Anyone else have a problem getting into a group of friends?

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May 4, 2009
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I don't know, it just seems like I'm having a very hard time in real life with making a good solid group of friends that actually care about me and like wanna hang out and stuff. I mean, I do have some friends I guess but none of them are very close to me. But even though I'm in a Bible Study where everyone usually is pretty close to each other, I still don't really feel part of that either.

Could something like this have an effect on my depression and make it worse?
Actually could this also have an effect on my anxiety and social skills too?

Could it also be part of the reason why I'm so desprete for a girlfriend?
 
May 4, 2009
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Is it also the reason I need more attention than I get right now?
 
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do you know anything about marvin the paranoid android?

go google it
 
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greatkraw

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actually, I used to be paranoid

but that all changed when I realised that there really is someone out to get me
 
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FixYourWeave

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actually, I used to be paranoid

but that all changed when I realised that there really is someone out to get me

you werent supposed to know i was following you around!! dangit, and here i thought i was bein slick
 
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greatkraw

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Fix, I see evidence of you everywhere mahahahahahh
 
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cheeseburger wrappers right...... Stalking you is hard work.. it makes me hungry
 
May 4, 2009
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Could somone actually answer my questions?
 
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FixYourWeave

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you ask the same question all the time. I think its been answered a thousand times
 
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greatkraw

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you havent answered these questions of mine

do you work?

do you live with your parents?

do you know anything about Marvin the paranoid android? (google it)
 
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greatkraw

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not right now

yes

nope

then you certainly not in any position to marry and you really got nothing to offer in terms of security

me either at the moment

concentrate on finding and starting your life's work, as I have posted before

as for lust, deal with it
 
Dec 12, 2009
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Answers to your questions.
Yeah it can.

Yes, it really can.

It probably is.
 
Aug 2, 2009
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Yea I have the same problem. I think its just harder these days to make friends. Have you moved to a different town since high school or for any other reason? In my case I moved across the country after getting my degree and it was hard for me to meet new people here aside from my coworkers and I never got to be close friends with any of them. These days it seems like there arent many people who even want friends.I wish I could give you more help. All I can say is don't give up and to pray for some friends. Thats something I havent done myself. Also pray for a gf, and be patient.
 

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May 5, 2009
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I always wanted a "good solid group of friends" too Dot.

But I realised the reason was because I thought everyone else belonged to one. And people on TV and in movies all have friends that they hang out with every day and do everything with.

As far as I can tell that isn't realistic. I think MOST people don't see their friends every day or even every week.

You seem very comfortable online. What I would do if I was you, and lots of people are doing it these days, is make friends online, and then ask them to hang out in the real world. People I know have done that, and it wasn't weird.
 
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Hey . hack 0. Judging by your name, you sound like a fellow anime nerd. No shame in that.

I know what you mean man. I have quite a few friends, but not many Christian friends. If you aren't picky about the spiritual status, I would say, get a job, and you will have many friends. But, it would probably prove wise to seek Christian friends. Like you, I too have started going to a Bible study. There are a lot of cool people there (cute girls too), but after hanging out with nonchristians for so long, it really feels wierd to me. I don't feel like I can get into any conversation. Normally, I can make people laugh, but when I'm around Christians, I feel like I have to be careful of what I say as not to offend. For instance, I'm a huge movie geek. Many of the films I watch happen to be rated R. I can't comfortably speak of these films with most Christians. Also, most people my age, Christian or otherwise, don't share the same interests as me, thus it's really difficult to start a conversation with these people. I know nothing about Christian rock. I'm not at all into sports, and it seems that that's all these Christian kids are into. Now, if these kids were into classic film, indipendant film, economics, or linguistics, I could talk to them. But I've yet to meet any Christian people like that. I've been able to meet plenty of nonchristian people with these interests.

I'm rambling. But I guess what I'm getting at, is that I understand the difficulty, as I'm in a similar struggle. The only solution I can see, is to get into something these people like. But as selfish as it sounds, I don't know if I really want to be in this group of friends enough to learn all about something trivial that I have no interest in. If only I could make them all like something I think is cool. But that's not going to happen.

I guess I can't really offer advice, but hopefully I can offer comfort in knowing that you're not alone.

Heed the advice of the previous posters. Pray.

Peace