Doomed to be single?

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17Bees

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Somebody gave me a dish looking thing only they had drilled a hole in the middle and made a clock out of it. So we put a piece of pie on it next to the second hand to see if we could eat the whole thing before the second hand came back around and hit it.....

and to bring this all home... this is why I'm single and doomed.
 
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17Bees said:
Somebody gave me a dish looking thing only they had drilled a hole in the middle and made a clock out of it. So we put a piece of pie on it next to the second hand to see if we could eat the whole thing before the second hand came back around and hit it.....

and to bring this all home... this is why I'm single and doomed.
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If you are single, who is 'we'?
 
TamLynn

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17Bees said:
Somebody gave me a dish looking thing only they had drilled a hole in the middle and made a clock out of it. So we put a piece of pie on it next to the second hand to see if we could eat the whole thing before the second hand came back around and hit it.....

and to bring this all home... this is why I'm single and doomed.
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You left out the most important detail!

What kind of pie was it?!🙃
 
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17Bees

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You see my avatar there? I'm not studying or reading or anything of the kind. That was taken at Thanksgiving and I'm eating pecan pie. That's about as happy as I'll look.
 
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17Bees

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Oh, and one more thing about pecan pie. It's pea-con pie. Not Pee Can pie. Pee Can is something you take on a long drive or out in a fishing boat.
 
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Well the name icequeen might be the moat around the castle. Try something like laughingbeautyqueen and see what happens.
 
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Hello all. I am new here. still discovering how this works. be all blessed.
 
Lynx

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17Bees said:
Oh, and one more thing about pecan pie. It's pea-con pie. Not Pee Can pie. Pee Can is something you take on a long drive or out in a fishing boat.
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THANK YOU! I've been arguing about that with a certain yankee for some time now.

A pee can is what you used to put under the bed, so you wouldn't have to get up in the middle of the night and go all the way out to the outhouse in the cold and snow.
 
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weird. If OP is so hopeful about wanting to be married, then why did she write DOOMED to be single?

Come on quit being so negative.
so what if you have a disability. If you explain to someone what it takes to care of you them say it and be honest. so its ACTUALLY a little bit more than wanting a buddy to just watch tv with. Cos if it was just that well you dont need to marry anyone to do that.

Theres a married couple in my church the wife is in a wheelchair and her husband is on the worship team.
Joni Earckson Tada the paralysed christian lady got married although she already had a dedicated female companion helper when Joni got cancer he really stepped up.

if everyone was perfectly and able and never got sick it doesnt mean that means marriage is only for those people cos a marriage is a vow for in sickness and in health to DEATH do you part. Unless you dont even say those vows.

what kind of person would ditch the person they love just because they just got sick or had an accident or needed to go to hospital? if they did that then honestly you are better off without them. so choose wisely...if you are the one doing the choosing.

I dont do any choosing and I dont really like to be picked. Im kinda happy letting God bring people into my life as needed. I dont complain to him about it cos I know if it becomes a problem then its actually my fault or attitude not His. I dont go in for this doom or gloom stuff.

people that complain about being single are just as likely to complain about being married.
nothing wrong with 'venting' but be careful its not the vomit kind of venting that gets on everyone else and makes singles feel horrible for being single. Dont give others a guilt trip just cos they dont immediatly want to marry you is all Im saying.
 
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Kim82 said:
Priscilla and Aquila Acts 18:2

1Corinthians 7:9 better to marry than to burn.
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No marriage ceremony (An actual wedding) noted between Christians. Marriage ceremony.
1 Corinthians 7:9 is not a command it's a concession. You are better off NOT to marry unless you're sexual passions are too strong.
 
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cv5 said:
No marriage ceremony (An actual wedding) noted between Christians. Marriage ceremony.
1 Corinthians 7:9 is not a command it's a concession. You are better off NOT to marry unless you're sexual passions are too strong.
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Jesus has a lot to say about weddings. However people need to read about Jewish wedding customs so that they can understand his wedding messages. There are many details in the Jewish wedding ceremonies that are not covered in the stories and the background information is eye opening. The audience at that time it was written understood the customs but westerners do not have the same wedding ceremonies that the Jews had.
 
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Scribe said:
Jesus has a lot to say about weddings. However people need to read about Jewish wedding customs so that they can understand his wedding messages. There are many details in the Jewish wedding ceremonies that are not covered in the stories and the background information is eye opening. The audience at that time it was written understood the customs but westerners do not have the same wedding ceremonies that the Jews had.
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True enough. Marriage ceremonies were of the highest importance and priority in the Jewish social order. Marriages and wedding ceremonies are not even a footnote in the Bible as far as Christians are concerned. There is only advice given after the fact, and admonitions to avoid if at all possible.
 
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cv5 said:
No marriage ceremony (An actual wedding) noted between Christians. Marriage ceremony.
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Jesus, his mother and disciples attend wedding John 2:1-11

cv5 said:
1 Corinthians 7:9 is not a command it's a concession. You are better off NOT to marry unless you're sexual passions are too strong.
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1Timothy 4:1
Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;

3 Forbidding to marry.....
 
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Kim82 said:
Jesus, his mother and disciples attend wedding John 2:1-11


1Timothy 4:1
Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;

3 Forbidding to marry.....
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That was a Jewish wedding (not Christian), and that account is there only to glorify Christ Himself.
That wedding was also anonymous.

There is no doctrine or command given to Christians to FORBID marriage. There is however advice given to avoid if you are able. If you are not able then you go ahead and marry, but you will suffer trials in the flesh.

And that's about it. Scriptural, It's all there and it's not complicated.

BTW....I am married. And quite happily at that.
 
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cv5 said:
BTW....I am married. And quite happily at that.
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I see. In that case, get thee behind me satan, you hypocrite.

While it is not good to be desperate and depressed over being single, it is also not good to tell people they are wrong for wanting to get married. Especially if you yourself are happily married.
 
cv5

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Kim82 said:
I see. In that case, get thee behind me satan, you hypocrite.

While it is not good to be desperate and depressed over being single, it is also not good to tell people they are wrong for wanting to get married. Especially if you yourself are happily married.
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Ouch. Just to let you know I'm not giving anyone any advice in any particular situation. I'm specifying what the Bible says and what it doesn't say, and have merely reiterated Paul's advice. By the way Paul made it clear (regarding marriage) that what he is saying is not a command from the Lord but it is his advice as a Holy Spirit filled pastor.

And just to let you know I was single for 56 years and I loved it. Yes I am happy now, but does it equal to happiness I enjoyed while I was single? I would have to say no to that. There is a certain joy that comes from being free that quite frankly nothing can equal.

BTW, Neither of us have kids and we don't want any.
 
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cv5 said:
No marriage ceremony (An actual wedding) noted between Christians. Marriage ceremony.
1 Corinthians 7:9 is not a command it's a concession. You are better off NOT to marry unless you're sexual passions are too strong.
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cv5 said:
Ouch. Just to let you know I'm not giving anyone any advice in any particular situation. I'm specifying what the Bible says and what it doesn't say, and have merely reiterated Paul's advice. By the way Paul made it clear (regarding marriage) that what he is saying is not a command from the Lord but it is his advice as a Holy Spirit filled pastor.

And just to let you know I was single for 56 years and I loved it. Yes I am happy now, but does it equal to happiness I enjoyed while I was single? I would have to say no to that. There is a certain joy that comes from being free that quite frankly nothing can equal.

BTW, Neither of us have kids and we don't want any.
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So besides (we'll give you the benefit of the doubt and say) clarifying what you meant in a way that changed it's meaning for most of us. We really should be asking why there's no marriage ceremony recorded between christians in the Bible. Shouldn't be too hard to ascertain that it wasn't from any prohibition or necessarily avoidance of marriage so much as 1) there's literally only 1 narrative book in the NT after the gospels (and there weren't really any christians before those events took place) and it was focused on the story of people who were travelling and spreading the faith. 2) During the time the Bible was written most people would have been coming to Christ as already married (hence all the teaching about how to behave in marriage even though we don't see weddings happening. 3) Christianity was designed (by God at least) to be a multinational multicultural religion and wedding ceremonies are highly cultural events that are determined in large part by the culture of the participants rather than their religion (which yes is a part of culture, but it's unlikely that any of the Biblical authors were concerned with defining what a "Christian Wedding" should look like).

So you're just reiterating Paul's advice which either you followed and after 56 years of singleness you were no longer capapble of self control or you didn't follow at all which would make you look like a hypocrite. Of course you say that but your attitude towards children doesn't seem to be very biblical either (which I admit I wouldn't want to start raising babies at 56+ either) . But the Bible says children are a heritage and blessing from the Lord. Mostly you sound like someone trying to read the Bible in such a way as to make it agree with his life choices... which makes you a pretty normal human being.
 
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