Hi vibrantdaley, welcome to CC!
I feel like I could have written that post when I was 16. That's exactly how I felt. Shoot, I'm 22 and have still never dated or been asked. And I have learned to become okay with that. My identity is not found in whether or not I'm dating. My identity is found in Christ. I don't want it based on anything else, because everything else can change. What if you were to get a boyfriend tomorrow? Would that suddenly make you more valuable or more loveable? What about if he broke up with you the next day? You'd suddenly become unlovable again?
The amount of baggage that you have, or how many guys have checked you out, or whether you are single or in a relationship, none of those things change your value to God or change your value as a person. I have a lot of baggage and I'd wager that most people do. In fact, if someone didn't have any baggage at all, to me that means that they don't have much life experience, they haven't learned a lot, etc. Not saying I want someone with all of the baggage in the world, but I can tell you that my baggage has been able to be used for the good, for God's glory, in ways I literally never thought possible.
I get the feeling from your post that you want a guy in your life so you will feel validated about yourself. I understand that. Up until about 6 months ago, that is how I felt until God revealed this to me and is changing my heart on it. But wanting to feel validated is not a good foundation for a relationship and it will create problems. The only solid foundation for a relationship is a Christ-centered man and a Christ-centered woman who are following God together.
Also keep in mind that sometimes having the mindset of "No one will love me" can turn people away. I'm not saying that you are. I'm saying that people are attracted to confidence. Confidence doesn't have to be throwing all your baggage out on the table the first time you meet someone. I'm talking about godly confidence, the sort where you're comfortable being yourself because your identity is in Jesus. That attracts people. That's hard to get to sometimes when you feel like you have to have all your suitcases (baggage, get it? Eh.) neatly hidden behind you. I understand that!
Case in point: Your value is in Christ and Christ alone.
I'm praying for you because I know pretty much exactly how you feel. Don't be discouraged!