is to show that girl complete respect, and, that can be learned from God's good book that is His Word
Blessings will come if you trust in Him for this situation, guys need to treat girls like children of the King and guys need to FEAR God with how they treat girls, Scripture speaks this truth for married men and, MOST CERTAINLY, this is Truth for guys and girls unmarried situations too. let the Lord lead. Be bold in letting Him show you perfect timing for asking her out. I would make out a list of the pros and cons of going out with a girl now. Again, that let's the Lord lead you through words and speaking to your heart. Lastly, don't worry about her saying 'no,' if she does, just see it as the Lord leading you a different way. "...you follow Me." John 21:22
I agree with what servantstruck said:
Another important thing, brother, is to show that girl complete respect, and, that can be learned from God's good book that is His Word Blessings will come if you trust in Him for this situation, guys need to treat girls like children of the King and guys need to FEAR God with how they treat girls, Scripture speaks this truth for married men and, MOST CERTAINLY, this is Truth for guys and girls unmarried situations too. let the Lord lead. Be bold in letting Him show you perfect timing for asking her out.
I would make out a list of the pros and cons of going out with a girl now. Again, that let's the Lord lead you through words and speaking to your heart. Lastly, don't worry about her saying 'no,' if she does, just see it as the Lord leading you a different way. "...you follow Me." John 21:22
Another important thing, brother, is to show that girl complete respect, and, that can be learned from God's good book that is His Word
Blessings will come if you trust in Him for this situation, guys need to treat girls like children of the King and guys need to FEAR God with how they treat girls, Scripture speaks this truth for married men and, MOST CERTAINLY, this is Truth for guys and girls unmarried situations too. let the Lord lead. Be bold in letting Him show you perfect timing for asking her out. I would make out a list of the pros and cons of going out with a girl now. Again, that let's the Lord lead you through words and speaking to your heart. Lastly, don't worry about her saying 'no,' if she does, just see it as the Lord leading you a different way. "...you follow Me." John 21:22
Update: 1 week later and no response. Yes she had logged in but, she has never read my message.
You know, Satan is put things in my head like: "what if you were different", "no likes you, your worthless". It all make me feel kind of bad...and sad.
I only did one message last week, as I think that is proper. I understand though and will be moving on. I'm not angry by any means, just kind of confused, sad, and feeling worthless.
God know the plans he has for me and they are plans for good. I trust him...I trust his will...."may your will be done lord".
You know, Satan is put things in my head like: "what if you were different", "no likes you, your worthless". It all make me feel kind of bad...and sad.
I only did one message last week, as I think that is proper. I understand though and will be moving on. I'm not angry by any means, just kind of confused, sad, and feeling worthless.
God know the plans he has for me and they are plans for good. I trust him...I trust his will...."may your will be done lord".
K
I feel for you jrccomputer. Reading your posts toke me back when I struggled with those same issues. Being shy at a young age, it took me a while to mature socially when it came to dating. I had the same insecurities and anxieties you face today. What helped me get through it all was time. Over time, God put women in my life that helped me grow and gain confidence. Even though each relationship lasted varying lengths of time, each one had value.
My first bit of advice is to relax and try to have fun. I don't know if this was supposed to help or not but I read a Christian piece on how very few relationships end up in marriage. I think that it was an attempt to take the pressure off, to keep us from worrying that if we make one mistake, we will never find another potential mate, and will be forced to wander the earth alone.
Every time I ended a relationship, I worried that I wouldn't meet someone as good as they were. The reality was though that each one that followed was more like the woman I wanted to marry. It could be that I needed to experience a relationship with someone that had certain traits that I thought I was looking for, and God allowed them into my life to correct me. Sometimes, I just wasn't ready for them. Either I needed to mature, she needed to mature, or other things needed to occur that would allow a strong union.
I'm sure you've heard how important friendship is to a marriage. With that in mind, approach each woman you have an interest in as a potential friend first. Take the pressure off of yourself. Chances are, they are just as insecure and nervous about this process as you are. Just be yourself, unless you think that you can keep up a facade your entire life. Don't you want people in your life that accept you for who you exactly are?
Finally, you never know where God will bring your wife from. She may end up being a friend of someone you meet on a dating site. She could be a waitress at a restaurant where you take your dates, and she becomes very impressed on how well you treat them. Consider all of this as practice. You'll keep getting stronger in your confidence. You'll find better ways to express yourself without getting nervous. You won't come on to strong because you'll realize that if she was meant to be the one that God has planned for you, you'll come together when the time is right.
My heart goes out to you. I still struggle with relationships as we all do, and it only ends when we no longer reside on this planet.
Good luck and God bless.
My first bit of advice is to relax and try to have fun. I don't know if this was supposed to help or not but I read a Christian piece on how very few relationships end up in marriage. I think that it was an attempt to take the pressure off, to keep us from worrying that if we make one mistake, we will never find another potential mate, and will be forced to wander the earth alone.
Every time I ended a relationship, I worried that I wouldn't meet someone as good as they were. The reality was though that each one that followed was more like the woman I wanted to marry. It could be that I needed to experience a relationship with someone that had certain traits that I thought I was looking for, and God allowed them into my life to correct me. Sometimes, I just wasn't ready for them. Either I needed to mature, she needed to mature, or other things needed to occur that would allow a strong union.
I'm sure you've heard how important friendship is to a marriage. With that in mind, approach each woman you have an interest in as a potential friend first. Take the pressure off of yourself. Chances are, they are just as insecure and nervous about this process as you are. Just be yourself, unless you think that you can keep up a facade your entire life.
Don't you want people in your life that accept you for who you exactly are?Finally, you never know where God will bring your wife from. She may end up being a friend of someone you meet on a dating site. She could be a waitress at a restaurant where you take your dates, and she becomes very impressed on how well you treat them. Consider all of this as practice. You'll keep getting stronger in your confidence. You'll find better ways to express yourself without getting nervous. You won't come on to strong because you'll realize that if she was meant to be the one that God has planned for you, you'll come together when the time is right.
My heart goes out to you. I still struggle with relationships as we all do, and it only ends when we no longer reside on this planet.
Good luck and God bless.
I feel for you jrccomputer. Reading your posts toke me back when I struggled with those same issues. Being shy at a young age, it took me a while to mature socially when it came to dating. I had the same insecurities and anxieties you face today. What helped me get through it all was time. Over time, God put women in my life that helped me grow and gain confidence. Even though each relationship lasted varying lengths of time, each one had value.
My first bit of advice is to relax and try to have fun. I don't know if this was supposed to help or not but I read a Christian piece on how very few relationships end up in marriage. I think that it was an attempt to take the pressure off, to keep us from worrying that if we make one mistake, we will never find another potential mate, and will be forced to wander the earth alone.
Every time I ended a relationship, I worried that I wouldn't meet someone as good as they were. The reality was though that each one that followed was more like the woman I wanted to marry. It could be that I needed to experience a relationship with someone that had certain traits that I thought I was looking for, and God allowed them into my life to correct me. Sometimes, I just wasn't ready for them. Either I needed to mature, she needed to mature, or other things needed to occur that would allow a strong union.
I'm sure you've heard how important friendship is to a marriage. With that in mind, approach each woman you have an interest in as a potential friend first. Take the pressure off of yourself. Chances are, they are just as insecure and nervous about this process as you are. Just be yourself, unless you think that you can keep up a facade your entire life. Don't you want people in your life that accept you for who you exactly are?
Finally, you never know where God will bring your wife from. She may end up being a friend of someone you meet on a dating site. She could be a waitress at a restaurant where you take your dates, and she becomes very impressed on how well you treat them. Consider all of this as practice. You'll keep getting stronger in your confidence. You'll find better ways to express yourself without getting nervous. You won't come on to strong because you'll realize that if she was meant to be the one that God has planned for you, you'll come together when the time is right.
My heart goes out to you. I still struggle with relationships as we all do, and it only ends when we no longer reside on this planet.
Good luck and God bless.
My first bit of advice is to relax and try to have fun. I don't know if this was supposed to help or not but I read a Christian piece on how very few relationships end up in marriage. I think that it was an attempt to take the pressure off, to keep us from worrying that if we make one mistake, we will never find another potential mate, and will be forced to wander the earth alone.
Every time I ended a relationship, I worried that I wouldn't meet someone as good as they were. The reality was though that each one that followed was more like the woman I wanted to marry. It could be that I needed to experience a relationship with someone that had certain traits that I thought I was looking for, and God allowed them into my life to correct me. Sometimes, I just wasn't ready for them. Either I needed to mature, she needed to mature, or other things needed to occur that would allow a strong union.
I'm sure you've heard how important friendship is to a marriage. With that in mind, approach each woman you have an interest in as a potential friend first. Take the pressure off of yourself. Chances are, they are just as insecure and nervous about this process as you are. Just be yourself, unless you think that you can keep up a facade your entire life.
Don't you want people in your life that accept you for who you exactly are?Finally, you never know where God will bring your wife from. She may end up being a friend of someone you meet on a dating site. She could be a waitress at a restaurant where you take your dates, and she becomes very impressed on how well you treat them. Consider all of this as practice. You'll keep getting stronger in your confidence. You'll find better ways to express yourself without getting nervous. You won't come on to strong because you'll realize that if she was meant to be the one that God has planned for you, you'll come together when the time is right.
My heart goes out to you. I still struggle with relationships as we all do, and it only ends when we no longer reside on this planet.
Good luck and God bless.