Has god ever gave you someone when your lonely?

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MollyConnor

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Yes, in the form of friendships and family. I know during your teens years you really feel emotional and long for someone to be romantic with. I can tell you that it gets easier with time. Just follow God's rules...you know, stay away from any sexual activity until marriage and you should be fine.

Remember that every human has a God shaped hole in their heart. Only God can fill it. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it. Also, what helps me is thinking about how good life is right now. Enjoy the now and don't focus too much on what you don't have. Singles have a special opportunity to serve the Lord in ways couples cannot, but because we singles tend to focus on missing out, we end up serving less! I read that on "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." I recommend you read that book, it's by Joshua Harris.

And maybe when you're serving God at a church or going to missions or camps with the youth...you could find a special girl that you would like to get to know!

Another great book and probably even better is "The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating" by Andy Stanley. He has a series of it too on youtube by the same title.

If you still feel lonely, hang out with us on here. Most of the people on here are great and some of them have helped me get through very tough times. I know we could do the same for you, brother!
 
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As a new believer, really focus on establishing a solid fountain on your Faith in the Lord. Involving yourself romantically too early can be dangerous. Sexual immortality always brings hard consequences, ones maybe you've never considered. Also, in your new life in Christ has so many possibilities! This is where you need to truly die to live, as we say in the faith. Meaning, you let go of all your dreams so you can see which God throws back at you. He gives you the desires of your heart. Then He actually gives them to you. Meaning, many of your natural desires are from Him to begin with. As you surrender them, He will send those that are from Him back. The only way you'll lose out, is by quitting, or hastily stepping out in the flesh. Don't waste your single life. This is the time when you get your direction in life, unhindered as Paul would tell you. As well as, cultivating that real and personal walk with Jesus.

If you get in a relationship too early it could derail God's will for you. Also your focus will be divided. Also, you don't want to be in the situation where your always trying to get your wife board with how the Lord is leading you. Rather, you want to be already aimed to a certain degree and then having the Lord send you someone that will be a suitable helper, as the Bible calls her. You'll both be happier. She is called to submit to your leadership, and help you in your calling. That'll be much harder for her If you both don't have at least similar interests. If you don't have something solid for her get on board with, your likely not going to attract the kind of woman you want.

Finally, you must learn to be happy single. Why? Because happiness comes from the Lord, not another person. People can bring us temporary happiness, but not deep, lasting happiness. If you can't be happy single, believe it or not, you'll not be happy married very long. I've known many people with good and descent spouses that aren't happy. No real particular reason, other than they don't really know. ( their reasons are usually petty) If you have a strong desire to be married, you'll likely be someday. Just stay the coarse, it's worth it. God really does have your best in mind. You'll be glad on the other end that you did.
 
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Galatea

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I would suggest you read "The Sacred Search". It's perfectly natural and normal to want a romantic relationship. Becoming a Christian doesn't change that. YES there is a place in our hearts that only God can fill, YES SOME people are called to be single (actually a very few). Waiting around with a pious attitude of "God will bring her when the time is right" is no good. I was like that for years, at your age until now. But reading this book clicked. The author encourages Christians to "get out there". Go where other Christians are. Do you plan on going to college? Think about going to a Christian college where you'll meet marriage material. Are you going to a church with a big singles group your age? You should. I am not suggesting to go to a church solely to meet girls, but if you are waiting for God to send you a girl, she might come through church. Unless you are called to be a monk or priest, or a single missionary, there's a heck of a good chance that God means for you to be married. He calls it honorable and good. So, there is nothing at all wrong in looking to date and marry a Christian girl.
 
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If you're lonely, don't give up hope...

there's someone out there for everybody.


[video=youtube;_PaAIb_HC2g]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PaAIb_HC2g[/video]
 
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Galatea

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maxwel said:
If you're lonely, don't give up hope...

there's someone out there for everybody.


[video=youtube;_PaAIb_HC2g]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_PaAIb_HC2g[/video]
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So, the moral of the story is plant apple trees. Sounds right.
 
Desdichado

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Just when I got super bored in the forum, I became friends with Maxwel. It's fantastic.
 
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Desdichado said:
As long as he ditches that coffee from his house.

Evil. Atrocious. Ick.
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The reason you don't like my coffee is because you're supposed to add water.

You can't just eat it with a spoon.


I really didn't want to say that in front of everyone.
 
Desdichado

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maxwel said:
The reason you don't like my coffee is because you're supposed to add water.

You can't just eat it with a spoon.


I really didn't want to say that in front of everyone.
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That Gevalia tastes good that way is a testimony to Swedish genius!

Some of us have to have standards to live by.
 
maxwel

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Desdichado said:
That Gevalia tastes good that way is a testimony to Swedish genius!

Some of us have to have standards to live by.
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Luckily we have no standards at my company.


That's why it's so successful.


Standards are so... encumbering.
 
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Jeremiah 16:2 - Thou shalt not take thee a wife, neither shalt thou have sons or daughters in this place

God gave Jeremiah command not to marry or have children and he somehow managed to cope with it. Pray and ask God what purpose does he have with you regarding relationship and remain with faith. I believe few catholics priest take vows of celibacy so the easiest thing to do especially as a male in this sex based world is to focus on putting God above every sin of the flesh.

1 Corinthians‬ 7‬:7‬ - For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

1 Corinthians (7:32-33) - But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

1 Corinthians‬ 7‬:35‬ - And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
 
Desdichado

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I'll seriously answer the OP in an edifying way.

God did send me somebody when I was very, very, very lonely. It was wonderful. I gave everything to her. Everything.

And then she let go of me. It was heartbreaking. World-destroying, even. But it was also good for me, because I needed to learn a valuable lesson.

It isn't my place to agonize over relationships or be lonely. The Lord, in His wisdom, brings people into our lives and out of them. But he demands obedience and closeness with him. For me, that has led to true confidence in what makes me a man.

You may need to go through an experience like this, but I pray you don't. It isn't fun. But heed it as a word of warning- desperation will bring pain either by driving people away to begin with or by making your relationship idle.

Pray for wisdom. :)

And enjoy friends like Maxwel. Because they're super cool.
 
Desdichado

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Here is another pro-tip for your mental stability. Make life 50% romance and 50% bromance or you'll go insane.
 
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