@Princesse I admire that a lot, actually! Probably because I myself lack these qualities. Feel free to share some of that drive and planning ability with me, lol.
I'll probably have to learn the hard way at some point in life, though.
I believe we’re fearfully and wonderfully made. If God made you spontaneous, He has a reason and the tools to accomplish His will through your spontaneity. While I recommended a resource in my initial post. I’m reluctant to tell someone to adapt behaviors that may contradict their makeup. I think it’s important to play to our strengths instead.
I am an extreme and what I’m implying by that comment is this. My personality, gifting, talents, lifestyle and season heavily contribute to my perspective. It isn’t solely the fact I’m an overachiever. Or a Myers ENTJ-A or Enneagram 3/Mover and Shaker Tritype. It isn’r the gifts and talents alone or the time to indulge my interests and calling. Or the absence of responsibilities (spouse, children, etc,) competing for attention. And stresses depleting my energy and focus.
It’s everything combined and that’s the part most don’t admit. I was bred for excellence and took those lessons and turned up the volume many times over. Or 10X’d as they say. It would be unfair to take a principle I’ve had a lifetime to refine and tell someone at the starting line they can do the same. While there is obvious effort the nature is fixed. I don’t need to coax myself to get started or stay the course. And that’s useful for my purpose.
But God needs people of different stripes and dispositions. He fashioned me this way to minister to those like myself. And the same holds true for you. I hope that makes sense. I see this echoed about success, faith, and other subjects far too often. But grace compels a different response. I’m more likely to tell you to use what you’ve got for His glory and allow the Holy Spirit to fine tune the process. Only He knows our capacity. We underestimate our abilities more than we realize.
You can check out The 12 Week Year. It’s really good. And Charlie Gilkey has great resources on his site. That’s a good place to start. If He desires more you’ll know. The hunger will present itself and it won’t abate.