How am I supposed to have faith that I'll get a girlfriend if...
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I agree you can be friends with girls, without looking at girls for relationships only. If you do this you are in a sense going after what you want by making those connections but you can still wait for God, to put someone into your life. There is middle ground, you dont have to literally sit and do nothing, God has nothing to work with, if you dont let him.
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Lol I hate to sound nasty but - what gives you the right to think you know better than God? Your only 21 for crying out loud. Your attitude, is "Aww Ive been a good boy.. I want one NOW!!!!" And this is not just once but ever since Ive been on CC Im always seeing your threads on nothing else but whining as to why God wont give you a girlfriend. You know what, you should try something. Theres only so much advice we can give you (which has been the same with every thread you make). Why dont you try something. Try not praying for a girlfriend for once, try praying for stuff you need, like spiritual gifts, or a passion to serve in some field. Maybe your on your knees night a day praying for a girlfriend. God can hear you alright, and if hes not answering your prayers, its cos he probably is trying to give you an alternative. Why arent you trusting God? Your a like a whiney child with a sense of self entitlement who expects a bike before they can even walk. God wants you to grow. Yes females are great to learn with but they do not hand out male ego cookies the way God does. You should be praying for a male mentor who can tell you in person all of this.
STOP WHINING AND START TRUSTING GODS TIMING. And trusting God means being at peace and content with whats going on for you right now knowing that he will deliver one day.
Stop talking and start doing something useful and fulfilling
STOP WHINING AND START TRUSTING GODS TIMING. And trusting God means being at peace and content with whats going on for you right now knowing that he will deliver one day.
Stop talking and start doing something useful and fulfilling
I don't know, I'm starting to think the reason why I'm having such a hard time waiting is that I don't really have any friends that are girls.
Matthew 7:7-11 (New International Version)
Ask, Seek, Knock
7"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. 9"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
I have been asking about them. Diserment for a year or 2, and tounges since September. Still haven't gotten either one yet either...
I already have one.
I have a few at the Bible Study I goto.
I've been waiting on God for 6.5 years. What if God's been the one waiting for me to make moves?
Matthew 7:7-11 (New International Version)
Ask, Seek, Knock
7"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. 9"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
I have been asking about them. Diserment for a year or 2, and tounges since September. Still haven't gotten either one yet either...
I already have one.
I have a few at the Bible Study I goto.
I've been waiting on God for 6.5 years. What if God's been the one waiting for me to make moves?
K
Then why are you moaning to us about it? Go out if you want. Make some female friends, but stop looking at every chick like shes your future wife or you'll freak them all out.
And yes, do ask God, but what about:
"But seek first the kingdon of heaven and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you (and thats just clothes and food). Therefore do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
Meaning start praying and working towards other things other than a girlfriend!
And yes, do ask God, but what about:
"But seek first the kingdon of heaven and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you (and thats just clothes and food). Therefore do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."
Meaning start praying and working towards other things other than a girlfriend!
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Ok. . .first of all it is harder to deal with obsessing about not having a gf when you have female friends, because then there are girls that you get along with that you can't have!!!
Dude!!! that is talking about gifts from God, the most common of which is spiritual gifts. God knows what is best for you and He isn't just going to bow to your wishes.
Hate to say it maybe you are asking to specifically, God knows what gifts you need, again you are trying to put Him in a box to get what you want not what He wants.
You can make the moves all you want, but that doesn't mean that will be the right thing, trust me I thought I new better that to trust God and I ended up with a 4 1/2 year emotionally abusive relationship!!
Dude!!! that is talking about gifts from God, the most common of which is spiritual gifts. God knows what is best for you and He isn't just going to bow to your wishes.
Hate to say it maybe you are asking to specifically, God knows what gifts you need, again you are trying to put Him in a box to get what you want not what He wants.
You can make the moves all you want, but that doesn't mean that will be the right thing, trust me I thought I new better that to trust God and I ended up with a 4 1/2 year emotionally abusive relationship!!
I'm sorry I just cant keep quiet anymore lol. Dothack bro, understand that I wish you the best and totally understand where you are coming from, as I have the same situation as you, and am older than you, and thus has so called "waited" longer than you. I'm not really waiting for anything. Whenever God decides to have me meet a kind sweet intelligent girl, it will happen. So far, what I see, I don't want.
But.... You have made over 9000 threads saying exactly the same thing. Do you seriously just copy and paste whats in your other threads into a new thread every couple of months? Obsessive compulsive I know, but come on man!!! Go read the replies of everyone in the other 459 threads you started on this issue. I doubt anyone is going to say anything new in this one either.
But.... You have made over 9000 threads saying exactly the same thing. Do you seriously just copy and paste whats in your other threads into a new thread every couple of months? Obsessive compulsive I know, but come on man!!! Go read the replies of everyone in the other 459 threads you started on this issue. I doubt anyone is going to say anything new in this one either.
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And also, you been waiting for 6.5 years? Oh go cry me a river thats not that long. Abraham had to wait for a kid til he was over 100 and trust me, as much as he yearned he also got off his butt and was obediant to God. He knew he was going to have a son. He didnt whine. God is not saying no to you having a girlfriend or marrying one day hes just obviously saying just not right now.
Well okay, I am 24. Not only do I have no friends that are girls, I hardly have any friends at all. I don't like people very much because they have betrayed me too many times. How do you think I deal with it? Do you think its easy? I pray about it all the time. I know for sure that I will get married someday, when I get my degree.
You have to look at it differently man. No girls, or even no friends is not the end of the world. You don't need other people, you just need God, he will never betray you. He always understands you. He always loves you. He has a purpose for your life that is greater than yourself. Live for that.
You have to look at it differently man. No girls, or even no friends is not the end of the world. You don't need other people, you just need God, he will never betray you. He always understands you. He always loves you. He has a purpose for your life that is greater than yourself. Live for that.
listen, i have depression too, i dont have the best social skills, i have trouble knowing if i talk too much, dont talk enough, when i am showing signs of being too clingy, being too withdrawn ect. but in the meantime all my friends are dating and and getting married and the ones that are not... lets just say i have trouble holding their atttention.... but in the midst of all my depression and lonleyness issues... i decided to take care of ME first. know what i did? i did stuff i always wanted to do. i got a pen pal, i had mom-daughter nights, i ate what i wanted, got a tattoo, and dyed my hair. i lived the life of a single. and to help even more i examined myself. i realized i dont want kids, and i dont want to get married anytime soon. reasons? i like hogging ALL the balnkets, i hate having to ansewer to anyone, i like hanging out with whoever i want, i like having girls nights without having to ask anyone if i can ( all my married female friends always say"let me ask my husband") and the one thing that truley helped was gettinng a puppy to help with the lonleyness and satisfy my meternal instincts. i tell you now my little kirby attracts more guys than rabbits on a carrot. i am not saying get a dog because it helped me. animals have always been my close friends and i am in the right place in my life to care for a dog. but if you feel you need a constant companion and you can handle the responsibility by all means go to a shelter and get a dog to pamper. my puppy has been my zoloft, and if i didnt have him i dont know where i would be
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Honestly I thnk this is a more common problem then you realize, or maybe you do. But as its been said be friends wiht girls, make connections. God is not telling you that you can't talk to girls, but look at them as sisters, and treat them as friends, dont immediatly go and be like hey will you go out with me...this freaks girls out!! Once your friends God may lead you into a relationship.
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STOP WHINING!!
Trust in GOD and His plan for your life. Instead of being so distraught about not having a girlfriend why don't you ask God that you might understand Him better and His will for your life. I'm not trying to belittle you but seriously, boo hoo. There are so many greater struggles that you could be going through right now than worrying about a girlfriend. If you can't get it off your mind, ask God to relieve of the burden of worrying about a girlfriend all of the time. If you focus on your relationship with the God who created YOU and your future 'girlfriend', then in His time he will give her to you. Maybe stop asking for a girlfriend and ask for contentment in your singleness and growth in your relationship with God, because thats what I perceive as you needing the most.
Trust in GOD and His plan for your life. Instead of being so distraught about not having a girlfriend why don't you ask God that you might understand Him better and His will for your life. I'm not trying to belittle you but seriously, boo hoo. There are so many greater struggles that you could be going through right now than worrying about a girlfriend. If you can't get it off your mind, ask God to relieve of the burden of worrying about a girlfriend all of the time. If you focus on your relationship with the God who created YOU and your future 'girlfriend', then in His time he will give her to you. Maybe stop asking for a girlfriend and ask for contentment in your singleness and growth in your relationship with God, because thats what I perceive as you needing the most.