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We talk about maturity levels being the guide - both emotional and spiritual maturity (And while I agree personally, I don’t find scripture to support this. It’s merely my opinion.), but do people ever really take the time to guage this before passing judgment on a couple with an age difference? Or do they just make assumptions according to their brief, superficial observances?
Please note that I’m not talking about dating minors. This thread is clearly addressed in the first post to those 20+.
Again, I agree with Amber in finding older men more attractive than those who are younger for reasons of my own. I have a teen son who would not be thrilled to have me dating anyone close to his age and I would find it a bit creepy myself for the exact same reason. That’s beside the point. J
If the post in another thread had reflected racial, disability or some other form of discrimination, everyone would be up in arms about it; but apparently because the insult had to do with age, it’s perfectly fine to make assumptions and openly insult someone.
So, violakat, I would tend to agree with you, such things are done based upon tradition and personal prejudices.
Please note that I’m not talking about dating minors. This thread is clearly addressed in the first post to those 20+.
Again, I agree with Amber in finding older men more attractive than those who are younger for reasons of my own. I have a teen son who would not be thrilled to have me dating anyone close to his age and I would find it a bit creepy myself for the exact same reason. That’s beside the point. J
If the post in another thread had reflected racial, disability or some other form of discrimination, everyone would be up in arms about it; but apparently because the insult had to do with age, it’s perfectly fine to make assumptions and openly insult someone.
So, violakat, I would tend to agree with you, such things are done based upon tradition and personal prejudices.
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Men take forever to grow..... thanks God women have different minds/hearts ...
I posted this in another thread... I was 15 and had just graduated from a 4 year girls' school when this 23 year old man shows up seriously asking me to be his girlfriend. You can imagine my naivety- I had been in a girls school since when I was 11. So I said yes, it sounded like an interesting idea at that time.
As time went by this guy started asking for all sorts of things ...including sex. Luckily I have always been a good reader and read Joshua Harris-I kissed Dating Goodbye and right then decided to kiss dating goodbye. i said goodbye to the poor man and I praise God for His protection from all the old immature men who go hunting for naive teenage girls.
The moral of the story: How can a 23 year old man not tell a NAIVE girl? or be able to tell and choose to decieve her.... and I am sure I am not the only girl who has been through this. But just like all rules, there is exceptions- the young men who are mature. Blessed are you...you are worthy of marrying ladies like Jully, Amber and Grace etc even while you are 18.
I posted this in another thread... I was 15 and had just graduated from a 4 year girls' school when this 23 year old man shows up seriously asking me to be his girlfriend. You can imagine my naivety- I had been in a girls school since when I was 11. So I said yes, it sounded like an interesting idea at that time.
As time went by this guy started asking for all sorts of things ...including sex. Luckily I have always been a good reader and read Joshua Harris-I kissed Dating Goodbye and right then decided to kiss dating goodbye. i said goodbye to the poor man and I praise God for His protection from all the old immature men who go hunting for naive teenage girls.
The moral of the story: How can a 23 year old man not tell a NAIVE girl? or be able to tell and choose to decieve her.... and I am sure I am not the only girl who has been through this. But just like all rules, there is exceptions- the young men who are mature. Blessed are you...you are worthy of marrying ladies like Jully, Amber and Grace etc even while you are 18.
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Let me try this once more… I’m beginning to think I’m speaking a foreign language here. Hahaha J
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE that spiritual/emotional maturity is a factor to consider when dating someone, but isn’t it important when men are older than women as well? Does the being unequally yoked thing not go both ways? Why are people always trying to push any woman over 35 into the Geritol generation? haha
Why is it okay to insult someone’s age, but not their race, disability, long hair, short hair, baldness, color of hair/eyes, weight, etc.? When did this become acceptable? I would never dream of doing this to anyone. Maybe I was just raised to respect people a little more than that...dunno...
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE that spiritual/emotional maturity is a factor to consider when dating someone, but isn’t it important when men are older than women as well? Does the being unequally yoked thing not go both ways? Why are people always trying to push any woman over 35 into the Geritol generation? haha
Why is it okay to insult someone’s age, but not their race, disability, long hair, short hair, baldness, color of hair/eyes, weight, etc.? When did this become acceptable? I would never dream of doing this to anyone. Maybe I was just raised to respect people a little more than that...dunno...
I can' t say anything more than anyone else has already......I can see where Amber and Diana and Viola are coming from with liking/wanting an older mate. But to me age is not and never really has been an issue.
But thinking back in my past relationships, only two of them were older than me, the rest were younger.
My last relationship, the guy was 9 years younger than I, and there were many people quite vocal about how opposed to that age difference they were. (but keep in mind, there were also the same people who told me that I was *dating below myself*....purely off his appearance.) (that last comment was in reference to another thread.)
There is a former chatter, LynnJ who is a WONDERFUL woman is is remarried to a man 15 years her junior. You would never guess it from looking at them, and from talking to her, you would never guess it from spending time with them either. She is joyfully happy and I think their relatioinship is from God.
But thinking back in my past relationships, only two of them were older than me, the rest were younger.
My last relationship, the guy was 9 years younger than I, and there were many people quite vocal about how opposed to that age difference they were. (but keep in mind, there were also the same people who told me that I was *dating below myself*....purely off his appearance.) (that last comment was in reference to another thread.)
There is a former chatter, LynnJ who is a WONDERFUL woman is is remarried to a man 15 years her junior. You would never guess it from looking at them, and from talking to her, you would never guess it from spending time with them either. She is joyfully happy and I think their relatioinship is from God.
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I know Lynn. She’s beautiful AND amazing. J If I weren’t a godly woman, I’d start dating the 26 year old who’s been asking me out for over a year and post pics here just to make a point. 
But that would be using someone and totally wrong in my book.
We see this sort of thing a lot and I just wanted to point it out for what it is – discrimination and hypocracy. That’s my only point. We need to be more careful and less judgmental on EVERY level, not just those we understand.
P.S. - I wanna see that chicken dance on cam, Stilly
But that would be using someone and totally wrong in my book.We see this sort of thing a lot and I just wanted to point it out for what it is – discrimination and hypocracy. That’s my only point. We need to be more careful and less judgmental on EVERY level, not just those we understand.
P.S. - I wanna see that chicken dance on cam, Stilly
I've only ever dated one person who was younger than me.
I would love to be able to say that age is not an issue but it is. I like women who are older than me because we share much of the same maturity. Younger women change guys faster than they change clothes. To younger women (19-22) guys are a lot like accessories and they never play for keeps.
At the same time. I'm 26 (coincidentally the same age as the person pursuing Jullianna) and I'm not getting any younger. I would like to spend time traveling and being adventurous and thats harder for people who have established lives.
So there is a balance. I'm looking for maturity and a willingness to be adventurous. But at the same time, I'm also not really wanting to instantly have children after I get married.
So if there was a way to have my cake and eat it too, I would be all over it but, until then happy hunting to all of us.
I would love to be able to say that age is not an issue but it is. I like women who are older than me because we share much of the same maturity. Younger women change guys faster than they change clothes. To younger women (19-22) guys are a lot like accessories and they never play for keeps.
At the same time. I'm 26 (coincidentally the same age as the person pursuing Jullianna) and I'm not getting any younger. I would like to spend time traveling and being adventurous and thats harder for people who have established lives.
So there is a balance. I'm looking for maturity and a willingness to be adventurous. But at the same time, I'm also not really wanting to instantly have children after I get married.
So if there was a way to have my cake and eat it too, I would be all over it but, until then happy hunting to all of us.
