Has anyone ever used this site/forum to meet someone?

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IBDesmond

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I'm pretty closed minded to the idea of online dating sites and such and such. Ironically I by no means have any negative opinions of those who use them but they're just not for me.

Still, I was wondering if anyone has ever used this site/forum, or IS using this site/forum to perhaps meet someone.

I don't know if that breaks any rules or whatever
 
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StephenH

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No, however I have met a few folk online that I've gotten pretty close to, however they were not Christian so I couldn't let anything go further than friendship.

I wouldn't be totally against meeting someone I met on here in real life, but I'd have to know and trust them pretty/very well before I'd consider it.
 
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arwen83

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It wasn't my intention to meet someone on here, but I did briefly. We both developed feelings for each other over a few months of chatting regularly, and we made efforts to get to know each other outside of cc (on skype, texting, messenger, etc.). It didn't work out for a few reasons; one of them being: he lives in NY, I live in Canada. With anything long distance, communication is important and he found himself caught up in his job and wasn't able to find the time to chat.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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I've met several people from this site but just as friends. In fact, one of my closest friends is from here. We happened to live in the same city so after a few months of chating and emailing and texting, we finally met in person. I've been romantically interested in a few people frrom here but nothing ever came about it for various reasons.
 
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I started coming to CC when I moved to a new state and had not made any new friends or found a church yet. It was never my intention to develop romantic feelings for anyone (and I actually try very hard not to if I'm being perfectly honest :) ), but it has happened a couple of times. When you laugh and share your feelings/thoughts with so many others here, there are bound to be those with whom you make a special connection. It happens. :)
 
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twofeet

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I joined CC last year whilst I was in a relationship. although he was a Christian I was craving deeper fellowship not romance. I found the deeper fellowship I was looking for by making some really good friends and ended the romance. So I guess it all depends on where your at in life. :)
 
Snackersmom

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The singles forum isn't technically a dating site, but I'm not aware of any rules that forbid developing a relationship with another member...that would be pretty hard to prevent ;).

I'm not much for online dating sites, but this is more a place for single Christians to meet and talk, and when you have that many single people together in one place, some pairing off is inevitable. I don't think there's anything wrong with that, provided that you're keeping God first and seeking His will. :)
 
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There have been people who have met on here, a few even married. But the site owner does not want the forums or chat used as a dating site. He disapproves of people on the prowl just to find a mate.
The singles areas on this site are more intended for support and teaching/learning, rather than hooking up.
 
IBDesmond

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Yeh that's what I meant, I wondered if people used this for actively seeking someone and practically selling themselves haha

No I'm no stranger to meeting people off the tinterweb. I think it's healthy to do that tbh rather than keeping both your real life and cyber life completely separate. Obviously you have to have wisdom in that and you have to be safe.

This was literally me just making light hearted conversation. It wasn't me trying to get deep theological insight or whatever hahaha.

im actually on this site to hopefully find a roommate for when I move out in the summer. So far it's not goin well at all haha
 
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Jullianna said:
It was never my intention to develop romantic feelings for anyone (and I actually try very hard not to if I'm being perfectly honest :) ), but it has happened a couple of times.
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I try very hard not to, but I develop crushes somewhat easily. I think this may be due to the fact that I grew up in a tiny town, in a tiny high school where there were literally no Christian guys. The ones in my youth group at the time were either much younger or not serious about their faith. So when I come on here or meet Christian guys, my mind goes "What?? A guy who is serious about their faith? A guy who really loves Christ? AND they have proper grammar? Be still, oh my heart!" :eek:

Aside from that, I think it'd take a lot for me to meet someone from on here, even just casually. I think I'd have to go through different levels: chatting a lot on here first (you can always tell who the more sketchy dudes are because they want to get your Skype info RIGHT AWAY), emailing, then Skyping/phone calls/texting, just to sort of verify they are who they say they are.

ETA: Just to clarify...yes, I really do get that excited about proper grammar/spelling.
 
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adekruif

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Well, I certainly didn't come here looking to get in a relationship but I ended up in one anyways. It all happened so quick and before I knew it we were married, and before I could get some champagne to celly I was divorced. Love is blinding and marriage is an eye opener. <---couldn't be a more true phrase. :p

Seriously though, like others have stated, the site wasn't created for it but you can definitely meet people here.
 
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IBDesmond said:
Yeh that's what I meant, I wondered if people used this for actively seeking someone and practically selling themselves haha

No I'm no stranger to meeting people off the tinterweb. I think it's healthy to do that tbh rather than keeping both your real life and cyber life completely separate. Obviously you have to have wisdom in that and you have to be safe.

This was literally me just making light hearted conversation. It wasn't me trying to get deep theological insight or whatever hahaha.

im actually on this site to hopefully find a roommate for when I move out in the summer. So far it's not goin well at all haha
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Tryin' to find a roommate, huh? :)

I'm sure you already know this, but please be careful.....plenty of people claim to be following Jesus but aren't really....it's impossible to screen every member that joins, and some people come here just looking to take advantage of others. Sad, but it happens.





rachelsedge: Lol, proper grammar, huh? ;)

adekriuf: Have you been making light of the Holy Institution of marriage again? For shame.............;)
 
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adekruif said:
Well, I certainly didn't come here looking to get in a relationship but I ended up in one anyways. It all happened so quick and before I knew it we were married, and before I could get some champagne to celly I was divorced.
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ROFL!!!!! I blame a certain moderator who will not be named... cough cough oncefallen

At least I got half your stuff. :p
 
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violakat

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I thought you weren't naming names.
 
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violakat

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christiancollegegirl said:
I've met several people from this site but just as friends. In fact, one of my closest friends is from here. We happened to live in the same city so after a few months of chating and emailing and texting, we finally met in person. I've been romantically interested in a few people frrom here but nothing ever came about it for various reasons.
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What, I'm not your closest friend. (Goes and pouts in corner.)
 
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arwen83

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I think its fairly easy to begin to develop feelings for people on sites like these. Because it's not shallow; we engage in deep meaningful, funny threads and posts. You get to know people easily, but like I had mentioned in a previous thread, sometimes we can idealize people online, thinking that they are perfect when they aren't. Thats the thing with anything online, we choose how much and how little we decide to show about ourselves. We can portray ourselves however we desire.
 
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adekruif

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rachelsedge said:
I try very hard not to, but I develop crushes somewhat easily. I think this may be due to the fact that I grew up in a tiny town, in a tiny high school where there were literally no Christian guys. The ones in my youth group at the time were either much younger or not serious about their faith. So when I come on here or meet Christian guys, my mind goes "What?? A guy who is serious about their faith? A guy who really loves Christ? AND they have proper grammar? Be still, oh my heart!" :eek:

Aside from that, I think it'd take a lot for me to meet someone from on here, even just casually. I think I'd have to go through different levels: chatting a lot on here first (you can always tell who the more sketchy dudes are because they want to get your Skype info RIGHT AWAY), emailing, then Skyping/phone calls/texting, just to sort of verify they are who they say they are.

ETA: Just to clarify...yes, I really do get that excited about proper grammar/spelling.
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adekriuf: Have you been making light of the Holy Institution of marriage again? For shame.............;)
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I never even proposed so you can't blame me...I thought the mods were more mature? It's not like he even offered counseling when things got a bit rocky. *sigh* :p
 
Snackersmom

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adekruif said:
I never even proposed so you can't blame me...I thought the mods were more mature? It's not like he even offered counseling when things got a bit rocky. *sigh* :p
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"Oncefallen" and "mature" do not go hand-in-hand. He has you fooled. ;)
 
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