Friendliness or Flirting?
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I came to this site, and I will spare them the embarassment, but there were 2 girls who I thought were the one (2? the one? ARE YOU HIGH AGAIN CYPHERCAT? no.)
I so wanted to believe it. I mean what do you do? You've been alone for 6 years, you do what the bible tells you to do. You're not looking for a wife, so you go to a Christian site for companionship.
And then they showed up.
Physical attraction, beauty that shone through in their personalities and devotion to Christ.
If I can get a girl to commit to me, I will wait however long it takes.
There's a difference between settling on being single, and sharing a promise with a girl that you fall in love with online.
I am well equipped to deal with self-control. Jacob waited 7 years for Leah (or was it Rachel?).
I said, "If I have to wait 7 years, I would do it to be with someone that beautiful."
Of course, we're Christians. We don't play the world's game. We don't use attraction as a factor in finding a mate.
Please. <rolls eyes in such an epic way that everyone rolls their eyes at the same time>
I am a man. If I am attracted to a woman physically, so much so that her beauty outshines every other woman I could possibly find in this life with the limited time I have in the youth of my age, I will wait for her.
Sweetie, you can take as looooong as you want. Now that I've found you, I have no problem with waiting anymore.
Not that I've found her. Until I find her, I will face the same uncertainty of singleness that everyone faces. But when I find her, I don't care if she lives in Japan. I will wait however long it takes to work out a sensible and realistic way for us to be together.
I so wanted to believe it. I mean what do you do? You've been alone for 6 years, you do what the bible tells you to do. You're not looking for a wife, so you go to a Christian site for companionship.
And then they showed up.
Physical attraction, beauty that shone through in their personalities and devotion to Christ.
If I can get a girl to commit to me, I will wait however long it takes.
There's a difference between settling on being single, and sharing a promise with a girl that you fall in love with online.
I am well equipped to deal with self-control. Jacob waited 7 years for Leah (or was it Rachel?).
I said, "If I have to wait 7 years, I would do it to be with someone that beautiful."
Of course, we're Christians. We don't play the world's game. We don't use attraction as a factor in finding a mate.
Please. <rolls eyes in such an epic way that everyone rolls their eyes at the same time>
I am a man. If I am attracted to a woman physically, so much so that her beauty outshines every other woman I could possibly find in this life with the limited time I have in the youth of my age, I will wait for her.
Sweetie, you can take as looooong as you want. Now that I've found you, I have no problem with waiting anymore.
Not that I've found her. Until I find her, I will face the same uncertainty of singleness that everyone faces. But when I find her, I don't care if she lives in Japan. I will wait however long it takes to work out a sensible and realistic way for us to be together.
So then how am I going to know?
That's the problem. I'm talking to a lot of girls. I met a girl in church the other day. I might meet another girl at church next week. Who do I pick? I can't just say, "Let's make a commitment."
They're all beautiful and pretty, and fine, and attractive.
They're all quirky and unique.
And most important of all, they love Christ.
It's going to take a while. The right one may not have shown up.
But one of us is going to crack.
I can talk to a girl on the phone for hours never once going into forbidden territory (which I like btw, I've met a nice girl on here who lets me call her all the time and we talk for hours and never stray on any improper topic, because I am a gentleman and know how to be friends with the opposite sex).
But eventually one of us is going to declare our affection for one another.
I don't know what I'll do.
The girl I end up with will just have to really really really want to be in a relationship with me more than all the other girls.
That's who I'm going to pick.
That's the problem. I'm talking to a lot of girls. I met a girl in church the other day. I might meet another girl at church next week. Who do I pick? I can't just say, "Let's make a commitment."
They're all beautiful and pretty, and fine, and attractive.
They're all quirky and unique.
And most important of all, they love Christ.
It's going to take a while. The right one may not have shown up.
But one of us is going to crack.
I can talk to a girl on the phone for hours never once going into forbidden territory (which I like btw, I've met a nice girl on here who lets me call her all the time and we talk for hours and never stray on any improper topic, because I am a gentleman and know how to be friends with the opposite sex).
But eventually one of us is going to declare our affection for one another.
I don't know what I'll do.
The girl I end up with will just have to really really really want to be in a relationship with me more than all the other girls.
That's who I'm going to pick.
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People can be so judgmental so no matter you're being friendly or not people will make assumptions towards you... it's insane... 
When people launch personal criticism upon a believer in Christ, it either carries an ill-informed bias due to their egocentric world, or carries a godly pursuit edifying the saint towards God. It's wise to be tamed now by the Holy Spirit of God, than to face Gehenna. ...just saying.