Fear or Freedom: Why are you single?

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AsifinPassing

AsifinPassing

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Perhaps there are some fears and feelings of freedom like many have expressed...for me as well..., but honestly... I'm single because for whatever reason the relationships in life just haven't worked out yet. It's not for lack of perusing or being persued. It's not for a list of fatal flaws in myself or others. It may or may not have to do with God's plan, but what I can say...

...is that I've been growing less and less worried about it. You can view just about anything as a blessing or curse. Perception largely finds influence from intention. I find that to be the case anyway...

So it would be very wonderful if there was somebody who could love me and recieveing my love for them in a romantic way, but if not...sad as it is, or sometimes lonely or painful... It's really not that bad. Comes down to learning that contentment Paul talks about...in all circumstances.
 
Markum1972

Markum1972

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Cool thread and interesting to see some of your replies.

I am single for freedom, but not personal freedom. It is freedom to serve God... like Apostle Paul. It is a choice, not a calling as some might think. Here is the thing... I know what God wants me to do in the days ahead and while it may not be as grand as Moses or Noah's calling, it is still something I would not ask someone to join me in. God did not ask me, I offered to be his servant and he responded. So, I remain single. However, this does not mean that I have bound myself to remaining single like Paul. If I were to meet someone who was called to join me in this, I would not refuse. That would require some wisdom though. God would certainly have to reveal some things to her so I would not be alone in what must be done and it would be confirmation that she was also doing it in obedience to God; not to just follow along.

Hope that all makes sense.
 
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Shortstop17

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Interesting perspective of being single, though I'm not sure I fit into either category. I simply don't get the opportunity to meet people.... Who aren't between the ages of 4-18 (I teach anything and everything). But I guess if I had to pick between the two I'd say fear. Because my faith is very important to me and where I live it's hard to find good christian guys who are available. I want to make sure the person I end up with has the same enthusiasm for Christ as I do:) and I sometimes fear that I will chose wrong.
 
Test_F_i_2_Luv

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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hoss2576 said:
Which one of the two plays a greater role in your life as a single person? Which do you think more about in regards to relationships; freedom or fear?
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Neither.

The biggest reason I'm single is because of my criteria/standards.

There are some areas/aspects of life where I expect reciprocation from my future spouse and simply refuse to settle for less.

:)
 
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