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Leah09

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Me and my boyfriend broke up 2weeks ago and I have been taking it pretty hard. We dated for a year then he just didn't want it anymore. nope dating is soo hard that he starts dating another girl. yeah feeling pretty rotten. I know I'm only 18 and I have a ton of oppurtunity ahead of me but it's just getting back to being a single girl with tons of possiblity. I know I still have something but I just feel kind of empty right now. I don't know. we were never close. i had an easier time confiding in a wall than him. I know a lot of things. I KNOW IT'S NOT MY FAULT!! IM A GOOD PERSON WHO DESERVES BETTER! but why can't i just believe it in my heart and soul? Oh God, I believe! Help my unbelief!

Broken and Beautiful
Leah
 
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Kendall202

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U deserve better than him!!!

haha thats all I got....=(
 
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Leah09

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aw thanks.
 
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Kendall202

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haha well u told me to reply..so I did :)
 
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Leah09

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really? i did?
 
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Kendall202

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yup u sure did
 
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JDawg

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Hey Leah! Hey hang in there girl! You are so loved by God and you should know that! Dont worry God has got you wrapped in His arms. You are not alone! Besides God already knows who you are going to be with! You just got to trust that He is in control! There is nothing wrong with you. Its God's way of telling you that He has got somebody better for you! So keep your eyes on Him! And stay focused!
Much love!
God Bless

Justin
 
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Leah09

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Thanks to you both! Justin and Kendall :) i feel blessed
 
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Knightjester

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I'm sorry to hear this, I don't know how to express my feeling on this situation, but I'm glad you've broken up with him at the early stages of your relationship, and not in the middle of your marriage. By looking at this case you've learned more about the real person inside him. I know you are hurt and it's so inappropriate to say: "Congratulation! You've just escaped from a big disaster that might occur in the future." But I believe it is.
Cling to God sing worship songs would bring you closer to the LORD - Amen.
 
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Leah09

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I guess I did. =) thanks
 
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Knightjester said:
I'm sorry to hear this, I don't know how to express my feeling on this situation, but I'm glad you've broken up with him at the early stages of your relationship, and not in the middle of your marriage. By looking at this case you've learned more about the real person inside him. I know you are hurt and it's so inappropriate to say: "Congratulation! You've just escaped from a big disaster that might occur in the future." But I believe it is.
Cling to God sing worship songs would bring you closer to the LORD - Amen.
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Great reply knightjester. :)
 
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Leah09

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Ya'll really are right. It's just hard at night to look at the stars. I need to remeber that yes the night is dark and lonely and difficult to see in but there's always light in the stars above. I have been so focused on how dark the night is that I forgot to look up. I know it was the right choice but I guess the fact that I was replaced (yes he is dating another girl already) is like a blow to the gut and jugular in one motion. Thanks Knightjester you are right. Thanks for reminding me that i spared myself more hurt and that God's grace is sufficient. :)



"Though I may not understand all the plans you have for me, my life is in Your hands and through the eyes of faith I can clearly see that God is good."

"There's a bigger picture you can't see. You don't have to change the world, just trust in me. Because I am your Creator and I am working out my plan and through you I will show them I am."

"Great is thy faithfullness! Great is thy faithfullness! Morning by morning, new mercies I see! All I hath needed thy Hand hath provided. Great is thy faithfullness, Lord unto me."

"God will make a way when there seems to be no way. He works in ways we cannot see, He will make a way for me. He will be my Guide. Hold me closely to his side. With love and strength for each new day. He will make a way"
 
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samson

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Hi leah, thinks seems to be not going your way, at this age its does happen.. and why feel sad about what is past. I think you had a good relationship with your BF, but does he understands Love,& careing if not just leave him. We have a good Friend in Jesus who will never leave us or forsake us. His love is unlimited. have a small prayer and see what our God does for you.
bye ....GOD BLESS U
 
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Lady_Karen

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Leah my dear ...

Take it from me A MOM of a 20 YEAR OLD GIRL ... here are a few things about her:

1. She has never had a boyfriend in HIGH SCHOOL
2. Nobody ever took notice of her except to talk with her in HIGH SCHOOL
3. She then got online ... and guess what ?
4. She found someone and he was a wonderful young man ... only problem with this is that ...
5. He is from The Netherlands

Yes ... you heard me he is WAY OVERSEAS and so she can only have WEB CAM DATES and so they were together for almost 6 months & well ... something changed inside of him and he broke it off w/ her & she was HEARTBROKEN ... but the good thing is that they both decided to REMAIN FREINDS and with all of this they have GROWN CLOSER & back in November they celebrated even though they were apart 1 year together. They talk every day via web cam, send cards, e mail, snail mail and all so ... what I am saying is maybe you can still REMAIN FREINDS even if he is going out with another girl.

Also ... I am sure that the Lord has something better for you out there. Do not give up & I will keep you in prayer and if you need a shoulder or someone to talk with ... I am here or at least drop me a note !!

Gotta go ... back later !!!
 
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Leah09

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The friendship part is hard for me because i feel like he gave an inch when i gave a mile. he did so many things that just completely upset me but i was thought it was my lack of tolerance. it wasn't until friends who have high tolerance levels asked me how i put up with him. i just feel like...idk im just trying to keep busy. trying to make him think he meant nothing to me...even though meant the world. i gave too much of myself. i know God has someone out there for me because my sister (22 now) barely dated in high school then got out and dated a few others before settling down with now her husband. they dated for a year, were engaged for a year, and just before their one year wedding anniversary they found out my sister was pregnant. so i know everything can and will work out.
I feel like the father and son when Jesus asked the father if he believed and he said "Yes, I believe. Help my unbelief"
 
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Lady_Karen

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Goood to hear from you Leah ... I will continue to pray for you and like I said if your ever needing a friend to talk with I am here for you !!!
 
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Kenoragirl

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It really is hard to move on after a big breakup! I was engaged and a few months before the wedding, my fiancee broke up with me. But thats ok. I've moved on since and life is really good. I'm enjoying single life and I would have missed so much if I had gotten married. Life is good - even when its bad. God still has His plan in the works and He'll never leave us in the dark when it comes to His will.
 
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MountainOne

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Leah,
You're better off finding out things now rather than later.
Time heals all wounds and
the Lord is always with you to comfort you and direct your paths.
Stay true to Him and you'll find that He has better plans for you.
 
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Topher

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Kenoragirl said:
It really is hard to move on after a big breakup! I was engaged and a few months before the wedding, my fiancee broke up with me. But thats ok. I've moved on since and life is really good. I'm enjoying single life and I would have missed so much if I had gotten married. Life is good - even when its bad. God still has His plan in the works and He'll never leave us in the dark when it comes to His will.
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Whoa! I was in a similar boat, but on the other side (the breakup-er, not the breakup-ee). Take comfort in the fact that stats show that guys actually have a harder time after breakups, because they generally aren't as good at dealing with complex emotions and don't have as good of a support system.

Or just take comfort in the fact that you're totally single now, and can dress all sloppy if you want and tell people you think they're cute.
 
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FixYourWeave

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Leah09 said:
Me and my boyfriend broke up 2weeks ago and I have been taking it pretty hard. We dated for a year then he just didn't want it anymore. nope dating is soo hard that he starts dating another girl. yeah feeling pretty rotten. I know I'm only 18 and I have a ton of oppurtunity ahead of me but it's just getting back to being a single girl with tons of possiblity. I know I still have something but I just feel kind of empty right now. I don't know. we were never close. i had an easier time confiding in a wall than him. I know a lot of things. I KNOW IT'S NOT MY FAULT!! IM A GOOD PERSON WHO DESERVES BETTER! but why can't i just believe it in my heart and soul? Oh God, I believe! Help my unbelief!

Broken and Beautiful
Leah
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certainly your not shocked by your boyfriends behavior, dont worry your only 19 there will be plenty of other walls to talk to
 
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