Ever been wrongly accused?
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My bad. 
When I was sixteen, one of my dad's best friends came for a visit with his Filipino wife, whom I had never met. Towards the end of the day, my dad called me into the living room and told me I had some explaining to do; everyone was staring at me and I had no idea what I'd done. Apparently, the wife thought I was a racist because:
1) I barely spoke to her the whole time she was there, which she interpreted as me being cold and standoffish, when in reality I was just a really shy teenager.
2) At one point she asked me where the bathroom was, and I told her she could use the downstairs one; I thought I was being considerate, because this way she wouldn't have to go all the way upstairs, but she interpreted it as me saying she wasn't good enough to use our upstairs bathroom.
I was completely distraught and shaken up over the accusation of being a racist, and I apologized and explained these things, but no one seemed to accept my reasonings. I still get a little upset when I think about it to this day.
1) I barely spoke to her the whole time she was there, which she interpreted as me being cold and standoffish, when in reality I was just a really shy teenager.
2) At one point she asked me where the bathroom was, and I told her she could use the downstairs one; I thought I was being considerate, because this way she wouldn't have to go all the way upstairs, but she interpreted it as me saying she wasn't good enough to use our upstairs bathroom.
I was completely distraught and shaken up over the accusation of being a racist, and I apologized and explained these things, but no one seemed to accept my reasonings. I still get a little upset when I think about it to this day.
Once in a small private school I atrended I got accused of trying to help a smaller child cheat on a test which was ridiculous. We were in a one classroom for all kids environment. I went to sharpen my pencil which happened to be close by the testing table (it's a long story lol ) this kid was happy that she made it to the test so she picked it up to show me ... I nodded and gave her a thumbs up like " good going kid " and that was it. That was a friday....come Monday I get called into the office and it was said that the teacher saw me give the girl an answer to the test by nodding that it was right... I was so thrown off by the accusation... I was like " why in heavens name would I help this kid cheat ??? If I was gonna help someone cheat I would have picked my own sister...but I didn't because I'm not that kind of person."
They called the little girl in to ask her and all she could say was "I don't remember." Long story short I got off with a warning and was very pissed off .
Move down the road over 15 years later ...I'm sitting in "that kid"'s living room as I type this. I've been working with her and her sister for 11 years as their personal care aid. Funny how life works out isn't it ?
They called the little girl in to ask her and all she could say was "I don't remember." Long story short I got off with a warning and was very pissed off .
Move down the road over 15 years later ...I'm sitting in "that kid"'s living room as I type this. I've been working with her and her sister for 11 years as their personal care aid. Funny how life works out isn't it ?
Being a strong, independent female and single for 35 years I had more than one person and even a family member ask me if I was gay? Even a co-worker at dinner one night was talking to me saying it was o.k. to come out of the closet and I told him I never had to come out of the closet as I hadn't been in there to start with.
I guess the majority of the world doesn't understand someone choosing to be single after being married and hurt once determined to never get divorced again even if it meant never getting married again... and waiting until the right person comes along...even if it takes 35 years.....
Today I am still baffled that anyone would assume such of me since I don't have any tendencies that way, was married once (now twice) and had a daughter....
Just because one of my best friends is a gay man doesn't mean I'm gay.... I never did get why anyone would ever assume that about me....oh well...water under the bridge....
I guess the majority of the world doesn't understand someone choosing to be single after being married and hurt once determined to never get divorced again even if it meant never getting married again... and waiting until the right person comes along...even if it takes 35 years.....
Today I am still baffled that anyone would assume such of me since I don't have any tendencies that way, was married once (now twice) and had a daughter....
Just because one of my best friends is a gay man doesn't mean I'm gay.... I never did get why anyone would ever assume that about me....oh well...water under the bridge....
Happens all the time here in the forum..
But the instances in my life when it really hurt me bad was when i Dad did it to me on a few occasions.. When you are unjustly accused by your dad who has decided to believe a false report from others about you. It is a clear signal to you that your dad looks upon you as being lesser then some strangers kid... It's a double whammy..
You have been falsely accused and declared guilty and your dad trusts the word of another mans kid over your word... That hurts and the scar remains for years..
But the instances in my life when it really hurt me bad was when i Dad did it to me on a few occasions.. When you are unjustly accused by your dad who has decided to believe a false report from others about you. It is a clear signal to you that your dad looks upon you as being lesser then some strangers kid... It's a double whammy..
You have been falsely accused and declared guilty and your dad trusts the word of another mans kid over your word... That hurts and the scar remains for years..
Yeah I've had that before. "What? You're 39 years old and never been married?!!? What are you, gay or something?" And they don't mean it rhetorically or humorously, they are serious.
No you nitwit. I'm single because I haven't met somebody I want to marry yet. Why are you still eating milk chocolate? What are you, some kind of dark chocolate hater?
No you nitwit. I'm single because I haven't met somebody I want to marry yet. Why are you still eating milk chocolate? What are you, some kind of dark chocolate hater?