How to get an ideal spouse

[TheAristocat]

What about all you other single people? What are your goals for yourself?

1. Curtail my procrastination.
whoops
2. Attain a 240 lb muscle weight. But it's alright if my future spouse doesn't live up to this one.
3. Stop cursing and find a more appropriate outlet for my frustration. No ideas here yet.
4. Have more of a vested interest in others' interests... even if they're not interesting...
5. Pass the HSK 5
6. Seek out volunteer opportunities for ministry. If in China then change #2 to read, "Avoid skurvy. Don't die from starvation."
7. Avoid jealousy. When I find a woman be a decent person to her. Understand that women are constantly bombarded by men competing for their attention, and that doesn't stop after a relationship starts. I think hobbies and friends are a good distraction from such feelings. Keeps the mind busy.
8. Loosen up.
9. Find out what the bubbles in bubble tea are made of.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

1. Curtail my procrastination.
whoops
2. Attain a 240 lb muscle weight. But it's alright if my future spouse doesn't live up to this one.
3. Stop cursing and find a more appropriate outlet for my frustration. No ideas here yet.
4. Have more of a vested interest in others' interests... even if they're not interesting...
5. Pass the HSK 5
6. Seek out volunteer opportunities for ministry. If in China then change #2 to read, "Avoid skurvy. Don't die from starvation."
7. Avoid jealousy. When I find a woman be a decent person to her. Understand that women are constantly bombarded by men competing for their attention, and that doesn't stop after a relationship starts. I think hobbies and friends are a good distraction from such feelings. Keeps the mind busy.
8. Loosen up.
9. Find out what the bubbles in bubble tea are made of.

I love your list.

 

[coachcj]

Coil, So glad I read your post. Infact, as I explained on these youtube videos, that is one reason many people are still single. They fail to realize that the search for a true lasting relationship never starts outward but inward.

6 Reasons you are still single and How to find your best fit PART 1 - YouTube
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qVAwBoUoYF8

 

[Loveneverfails]

9. Find out what the bubbles in bubble tea are made of.

Tapioca. And happiness.

Congratulations, you are now one step closer to becoming a better you.

 

[sassylady]

Many people have a list of what they want in a spouse. But one needs to pray they become the right person for somebody else rather than ask God for the right person.

 

[Roh_Chris]

1. Travel the world to at least a dozen countries (5 done, so far).
2. Bulk up some more - tip the scales at 160 lbs.
3. Complete a marathon at least once.
4. Score off the list of 'top 10 dishes to eat before you die' (3 done).
5. Do one cross-country trip on a 4x4 with friends or even by myself.
6. Minister in some country which is ravaged by suffering - through RedCross or through some volunteer program.

I think this covers most of my 'things to do before I get married'.

 

[Lonerx1]

I'm still really curious, though, of what your goals for yourself are! No one really answered fully

I know it's easier to make goals for a future, ideal person that may or may not exist, but what about the future ideal you?!

Young Lady, I'm 52 years old and have never been married. I've been close a few times, but still looking. A lot of the problem for me was I was out on the road most of the time driving a rig. But what I've learned over the years, is to make sure you both have the same wants and desires out of life before you jump in. Even though you love that person, you have to be able to be friends too. And a lot of the time, that's where it falls through because after the newness wears off sometimes people find they can't live with the "person" they invisioned them to be. Which causes problems down the road. My goal was to always be there for them, and way to often forgot about me in order to please them. I feel the ideal relationship is God first always, and that should go for the both of you. After that, EACH put forth the best effort to put the others wants and needs up there with your own. No one seems to do that anymore. If you put The Good Lord first, he will show you the way. He can also fix it to where you meet this ideal person right out of the blue!...Romans 8:31 If God be for us, who can be against us?

 

[ThePottersClay]

Good list, sad we don't take any of that in consideration when Hormones are at a high...

 

[Bate]

Haha, Wisebeardman! So you mean that you just live anyway?
People didn't want to type, but they actually have goals too.
But there are some lists which may have got some scaring clauses!

Putting some few down together;
- Living a sociable and approachable life.
- Being humble, that enables one to readily accept advise.
- Live for Christ and a purpose driven life.

I may not make this list longer, but living for Christ and a purpose driven life, inspires most of the other traits of character.

Nice list though, Coil.

 

[Bate]

I had forgot something or I hadn't said something more about this.
There's a mistake we make or something we ignore, that; ''We can never meet or find people (men or women) who are what we want them to be, but we can only pray about it, that they'd be in line or position to accept us for who we are and for us to accept them for who they are!''
God made or created them, to be only and only who they are according to what He wants them to be.(Not you or us).

Therefore, let's seek and not search! But it is fine to keep our desired goals still..

Stay blessed all!

 

[2Thewaters]

Learn how to live being poor without any money...
without food for five months
in total darkness
without electricity or heat
live this time without a cell phone
and stay off internet completly .

Thi will be a life changing event
for everyone

 

[sixtyone]

ive been singel almost 6 yrs, now praying for someone, but ask lord pick him out, most important he truely saved love lord more than anyone, but if he doesnt happen ill be ok singel, isiah 40:31 choose wait on the lord. till then i keep up my serving the lord,psalms 37: 4 . Delight thyself also in the lord' and he shall give thee the deires of thine heart. thank you lord for your precious word, lord you know me well. an i thank you going be for me seaching for my Bose redeemer for me. till then i keep praising you an worshiping you lord. if not lord you are my husband. amen. amen. trusting in the lord, believing all things are possable those who believe, in Jesus Christ.