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[Mii]

Well, just a friendly tip. If you shop at thrift stores you can spend the same amount for 5x the items.

You have to actually shop though, be a picker of sorts, if there's nothing when you go...try again the next week.


Goodwill is expensive, salvation army is not as bad, and independents are hit or miss.
There's one near where I live that has $1 tuesday, 50 cents wed, 25 cents thurs. The lines are crazy long on these latter days so $1/tues it is.

Anything that is decent is worth $1, and I've legitimately found decent items there. Like working electronics for $1.


Just an idea to sort of give in a bit to splurging impulses...but at like 10% of what retail would be. If it's there, it's there...if it's not, you decide to be patient for another week. 13 items for $13 is hard to beat.

Even the scrap value of the cast iron set I picked up is worth more than $1 lol. Who knows, she may like junk treasure hunting. Still have to watch spending though because low prices can get to people's heads

 

[Lanolin]

? I thought old lady meant your mum.

This is the wrong forum for you sorry, it's the singles forum. Pray for your friend.
Both of you sound like you need to do some growing up...just sounds like childish squabbles to me.

this happens a lot for 5-11 year olds I had it first, not I want what the other person has etc etc. she wont share. He pulled my hair. It gets pretty tiring after a while hearing that.

 

[TheWriter]

To have respect is to have it between both ends. Just like I told her tonight, the way you treat me, is how I react.
If you want respect, why not give it in return instead of picking, and nit picking about everything.

I tell you, when we move back to my home, if she does not realize that this is not all about her, (she has the mind set that females get what they want, when they want and it don't matter how much it costs as long being spoiled is right.) I will have her get on a bus back here, and be done with it.

To enable someone, as someone said really does not mean in the way of giving them what they must have.

To enable someone is to give them what they demand to have, even when they do not need it.

She nitpicks until a fight starts, then calls me names, however I will not deal with it much longer because it shows she is stuck in her past and WOn'T let me be me.

Always over talking me, always wanting things her way, that does not work with me.

She always told me that love is 50/50 however, she pushing it where she is in control. That will not work with me.

I will not be like her ex and buying her things to shut her up saying to her that she deserves it.

But it is funny of course where she tells me to manage the money, but then complains and says I got money on my card, but fails to realize? We have bills to pay.

We do not do much with (each other) in that way anymore. She pretty much cut herself off, and then complains when I do not do anything, when I point that to her, she twists it to be my fault.

Very conceited, and very selfish on her part because she fails to look in the mirror to her issues, always someone else's fault never hers.

So this year? I am spending Christmas alone.

 

[TheWriter]

Let me clerify the whole: "because you deserve it."

The thing is I do not care if she buys what she likes. That is no issue, but to buy, and buy, and buy until we are broke and no food?

700 bucks in one weekend is horrifying.

There are bills that must be paid, but i will not spend it all on her just so that she can feel "justified. and wanted."

She told me she is happy I gave her a second chance. At first I dropped her because she tried to make it where I can not speak to my female friends. That is when I told her to skip rocks.

I should not pamper her, when my own house is in jeopardy.