Deal Breakers, Red Flags, Must Haves and the Wish List.

[Crazyteen]

My list is mostly from experience.

I took a girl hiking one time, she talked about how her father used to take her camping, so I was optimistic. We found a cool lake, some Carrots, berries, etc. THEN she had to pee, but she had never peed outside before. She was hoping there was going to be an outhouse or something I guess. We were more than a few leagues from the nearest facilities, but after suffering for about an hour, she wants to try.

So I scouted a very appropriate looking log, explained the 3 seashells, and marched about 50 yards away so she could do her thing. After about 30 minutes she comes out of the woods, wearing the shorts that she packed in her bag, crying. Apparently something terrible happened and her dad wanted to kill me when we I dropped her off.

I don't mind SOME* Crunchy, Granola, Organic things but, when it becomes a sort of philosophy about life, overriding fun, efficiency, adventure, budgets and common sense, it winds up on the list. A lot of women consider themselves Crunchy but, when a girl wants to be in a relationship with me for the purpose of living off the grid, so she can make her organic soap business that smells like cat pee and patchouli, Crunchy becomes a red flag. Granola is just a gateway food.

Also I dated a girl for about two weeks, which mostly occurred in my territory for the first week but I came over for lunch and her whole world was covered in horse paraphernalia. We took a drive and she wanted me to pull over so she could "Free" some skinny horses, by tearing down their fence or something. She cried and wouldn't talk to me for the rest of the day. The next day, I came over and brought a movie, but she was cold and distant, still hung up about those horses.

Frankly, its not just horses, its all the Boundary Creatures: Dolphins, Unicorns, Horses, Dragons, etc. I don't get it, and its definitely a flag.



Thats how things get on the List.

Positives too.

I've been in 2.5 relationships where they loved running with me, and I loved working out with them. I didn't even know I wanted that until I had it.

Relationships where they drive the wheels off of whatever they get their hands on. Fantastic.

Relationships where they love to sing and write the most challenging and soulful things.

These aren't needs but, the wish list grows with each thing I run into that blows my mind.

Yeah, I recently lived in this town in Ecuador with a bunch of ex-pats, And I get SICK AND TIRED of all the atheist, vegan, drunks, vegetarian-Horse-loving-organic-rawfoodie-green-peace-gay-rawfood-PETA-gun'n'freedom-hating people living there. Whenever I tried to tell them about Jesus and God, they would laugh at me and tell me I should open my spirit to other things. I Had three horses next to a road, and they had a stream of water and lots of dry grass to eat, and these PETA-type people would come open the gates to "free the little horsies" And tell me to buy expensive horse feed for em. And I'm trying to be nice to these freaks and trying to be a good Christian example, anyway I'm back with "normal"people here in Switzerland, Maybe after I get through carpentry school and military, I'll give it another go to go convert them Californian expats down in Ecuador. My family moved their anyways.

haha the whole reason I wrote this is because I read about your date wanting to free the horsies,

 

[Liamson]

For those of you wondering what Crunchy is.....

and of course...

 

[jeremyPJ]

As a farm-belt guy, I have my personal feelings about Monsanto, but I also understand your statement!
Farmers cannot legally plant their own seed corn, but instead plant seed corn from a certain manufacturer. My dad tells me their seed corn sells at the price of $300. a bag. Yeeeouch!!

Now just imagine how many bags it takes to plant 400 acres! At $300. a bag.

 

[iraasuup]

Hmm, interesting I've honestly never heard the term 'crunchy' used that way before.

To clarify, are you against people who want to be healthy and avoid certain foods (ie the paleo diet for example) or are you just against them going on a holier-than-thou righteous crusade about their food beliefs and trying to convert everyone they meet to eat like them...OR is it the hypocritical aspect to it? As in, they preach one thing, but haven't really done their research and then eat the very thing they say they don't?

Haha trust me to find so many variables

The more I look at the pictures you posted, the more I'm realising it's more likely the latter (so basically someone who thinks they know it all but possibly doesn't have all the evidence?) I dunno...I'm grasping at straws here...

 

[Liamson]

Hmm, interesting I've honestly never heard the term 'crunchy' used that way before.

To clarify, are you against people who want to be healthy and avoid certain foods (ie the paleo diet for example) or are you just against them going on a holier-than-thou righteous crusade about their food beliefs and trying to convert everyone they meet to eat like them...OR is it the hypocritical aspect to it? As in, they preach one thing, but haven't really done their research and then eat the very thing they say they don't?

Haha trust me to find so many variables

The more I look at the pictures you posted, the more I'm realising it's more likely the latter (so basically someone who thinks they know it all but possibly doesn't have all the evidence?) I dunno...I'm grasping at straws here...

Well I'm mostly against the staunch stand and then hypocritical when its agreeable thing. But....


"Mommy Science" is what really annoys the life out of me. Its like a second wave of the holistic chiropractors from the 70's and 80's right at home.

Since their message is spread through colorful graphics on pintrest (an esteemed peer reviewed media for publication) it is taken as the gospel.

But frankly it isn't so much a lifestyle or a diet, it has become a culture. It has its own fads and trends. Perhaps because I was in the Navy, I didn't notice it before, but now, its impossible to ignore.



I went to a chiropractic meeting with my room mate and his GF. They knew I was going to take notes and ask questions, but the presenter didn't have sources either. And she even made fun of the audiences lack of education, siting it as a reason for them being there in the first place. I was dumbfounded as to why people would spend 2-5 hundred dollars a month there on detox tips, supplements, and oils.

Yet no one had any substantiated factual claim to any of this doing anything at all. No sources, no peer review journals, no pharmaceutical knowledge and even basic chemistry had eluded them. So I really did my best sit quietly and take notes. I really wasn't there to play Martin Luther. But I knew that I could not reason with someone who had bought it all.

When it comes to relationships, being unreasonable is a something that eventually becomes a soft boundary that goes hard.

 

[CatHerder]

I've recently simplified my list:

In addition to her being a godly woman, she must think that "Young Frankenstein" is a funny movie, and she must not have any issues with food, such as freaking out if her peas are touching her mashed potatoes.

Oh, and her being born female is a big plus.

 

[just_monicat]

I've recently simplified my list:

she must not have any issues with food, such as freaking out if her peas are touching her mashed potatoes.

um, here's a tip: check her cupboards. if she has a costco-sized pack of divided plates like me, you should just move on.

certain food things should NEVER touch! it's just so wrong. like, jello and carrots. seriously people, who came up with that?

and people who create a swill of food by mixing everything on their breakfast plate together--intentionally? and then dumping ketchup on it?

so.very.wrong.

but yeah, peas and potatoes are a bit of a gray area. : )

 

[Misty77]

um, here's a tip: check her cupboards. if she has a costco-sized pack of divided plates like me, you should just move on.

certain food things should NEVER touch! it's just so wrong. like, jello and carrots. seriously people, who came up with that?

and people who create a swill of food by mixing everything on their breakfast plate together--intentionally? and then dumping ketchup on it?

so.very.wrong.

but yeah, peas and potatoes are a bit of a gray area. : )

Note to self: don't make casseroles or breakfast scrambles when Monica comes to visit.

 

[Misty77]

Deal Breakers: Has incredibly detailed lists of how his future wife can look or think, has a faith other than protestant Christian, doesn't want kids, doesn't handle money well, arrogant, ignorant, expects me to bear the burden of our morality, never uses the Oxford comma

Red Flags: Lists "working out" as his #1 hobby in a dating profile, drives a flashy or otherwise not practical vehicle

Must: Passionately pursues the Lord, accepts/loves/respects me as I am, invests in my son, is hospitable

Wishes: Loves cheesy sci-fi, has dorky sense of humor, understands cars and insurance (because I have no clue), regularly does mission work

 

[CatHerder]

um, here's a tip: check her cupboards. if she has a costco-sized pack of divided plates like me, you should just move on.

certain food things should NEVER touch! it's just so wrong. like, jello and carrots. seriously people, who came up with that?

and people who create a swill of food by mixing everything on their breakfast plate together--intentionally? and then dumping ketchup on it?

so.very.wrong.

but yeah, peas and potatoes are a bit of a gray area. : )

**le sigh** I guess we are just meant to be friends, then.

 

[Crazyteen]

As a farm-belt guy, I have my personal feelings about Monsanto, but I also understand your statement!
Farmers cannot legally plant their own seed corn, but instead plant seed corn from a certain manufacturer. My dad tells me their seed corn sells at the price of $300. a bag. Yeeeouch!!

Now just imagine how many bags it takes to plant 400 acres! At $300. a bag.

hahaha 300 $ per bag!!!! how many lbs in a bag??? if it were 45 lbs it would be enough for 2 and a half acres, that's 160 bags and 48 grand for corn seed. Id rather buy a combine or a tractor or something lol.
Yeah its the FDA's fault in the first place for legalizing what Monsanto is doing and allowing a patent to be put on gods nature, is just sick! If we bring down Monsanto, That way my uncle who works for Syngenta would have more business, plus their better then Monsanto.... just because. (I can't help being a little sarcastic, lol)

 

[Tiffins]

A red flag to me would be a list maker...