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cassie20

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How can you tell when a guy is interested?

When can you tell a guy is losing interest?

If a guy isn't intiating conversation is that a red flag?

Guys, what do you think is romantic?

How do guys show they care?

Any other info is much appreciated

 
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How can you tell when a guy is interested?

> Ask him on a date. If he says yes, he's interested. Also, if they seem to hang around you a lot when they don't have to, and try to keep your attention on them by being chatty or funny.

When can you tell a guy is losing interest?

> When he gives real short responses to everything you say or email or text (but texts are usually short anyway).

If a guy isn't intiating conversation is that a red flag?

> It could be, but it could also mean he has something on his mind.

Guys, what do you think is romantic?

> new power tools or tickets to their favorite sporting event.

How do guys show they care?

> They will go that extra mile for you. Do little things to make you happy, or at least offer to do them.

Any other info is much appreciated

There's no sure way to know, and it takes time. The longer you wait to ask him out, the longer you give other women a chance to grab him. And the harder you will fall if he turns out to not be interested because you set yourself up for it.
 
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xJoe

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How can you tell when a guy is interested?
When I'm interested ill make a attempt to get to know the person and see what there like (it in no way means I like them) it only means I'm curious on who they are

When can you tell a guy is losing interest?
Not all relationships are mean't to be, so most of the time guys you encounter are NOT going to work out, if for some reason you can see any relationship working out then that means there's desperation. Obviously guys will make less a effort to communicate with you.
If a guy isn't intiating conversation is that a red flag?
It depends, He's either losing interest or just not interested enough to do it.
Guys, what do you think is romantic?
I don't believe True romance should come into a relationship until marriage. My view is if you want something to be special then save it for someone, the more things you do with someone else the less special it makes it with whoever it comes after.
How do guys show they care?
Time. Depending on how much time and effort there willing to put down on you. If they put there self above you in normal affairs only expect it to get worse.
Any other info is much appreciated
Like I said most relationships don't work out so don't get attached. Also before marriage don't spend excessive time on someone either. I found that I wasted most of my highschool years on girls and when I look back I regret all the time I wasted. So unless someone is compatible enough for you to be genuinely serious I would just play it safe. Don't get super personal with someone within the first week or month of knowing them because you'll end up developing feelings. (You can make yourself fall for anyone) Get to know the guy, see if things are actually worth pursuing, and try not to waste to much time. God will make us give a account for our time we spend.
my opinion
 
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ASK

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I think Zeroturbulence has wonderful responses, a couple things I would like to add:
Guys, what do you think is romantic?
One time my girlfriend bought ME a single red rose. I was in awe. It was just such an unexpected gesture and nothing I ever expected. So, do something surprising!

Any other info is much appreciated
Studies have shown that if a guy seems like he's interested, he is. You're a wonderful creation of God, be confident!
 
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1still_waters

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How can you tell when a guy is interested?


He'll either bluntly ask you out, ask for your number right away or maybe ease in to it. It's a toss up here.... Some guys really ease in to things so they don't jump in to a relationship. Others just cut to the chase and get your number and ask ya out.

If he ain't even talking to ya or lookin your way.........chances are he isn't interested.......


When can you tell a guy is losing interest?


This is a tough one with guys. Because with women, if they start not making as much contact and start to make excuses not to see you, that's usually a sign they are losing interest.

But with guys it is kinda different. Not making as much 'contact' could just be a sign they're getting comfortable in the relationship. It doesn't mean they are losing interest necessarily.


If a guy isn't intiating conversation is that a red flag?


Not necessarily. He could just be getting comfortable and maybe he's used to the women doing all the talking.


Guys, what do you think is romantic?


Whatever the women thinks is romantic. I don't thing romance is necessarily for the guy. It's for the girl. So the guy should find what she likes, then do it.

How do guys show they care?


By doing things he knows the girl likes.


Any other info is much appreciated
Macs are better than PC's and remember to password protect your home wifi.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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How can you tell when a guy is interested?

When can you tell a guy is losing interest?

If a guy isn't intiating conversation is that a red flag?

Guys, what do you think is romantic?

How do guys show they care?

Any other info is much appreciated

Hello.

You can tell a guy is interested in you when he uses words that consist of more than one syllable. That is unless he doesnt know any words that use two or more syllables, which is very possible.

Goodbye.
 
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cassie20

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THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR GIVING YOUR ADVICE! SOMETIMES GIRLS HAVE NOT IDEA OR THE WRONG IDEA ABOUT MEN. I REALLY APPRECIATE ALL YOUR RESPONSES.
 
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Scottybrandon

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Hello.

You can tell a guy is interested in you when he uses words that consist of more than one syllable. That is unless he doesnt know any words that use two or more syllables, which is very possible.

Goodbye.

That doesnt sound bitter at all!!
 

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How can you tell when a guy is interested?

-If he laughs at your jokes, digs through your iPod, encourages you to be the best you that you can be, Makes fun of you, etc. Interaction is the Key, his interest is a lot like a Tennis match, he will serve you a ball and then you if you respond well enough to it, he may continue to volley interesting topics your way, in the hope that you will find him interesting. If he likes you he will treat you differently that he treats anyone else.

When can you tell a guy is losing interest?

-He will slowly stop talking with you and make you feel as though you are just a friend, equal with other people in your group. If he is a really nice guy, this can be hard to notice.

If a guy isn't intiating conversation is that a red flag?

-Yes and no, Sometimes we actually ARE interested enough to find out more. Sort of like a shark that circles its prey, we may circle and be near you before we actually make a move.

Guys, what do you think is romantic?

-I think Loyalty is Romantic, So is Adventure and unreasonable amounts of Trust. I know that personally I want to feel like Someone that I am interested in is on my team.

How do guys show they care?

-This is actually one that I myself struggle with Online, In real life it is much simpler. Their Body Language will write checks that their mouth can't cash. They will insert themselves in your life for the positive. Whatever it is that you like they will make sure you have or they will acknowledge how they see you.

Any other info is much appreciated

Every guy has his or her own speed. Don't expect him to be too forward or too reserved. He should be either Nervous or Natural. If he seems Over the top interested, run away.
 
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Jullianna

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Thanks for your post, Cassie. Since I'm not a guy, I don't have anything to add, but I have learned some things. :)
 
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onlyme

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How can you tell when a guy is interested?

I would say when he goes out of his way to find time here and there to maybe bump in to you, or cross your path. Also if he tries to make you laugh, or compliments you in any way. He will definitely want to know more about you, he may ask you about yourself, or your likes and dislikes, your favorites and such.

When can you tell a guy is losing interest?

Hum probably when he seems to become distant, doesn't talk as much, or tries to keep the conversation short and sweet.

If a guy isn't initiating conversation is that a red flag?

Not necessarily, he could have other things on his mind, or maybe he doesn't want to come on to strong, so he tries to gradually get to know you.

Guys, what do you think is romantic?

Ok I 'm a guy but honestly I think a walk in the park or on the beach, maybe star gazing, a simple picnic like at a park. Maybe going to a theme park together even.

How do guys show they care?

Well they will be sincere, they will listen to you, they will be there for you, encourage you. They may do something you enjoy doing, even though it's not their thing, just to be there with you. Your feelings will truly matter to them, your safety, and well being. They will do little things to compliment you, maybe even buy a gift now and then for you.

I think a lot of this depends on the type of guy he is though to. I myself may find a girl interesting but I really like to seek God's direction when it comes to that. Also I believe the best relationships are built on Christ, and He should be the foundation and center of it. That's just me though :)
 
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Jullianna

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It's so wierd to read that if a guy backs off, it doesn't mean that he's not interested. I've always assumed that's what it meant, so I've backed off many times from some pretty great guys. Maybe this made them think I wasn't interested...*sigh*...men...

So..the question THEN becomes, if they do back off, what should a lady's response be?
 
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1still_waters

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It's so wierd to read that if a guy backs off, it doesn't mean that he's not interested. I've always assumed that's what it meant, so I've backed off many times from some pretty great guys. Maybe this made them think I wasn't interested...*sigh*...men...

So..the question THEN becomes, if they do back off, what should a lady's response be?
Well if it's in a committed relationship, I'd say, stay the course. Keep calling and txting and emailing like crazy. Cuz that's what girls do.
 
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Jullianna

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See...this is my problem I guess. I've always worked with/most of my friends are GUYS... so I tend to do what they do in relationships. I don't know what normal women do. lol I'm learning alot here. :)

I also have trouble knowing how to shift from a guy being a friend to being more than that. I think I sometimes assume a guy just wants to be friends and treat them accordingly when they want to be more than that. How do you know??
 
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1still_waters

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and treat them accordingly when they want to be more than that. How do you know??
You don't know.

They don't call me a zen relationship master for nothing. :p
 
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Jullianna

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LOL! thanks.....very helpful :p:rolleyes:
 
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I think I sometimes assume a guy just wants to be friends and treat them accordingly when they want to be more than that. How do you know??
Pay attention to awkward silences. If he has a forlorn look in his eye or looks completely dumbfounded then he's probably into you and is searching for a way to stop thinking about it lol.
 
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Jullianna

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LOL! That reminds me of something my son said, zero. There's a very cute little blonde girl at church who absolutely adores my son. I asked him why he didn't ask her out and he rolled his eyes and said that whenever he tries to talk with her she gets this DOE IN THE HEADLIGHTS LOOK and can't hold a conversation. It was very cute. :)
 
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LOL! That reminds me of something my son said, zero. There's a very cute little blonde girl at church who absolutely adores my son. I asked him why he didn't ask her out and he rolled his eyes and said that whenever he tries to talk with her she gets this DOE IN THE HEADLIGHTS LOOK and can't hold a conversation. It was very cute. :)
awwww thats really cute! :)
 
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Jullianna

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This thread reminds me of this............
 

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