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I know this is a zombie thread and the OP is no longer here, but there are other divorced people who visit here, as well as those who may become involved with them. I've had something on my heart in this regard for a couple of days and this seems like as good a place as any to share it.
Divorce happens to a lot of wonderful people of faith. Many of those wonderful people have children and want to date at some point. My mom was one of those people and I was one of those kids. I have also been involved with divorced people with children, so I am typing this from a couple of perspectives.
If you have children or choose to date someone with children, take your time. Protect your heart and especially protect the hearts of any children involved until you see how things are going to go. If things don't work out as you'd hoped, it can be a painful loss for those kids. They don't need that on top of what they've already been through. It is also important to remember that if you grow to love and care for those children and something happens, not only will your heart be deeply injured because of the breakup, you will have the additional pain of those precious children fading from your life as well.
I'm not saying don't date one another by any means. It can and does work out. When it does, it's amazing (I loved my stepdad very much). I'm just asking that you keep these things in mind and take your time before attempting to become involved in a family sort of way.
Divorce happens to a lot of wonderful people of faith. Many of those wonderful people have children and want to date at some point. My mom was one of those people and I was one of those kids. I have also been involved with divorced people with children, so I am typing this from a couple of perspectives.
If you have children or choose to date someone with children, take your time. Protect your heart and especially protect the hearts of any children involved until you see how things are going to go. If things don't work out as you'd hoped, it can be a painful loss for those kids. They don't need that on top of what they've already been through. It is also important to remember that if you grow to love and care for those children and something happens, not only will your heart be deeply injured because of the breakup, you will have the additional pain of those precious children fading from your life as well.
I'm not saying don't date one another by any means. It can and does work out. When it does, it's amazing (I loved my stepdad very much). I'm just asking that you keep these things in mind and take your time before attempting to become involved in a family sort of way.
