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So many times in my life I've often been concerned about what I want: What is my ideal woman? What would she look like? How would she act? What would her Christian values be? What would her thoughts on God be?
Ultimately: That woman doesn't exist. She's only a figment of my imagination. She would be an idealized woman.
Best lesson I ever learned: Stop idealizing. Stop expecting this or that. Stop creating this box and attempting to stuff a woman into that. I learned that in 2007 or 2008.
We must be open minded. Sure, we don't want to compromise our own values. However, we must come to compromise what we're expecting and demanding in the presence of realism.
We love to dream: I love Jennifer Love Hewitt.. but over the years I realize even she isn't the absolute perfect woman.. even though I believe she is perfect looking.
In order to create freedom in our mind and freedom for that person: we must allow that person to strive at being themselves. We must break from our selfish ideals of how one should act. We must remove the shackles from another in order to release ourselves to a higher level of an enjoyable life. In freeing others.. we have freed ourselves.
Verbal example: "She is who she is and it is in that that my love for her began".
We're always concerned about finding this woman or for the women, that man. That person to fit in our box of how life should be. Doesn't exist. I head out the door looking to know a woman for who she is.. and decide from there if I believe and she too believes pursuing a relationship is the path to take.
Ultimately: That woman doesn't exist. She's only a figment of my imagination. She would be an idealized woman.
Best lesson I ever learned: Stop idealizing. Stop expecting this or that. Stop creating this box and attempting to stuff a woman into that. I learned that in 2007 or 2008.
We must be open minded. Sure, we don't want to compromise our own values. However, we must come to compromise what we're expecting and demanding in the presence of realism.
We love to dream: I love Jennifer Love Hewitt.. but over the years I realize even she isn't the absolute perfect woman.. even though I believe she is perfect looking.
In order to create freedom in our mind and freedom for that person: we must allow that person to strive at being themselves. We must break from our selfish ideals of how one should act. We must remove the shackles from another in order to release ourselves to a higher level of an enjoyable life. In freeing others.. we have freed ourselves.
Verbal example: "She is who she is and it is in that that my love for her began".
We're always concerned about finding this woman or for the women, that man. That person to fit in our box of how life should be. Doesn't exist. I head out the door looking to know a woman for who she is.. and decide from there if I believe and she too believes pursuing a relationship is the path to take.
