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Hi i had my ex leave me almost a yr ago we were trying to have a baby and everything he had a gaming addiction n that took a toll on the relationship as well so ever since he left me he has been at my apt ...before we use to live together for two yrs in total had a relationship for 4... So yes been here and he has been hanging out i cook n share food n he even showers so i ask him will we get back together he says no that isnt what he wantd he is even buying a big home for himself something he didnt give me which breaks my heart he is moving on n is singlr buying a home n i know there isnt anyone else due to him spending all his time with me. I am now stuck in a state in an apt alone n he has some friends here i dont he also told me i should stay here cause its cheaper but if i stay i will just keep having falso hope of me living n making a family in the home is is about to buy he even took me by it cause he wanted my opinion on it and asked me to decorate it for him it hurts so bad cause i would like it to be our home where we can make a family instead he got mad and said he will have his friends wife help him and have his friend help him do the shopping and basically assist him in all the memories of having a home i want to tell him stop comin to my apt but i love him so much he even told me he wants to find someone to have babies with
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I'm so sorry this happened. I know how you feel. I met a Christian man and we were so in alignment with our beliefs and so connected that I thought that he was the one as well. I was really annoyed when it turned out he wasn't. However, I think the key to my resilience is trusting God. I don't want anyone that God doesn't want for me. So while the absence of a man whose company I enjoyed was missed... if God didn't want him for me, I readily accept it and actually gave Him praise. There will be a point where you will give Him praise too, I promise!
Keke, you need to put a stop to this. (And many stops need to be put in your paragraph above! 
) Why should he commit to you, when he already has everything he wants as things stand now? He has you at his beck and call, and he has his freedom to do whatever he wants without considering your feelings, since he's placed you at arm's length.
Time for an ultimatum. It's obvious that you cannot be "friends" - not while you have feelings for him. He either needs to make a commitment to you (marriage, NOT just living together - do not go down that road, it is unhealthy emotionally and spiritually, and it is wrong in the sight of the Lord) or he needs to stop coming around, and let you get on with your life. Love has to be fed. If it isn't fed it WILL die. Your feelings for him now will wane and pass away in time, if you aren't around him, and you will heal and be able to move forward with your life. Blessings to you.
) Why should he commit to you, when he already has everything he wants as things stand now? He has you at his beck and call, and he has his freedom to do whatever he wants without considering your feelings, since he's placed you at arm's length. Time for an ultimatum. It's obvious that you cannot be "friends" - not while you have feelings for him. He either needs to make a commitment to you (marriage, NOT just living together - do not go down that road, it is unhealthy emotionally and spiritually, and it is wrong in the sight of the Lord) or he needs to stop coming around, and let you get on with your life. Love has to be fed. If it isn't fed it WILL die. Your feelings for him now will wane and pass away in time, if you aren't around him, and you will heal and be able to move forward with your life. Blessings to you.