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I would be okay with being in an arranged marriage.
BUT only if the Marriage was arranged by a Panel of my Exs.
Like a giant Round Table with a mound of pictures and bios or videos. They could deliberate, vote, debate, etc as to who I should spend the rest of my life with.
I feel like this should be a Reality TV show.
BUT only if the Marriage was arranged by a Panel of my Exs.
Like a giant Round Table with a mound of pictures and bios or videos. They could deliberate, vote, debate, etc as to who I should spend the rest of my life with.
I feel like this should be a Reality TV show.
M
I too do not trust my parents to make the decision of a mate for me were I single. Even Christian parents can be disrespectful of their children as adults and, most often, completely disregard any possibilities of being wrong. Did I go about find a mate the right way? no. However, my father is not a man who believes a woman deserves respect. Why would I trust such a man with such a decision?
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I would be okay with being in an arranged marriage.
BUT only if the Marriage was arranged by a Panel of my Exs.
Like a giant Round Table with a mound of pictures and bios or videos. They could deliberate, vote, debate, etc as to who I should spend the rest of my life with.
I feel like this should be a Reality TV show.
BUT only if the Marriage was arranged by a Panel of my Exs.
Like a giant Round Table with a mound of pictures and bios or videos. They could deliberate, vote, debate, etc as to who I should spend the rest of my life with.
I feel like this should be a Reality TV show.
M
I would be okay with being in an arranged marriage.
BUT only if the Marriage was arranged by a Panel of my Exs.
Like a giant Round Table with a mound of pictures and bios or videos. They could deliberate, vote, debate, etc as to who I should spend the rest of my life with.
I feel like this should be a Reality TV show.
BUT only if the Marriage was arranged by a Panel of my Exs.
Like a giant Round Table with a mound of pictures and bios or videos. They could deliberate, vote, debate, etc as to who I should spend the rest of my life with.
I feel like this should be a Reality TV show.
I only have one that hates me. But she hates everyone, I'm no exception.
I don't think any of them would vote for themselves. I'm certainly not the one that got away.
Whereas if my mom picked someone out it would be like she was clothes shopping for me as a kid. "She is a little big now but, you'll grow into her."
I don't think any of them would vote for themselves. I'm certainly not the one that got away.
Whereas if my mom picked someone out it would be like she was clothes shopping for me as a kid. "She is a little big now but, you'll grow into her."
I think forced arranged marriages, where the rights and voices of one or both parties are completely violated, are sad and cruel.
On the other hand, I actually see some benefit to a consensual arrangement, such as a matchmaker type of situation. I personally think it would work better if the matchmaker(s) was someone who really knew and had the full trust of the person seeking a spouse. To be honest, I would trust my dad to pick a husband for me.. but that's because he's my best friend and he really knows me and what I need. I genuinely think he would have chosen a wonderful person that I would really click with.
Then there's a middle ground, where the rights of both parties aren't violated but neither have they specifically said "hey please help me find a spouse". I have a Muslim friend who is arranged to be married as soon as she's done with her schooling. She honestly doesn't really care one way or the other, probably due to her upbringing. She knows her future husband is a nice respectable man who will take care of her and she thinks it would be nice if they fell in love over time. She also sees this as one less thing to worry about. She's not jumping for joy, but neither does she feel like she's being forced into a life sentence.
On the other hand, I actually see some benefit to a consensual arrangement, such as a matchmaker type of situation. I personally think it would work better if the matchmaker(s) was someone who really knew and had the full trust of the person seeking a spouse. To be honest, I would trust my dad to pick a husband for me.. but that's because he's my best friend and he really knows me and what I need. I genuinely think he would have chosen a wonderful person that I would really click with.
Then there's a middle ground, where the rights of both parties aren't violated but neither have they specifically said "hey please help me find a spouse". I have a Muslim friend who is arranged to be married as soon as she's done with her schooling. She honestly doesn't really care one way or the other, probably due to her upbringing. She knows her future husband is a nice respectable man who will take care of her and she thinks it would be nice if they fell in love over time. She also sees this as one less thing to worry about. She's not jumping for joy, but neither does she feel like she's being forced into a life sentence.
But then I think the proper marriage is one in which both families agree the people in question are a good fit. It leads to less marital and familial strife later on.
Some would claim it sounds semi-arranged, but it is merely wisdom in operation. The individual is still responsible for finding someone, but the family is an important sounding board as to what works and what does not.
Some would claim it sounds semi-arranged, but it is merely wisdom in operation. The individual is still responsible for finding someone, but the family is an important sounding board as to what works and what does not.
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It may actually matter whom makes the sandwiches. .....
are they poisoned, made with love and care and goodness, did some one dislike you make sandwhich and spit in it....
I am against child marriage and arranging children to marriage as they are to young and arguing "shes an old soul" does not make it any better in my view.
Marrying a child and having the sex with her is not good and parents arranging it one may wonder if they are the real parents or if they may not have been from start and maybe sold her for camels or money.
The final decision should still be with the party whom marry each other.
As far as appearances go and attraction , one may worry what if i am not attracted to spouse i marry.
Specially for muslims cover and not see who they married till the marriage is over.
If he/she has huge wart on nose...that can be removed unless you have taste that finds that sexy and attractive.
If you were not attracted to your spouse physically and they also are poor on inner beauty you can pray to God.
Maybe miracle happen and they become nice. :0
They may even be a really cruel bad person whom you married and were "arranged" and set with.
One should have clear "nups" before marriage i do beleive this.
Both party know where stand in regards to...
Also simple thing such as "care nup" so if souse rich and dieing and the other one laughs and happy to not care which indicates poor choice in partner whom did not improve morals despite prayer for them.
I would welcome arranged marriage but those marrying should have a say and "final word" if they agree and also no laws broken.
are they poisoned, made with love and care and goodness, did some one dislike you make sandwhich and spit in it....
I am against child marriage and arranging children to marriage as they are to young and arguing "shes an old soul" does not make it any better in my view.
Marrying a child and having the sex with her is not good and parents arranging it one may wonder if they are the real parents or if they may not have been from start and maybe sold her for camels or money.
The final decision should still be with the party whom marry each other.
As far as appearances go and attraction , one may worry what if i am not attracted to spouse i marry.
Specially for muslims cover and not see who they married till the marriage is over.
If he/she has huge wart on nose...that can be removed unless you have taste that finds that sexy and attractive.
If you were not attracted to your spouse physically and they also are poor on inner beauty you can pray to God.
Maybe miracle happen and they become nice. :0
They may even be a really cruel bad person whom you married and were "arranged" and set with.
One should have clear "nups" before marriage i do beleive this.
Both party know where stand in regards to...
Also simple thing such as "care nup" so if souse rich and dieing and the other one laughs and happy to not care which indicates poor choice in partner whom did not improve morals despite prayer for them.
I would welcome arranged marriage but those marrying should have a say and "final word" if they agree and also no laws broken.
I don't know how she knows, but all I know is that she told me herself that she feels safe entering this marriage. Maybe not romantic, but safe. You are correct that this approach is still flawed, but the reason why I said it was a "middle ground" is because it is consensual. Regardless of the potential dangers, she is not being forced, so I don't think this is cruel at all.
I completely agree. This is the approach my family take, and I am glad to have their wisdom.
I completely agree. This is the approach my family take, and I am glad to have their wisdom.
V
If God wants to bring two people together in marriage, it can be through anyway. If i m told to do arrange marriage i would spend time in prayer to seek God's approval, the partner can be choice of God for me. Anyhow, it is completely depended on each person. But i would like to support arrange marriage until and unless it is someone's own will and it is not force on him or her.
I have met people who have had arranged marriages and all of them have said that it was a good match. As a single bloke who wouldn't mind meeting the one I would spend the rest of my life with, I am not sure I would put my trust in others to hook me up with a awesome gal...but then again I aint having much luck meeting anyone myself lol so I think I would be open to the idea. Maybe