I've been dating this girl for about a month. We're starting to get pretty serious but she's hesitant about making it official. She says that, if we were to get married, she's not sure I would protect her. Protect her from what? And what can I do to make her feel protected? She has never dated before.
How does a girl feel like her man will "protect" her?
- Thread starter AAAPlus
- Start date
-
Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.
If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!
To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
U
Here's a novel idea. Instead of going on a message board and asking a bunch of people who have never met the girl in question what she wants protection from, perhaps try asking HER directly instead. Going to the person directly.. instead of strangers opinions... it might just be crazy enough to work!
S
very vague statement, yeah you should really ask her. Communication is key to relationships and if your planning on getting married better start doing so. I've only had one gf in my life but communication is what tore us apart. But as far as protection goes I know my future gf/wife will be protected by me as well as ak47, shotgun and handgun. Would teach her to use them and shoot well, unless she already is familiar with guns already haha. Id fight to the death for the one i love.
B
Communication is important and if you talk about it and tell her ...
I wish I had protection as a child and adult but one learns... "toughen up princess"
I also feel like I need protection because I have had much badness upon me and been all alone with it and yes i prayer and turn to God but sometimes to have a friend with you to turn to or a hand to hold or a legal system that actually works......
or also a partner that will stand with you, beside you even if the whole world is against you ...
Just let her know you are with her and you will stand by her and protect her need it be.
She is not alone.
I wish I had protection as a child and adult but one learns... "toughen up princess"
I also feel like I need protection because I have had much badness upon me and been all alone with it and yes i prayer and turn to God but sometimes to have a friend with you to turn to or a hand to hold or a legal system that actually works......
or also a partner that will stand with you, beside you even if the whole world is against you ...
Just let her know you are with her and you will stand by her and protect her need it be.
She is not alone.
Be careful, she might be trying to project you as some kind of a father figure in your relationship.
You might do some digging to see how that relationship was in her childhood, otherwise you might be trying to live up to an expectation that you will never be able to meet.
If there is a problem, she may never trust you or feel protected.
You might do some digging to see how that relationship was in her childhood, otherwise you might be trying to live up to an expectation that you will never be able to meet.
If there is a problem, she may never trust you or feel protected.
J
I agree with Liamson. That seems like a very odd thing to say. You definitely need to find out whether something happened in her past to make her feel this way. It could affect your relationship in other ways.
I've only heard one other woman say something like this and what she meant by it was that her parents had spoiled her and protected her from the real world. She expected to continue to have her way in everything from everyone, as if she was queen of all she surveyed. And when she didn't get her way she threw horrible tantrums like a 5 year old child.
I've only heard one other woman say something like this and what she meant by it was that her parents had spoiled her and protected her from the real world. She expected to continue to have her way in everything from everyone, as if she was queen of all she surveyed. And when she didn't get her way she threw horrible tantrums like a 5 year old child.
G
---
I think it's pretty clear myself, she asked you for protection. Don't even ask her what she means by it, just make up a list of everything you will PROTECT her from - jealous ex's , sticking up for her in awkward social situations, etc., etc.
Seems like a nice thing she asked. And doesn't seem weird question in least bit, to me. Definitely, a 'protection' question is something girl would ask a little ways along in the relationship. It's a SERIOUS question, and, I'm guessing here but I think she is SERIOUSLY liking you .
Time to let her know in words on paper that she can read right before you give her a Sweet Nothing (sugar-free candy) . Then go ahead, the mood is right. And you don't have to say another word more. Go on and....
kiss the girl .
Sha-la-la-la-la, me, oh, my, ...you better be tough here too, as the Lord leads, or as Disney song says, 'He gonna miss the girl.'
I think it's pretty clear myself, she asked you for protection. Don't even ask her what she means by it, just make up a list of everything you will PROTECT her from - jealous ex's , sticking up for her in awkward social situations, etc., etc.
Seems like a nice thing she asked. And doesn't seem weird question in least bit, to me. Definitely, a 'protection' question is something girl would ask a little ways along in the relationship. It's a SERIOUS question, and, I'm guessing here but I think she is SERIOUSLY liking you .
Time to let her know in words on paper that she can read right before you give her a Sweet Nothing (sugar-free candy) . Then go ahead, the mood is right. And you don't have to say another word more. Go on and....
kiss the girl .
Sha-la-la-la-la, me, oh, my, ...you better be tough here too, as the Lord leads, or as Disney song says, 'He gonna miss the girl.'
Last edited by a moderator:
M
It does sound like she has an unresolved issue, you should just ask her straight up what she means. You could try and figure it out, dig into her past and examine her relationships, but you'll find that is road to indirect communication that in itself can and will destroy a relationship, should she be prepared to begin one with you and move past dating.
To be honest it sounds quite immature, a person truly ready for a relationship doesn't make vague statements desgined to confuse to someone they care about, immature people however do this a lot by way of testing the person, they challenge them to prove their worthiness etc..
You can take the test and pass the test but I can assure you that is not a relationship worth having, it is selfish and ultimately you'll just resent her for it and feel like you've wasted a lot of time fighting for something you were never going to get.
To be honest it sounds quite immature, a person truly ready for a relationship doesn't make vague statements desgined to confuse to someone they care about, immature people however do this a lot by way of testing the person, they challenge them to prove their worthiness etc..
You can take the test and pass the test but I can assure you that is not a relationship worth having, it is selfish and ultimately you'll just resent her for it and feel like you've wasted a lot of time fighting for something you were never going to get.