Have to change for a relationship?

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hoss2576 said:
We have all been told "be patient, don't change, you will eventually find someone who will love you for who you are." But really? Does there not come a point in your life where you may have to re-evaluate your personality/character/habits, and say "okay, maybe this just isn't going to work for other people EVEN if I am happy and okay with it."

Even if there is no sin issue involved, do you think there are times we simply have to make changes in our lives if our desire is to be in a relationship, even if in every other aspect we feel content? What is that point if there is one?
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I think 'don't change' refers to compromising who you are in order to get more attention. Such as a woman who dresses modestly and prefers to shouldn't begin to dress in a more showy manner to get noticed more. It goes against who she is and her values and she is not being her true self.
Change is inevitable in life. And we should change and grow naturally. But we should not give up ourselves or our values. Those key important points that define who we are and what we are.
 
Test_F_i_2_Luv

Test_F_i_2_Luv

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hoss2576 said:
We have all been told "be patient, don't change, you will eventually find someone who will love you for who you are." But really? Does there not come a point in your life where you may have to re-evaluate your personality/character/habits, and say "okay, maybe this just isn't going to work for other people EVEN if I am happy and okay with it."

Even if there is no sin issue involved, do you think there are times we simply have to make changes in our lives if our desire is to be in a relationship, even if in every other aspect we feel content? What is that point if there is one?
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Good answers!

I shall keep mine simple!

Consider the fruits of the Spirit. They apply to our daily life and interactions with everyone...and who more-so than our mate? I will always be growing in and will continually be molded to display/demonstrate: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

For some, there may be critical work that needs to be done in one or more areas(fruits) to make them marriage material.

:)
 
Roh_Chris

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CatHerder said:
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I think the quote means to say that if you are in a relationship which is not built on faith, trust and love you may as well be sleeping around.

I know it's a crude way of highlighting the importance of faith, trust and love in a relationship but I think it drives home the point. *shrugs*
 
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monkey_man1983

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stick with who you are and never leave the path you walk down if you end up with someone who only wants to change you the they're not in love with you they want to use you as project when you are a human being with feelings and emotions never change
 
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